I have four bridesmaids and all of them are happy enough to have there hair in buns except one!!?

Question

she is gonna be my sister in-law we're not close and the only reason I asked her was because we wanted her daughter as a bridesmaid. She has been the only one being difficult about it I asked her what she would like and it looked alot like my hairstyle the other bridesmaids agreed and said they didn't like her idea. What should I do please help

one of my bridesmaids is a qualified hairdresser soshe is getting her hair done for free. she is a very spoilt girl. at my engagement party she had just had her baby, as i was greeting guests she pushed by me and said their not here to see you there here to see the baby. This girl has never been told no in her life!

Answer 1

How about picking a different hairstyle? I am going through something similar right now only with my own sister and its about the dresses they will be wearing, everyone else is fine with the choice I make but her( she is also one who needs to be center of attention), so I am picking several different options, all of which will look good together if each girl likes a different one. So why don't you pick out a few different hairstyles, all similar in style but also different. It will make it seem as though she is picking her own style but in all reality you picked it. The less stress the better. I do agree that she shouldn't be wearing any hairstyle close to what you are having.

Answer 2

First off, breathe & you did the right thing by asking her what she would like. In a nice way, try to explain why you wish to have your ladies with a bun & not have something close to your style. Maybe she is concerned with her face or figure. It's not about you, it is really about her insecurity. She might feel she is not included in a lot of things, hence the "wall".

What you can do is (if you haven't settled on your own hair style) is try to take her to the salon & see what the hair stylist would say. Maybe the stylist might have a solution the both of you haven't thought about. And with all respect when I say this, don't tell everyone what you plan to do.. sad if this is a jealousy move, but the more you talk, the more she might feel resentment about the whole wedding & is acting out like a little child.

Just remain calm & have fun planning your big day with your fiance. Remember, the whole event is about the two of you & uniting as one.

Stay blessed. (If you need anything, just give a shout.)

Answer 3

IMO, I'd let her and the other girls wear it how they like.

Is she the maid of honor? Or just a bridesmaid? If she were MOH I'd just let her have her hair like that.

Or, since you say she is so spoilt, she really shouldn't have been asked to be in the wedding party anyway. You could always just say "sorry but its this way or you need to step down" if you want to...

You asked her for the wrong reasons though.

Answer 4

I have been a bridesmaid in three different weddings ~ in the first two I had to wear my hair according to the bride & absolutely hated the way I looked. The same hairstyle does not look good on every woman.

Can her hair be styled in something similar to a bun (hair off the face & shoulders)? Offer her a compromise ~ she doesn't have to wear a bun, but YOU as the bride have the right to veto any hairstyle she chooses that is too similar to yours.

Maybe she will become frustrated & back out of the wedding ~ which may be the best thing, from what you have said of her!

Best of luck to you!!!!!

Answer 5

This theatrical production will be staged, directed, and scripted by you; the star, author, director and producer! Why should someone with as many credits as you have, need to listen to a simpleton who's opinion is worthless?

You are the only one with the right to have an opinion. Grooms, mothers and fathers or any of the other underlings don't count. All they need to do is sit down, hold on, and shut up. If you don't believe me, ask most other brides.

(Not meaning to pick on you as much as some of the other comments you've received. This is just too funny! Sorry....)

Answer 6

I am going to go against what it looks like everyone above me has said and offer you a different option.

This poor mis-guided soul has the overwhelming need to be the center of attraction regardless of the situation. You mentioned that she horned in on your engagement party as an excuse to introduce her baby. How did everyone else react? Did they just blow her off because their used to her selfish behavior? Or did they laugh about her behind her back?

I realize that it's "your day" and you want everything perfect; but there are somethings that are just out of your control. She has decided that she can push your buttons by refusing to go along with hair styles. Trust me, if it wasn't hair styles, it would be who her escort is, or the seating arraignment at the reception, or what order she is in the processional. She will find something to B***h about because she the only way she is happy is by making others miserable. Remember, everyone's eyes will be on YOU. At the reception, evryone will be talking about how gorgeious your dress is, how good the food is, and whether or not the band is good. No one but you will know if she has been a pain in your butt about hair styles.

You are going to have WAY bigger things to stress over between now and your wedding day. Don't give this goofy broad one more second of your time. So long as she doesn't drown herself in baby oil and make herself look homeless, leave her alone. When she is no longer the center of your attention, you will spoil all her fun.

On a final note, keep in mind this is your husbands sister. You will be stuck with her forever. Christmas dinners, 4th of July BBQ's, and so on. She is the family drama queen. All families have one. Kill her with kindness. Put her in charge of something...any little thing. Ask her to set the table where you will light the unity candle. If she feels special for something other than her hair style, she might just come around on her own!

EDIT: I know you have choosen YOUR hair style to complement your veil/head piece. But if there is any other possible style you could do your hair, and keep it a secret, when she shows up with your original style, well it just might be worth the effort on your part!

Answer 7

Ask her why she doesn't want her hair as you picked out. Don't be afraid to ask "do you really not like your hair like this, or are you just consciously being difficult for the sake of being difficult." If she is having her hair done by the same person as your other bridesmaids, you can just tell the hair stylist to do it how you want it and not to listen to her no matter what.

Answer 8

Well if it means alot to you then I would tell her that. If not.. what about half up and half down? Or a loose bun or hair twist? These are alternitives to keep her in but also get the same look of hair being up.
If her hair is short there are hair attachments you can clip in her hair to make it a loose bun
I would flat out ask her what her reason for not liking it is.

Answer 9

It may be your day, but you should honor your bridesmaids individuality. I have been in too many weddings where the bride wanted "cookie cutter" bridesmaids, but my cousin's was different---we all had the same color dress, but got to choose from three different styles so we could all pick the best one to flatter our figures. We all go to style our hair the way we wanted and it was nice. I understand it's your day, but you're not doing this woman any favors by having her in your wedding party---it's the other way around, sweetie!

Answer 10

You could just tell her that she doesn't have to wear her hair in a bun, BUT she cannot wear her hair in the same or similar style to yours. Any other style is fine. If she complains, tell her she is out of the wedding because you don't need her acting like a baby. It's one day and it's YOUR day, not hers.