JWs, what is God's point of view concerning flirting?

Question

What is flirting? If it is wrong why is that? How can we be careful? etc.

Oh, I forgot to write this: ONLY FOR JEHOVAH'S WITNESSES!!!!

Unsilenced Lamb, I prefer to listen to God's point of view, not myself because I am imperfect and make many mistakes. I said this q is for JWs (they are NOT a cult) not for apostates.

Answer 1

Flirting is generally seen as playful, sexual innmuendo etc. Often people engage in it with individuals that they have no real interest in. It's not very kind to perhaps entice the other party into believing you are interested in them when you have no intention of pursuing a relationship with them.

BTW, L4BP: I sincerely appreciate the simple question. Truly. It's nice to have a question asked about our point of view on ... well on anything .... without insults and without preconceived ideas. I think all questions, directed to all faiths should be the same.

Answer 2

I knew a family like that once. They were nice. The ladies were definitely in control. For one woman it gave her the two incomes needed for her to stay home with all the kids. (The kids were bright and well mannered.) For the other it gave her a chance to have a career and know her children were well cared for and loved. I can only guess that they both also loved their husband. He was friendly, an attentive father, hard working and a bit nerdy. Alot of women do go for that kind of guy. If the he was domineering or a Don Juan, I missed it. Both ladies were friends and I believe occasionally lovers...but I am speculating here. They did sew together and cook together. They had similar hobbies, which may have been how they met. From the outside, it looked cozy. One even brought the other two spouses (spice?) their coffee in bed each day. They lived on a farm and it all seemed very sweet. But, it did not last. One of the wives took her kids (they were from a previous relationship) and split. She found another man and decided she liked him better. Perhaps sharing turned out to be too much for her after all. IDK. I do not judge her regardless. The other couple of spice (spouses?) are still together and will probably never try poly again. It is a big risk to take with your hearts and home. I wish it had all worked out and that the moral of the story could have been about love conquering all, but there are alot of practical concerns that love just does not always conquer. Me? I'm too co-dependent for more than one partner. Monogamy has always appealed to me sexually too. I don’t think it is the same for others though and I wish them well.

Answer 3

Flirting may be defined this way: to signal romantic interest when there is no real intention to marry. Humans are complex creatures, so there are no doubt countless ways to flirt, some of them very subtle. (Proverbs 30:18, 19) Hard-and-fast rules, then, cannot really address the matter. Rather, something more elevated is called for—honest self-examination and the conscientious application of Bible principles.
If we are honest with ourselves, most of us have to admit that when we sense that someone of the opposite sex has a romantic interest in us, we feel flattered. That is natural. But flirting in order to elicit such interest—just to give our ego a little boost or to evoke such a response in another could cause pain to the other person. For example, Proverbs 13:12 says: “Expectation postponed is making the heart sick.” If we deliberately flirt with someone, we probably do not know just how that person is affected. He or she may develop expectations about courtship and even an eventual marriage. The ensuing disappointment can be crushing. (Proverbs 18:14) To toy with the feelings of others intentionally is cruel.
To signal romantic interest in a married person—or for a married person to show such interest in someone outside the marriage bond—is wrong. Married Christians do well to remember Jesus’ wise warning about adultery—it begins in the heart. (Matthew 5:28)

Answer 4

Why tempt yourself with something you cannot have?
We only date with a view to marraige & do not attempt to find interested ones, by flirting. Modesty is the key.
There is nothing wrong with two single people showing romantic interest in each other, provided that they are contemplating marriage and that they avoid unclean conduct. (Galatians 5:19-21) Such interest may take place during the early stages of courtship when marriage may still be only a remote possibility. This is not necessarily inappropriate when the intentions are good. Such behavior is not really flirtatious.

What, though, if single people send romantic signals to each other just for amusement? It may seem harmless, since they are unmarried. However, consider the potential for emotional injury. If the flirt’s manner is taken more seriously than intended, it can result in excruciating pain and heartache. How true are the words of Proverbs 13:12: “Expectation postponed is making the heart sick, but the thing desired is a tree of life when it does come”! Even if two people claim to have an understanding that neither one has serious interest in the other—can either of them be certain of what the other is really thinking or feeling? The Bible answers: “The heart is more treacherous than anything else and is desperate. Who can know it?”—Jeremiah 17:9; compare Philippians 2:4.
-from 7-8-98 Awake Article

Answer 5

Yes, flirting is wrong if you are married or if you are single and flirting with someone who is married. Once you have your life partner you should not be trying to tempt someone else.
The only reason to flirt would be for it to lead to other things. And if your flirting causes another to stumble and fall into sin, then you are in for trouble.

If you are single and you are flirting with someone else who is single then there is no harm in that, but you should also keep in mind that sex before marriage is also a sin.

You can be careful by studying your Bible everyday, it will help keep you in the right frame of mind. Also pray a lot, God will guide you in your actions.

Answer 6

I was raised a JW, but I am not anymore so take this or leave it. As far as I remember, flirting is not good, because you are leading someone else on. JW's are only supposed to flirt and date with the interest of getting married, not just playing around with people's feelings. Hope this helps.

Answer 7

He means Jehovah's Witnesses Niv!

Answer 8

Whereas the Bible does not contain laws about everything, it does contain principles that can guide us to God's thinking.

When God made Eve, no flirting was involved. He brought her to Adam and married them.

The Bible does condemn unchaste conduct. Flirting often leads to that. Why take a road to somewhere that it is dangerous to go?

If one has honorable intentions and interest in someone, flirting isn't really necessary.

Answer 9

wayne, that was stupid for you to say. we as Jehovah Witnesses are human just like you and we do know what flirting is. if you are married, you should not flirt with someone who is not your spouse. second, we do have to know what Jehovah God would feel about it because Jehovah is our Father. we don't want to hurt him. flirting with the someone can give the person the wrong idea about you if you are not interested in that person. we should be careful how we act to the other person.

Answer 10

If you are over 50 yrs. old ,you would say come on ,flirt baby flirt,or is that over 40? But then I guess it is wrong,sends out the wrong message!!