Guests who over-stay thier welcome?

Question

I am having neighbors over tonight for dinner, Now i like these neighbors but sometimes they over-stay their welcome. I decided to have them over at 4pm today beacuse i don't want them staying late, but they normally always do....We have always gone over thier house, so today is the first time they are coming here. It is a husband and wife and the wife likes to drink alot. We have a full bar in our home which lures them over.

Either way, how would i get them to poiletly leave if they stay past thier welcome without it looking like i am rude?

Answer 1

arrange for someone to ring you at a given time and pretend to make arrangements to pick them up really early the next morning..then speak to your guests and say that you're sorry to curtail the evening but you have to be up at 5 am as a good friend has been let down and needs a lift to the airport. if they drink they won't be up at 5 am to know if you went or not..otherwise tell the truth..if they are rude enough to outstay their welcome just jokingly say I'll have to throw you out now as I must get my beauty sleep..thanks for coming over see you next ... blah blah ....etc

Answer 2

I am in the position of your in-laws. I have two married children and their spouses and children living with us rent free for an indeterminate amount of time. So my thoughts are from the other end of this discussion. I have also stayed with in-laws and have some thoughts on that near the end of my answer. Here are some suggestions: Please keep in mind I don't them, you, or either's situation. Additionally I don't know the age or type of home you are dealing with. Mow the lawn and keep the flowers up. If either parent has some treat they really like, make sure there is always some around. Steal a bill and pay it, garbage, gas, electric or anything of that nature. It should be house related. Clean and organize the garden tool shed. Sunday morning breakfast at a nice breakfast restaurant is great. Detail their car. Rent a pressure washer and work over the drive way and sidewalks. Pick up and plant some plants. Ask questions first to be sure you are getting something they will like. Offer to stand in line for them, such as you might have to do at DMV for a car registration. Don't leave messes around their house. Take them to the zoo. Get them a new toy. Maybe an LCD monitor for their computer. My recommendations are as far flung as I could make them, from free to expensive. I would have to know more about the situation to be more specific. Small things and random acts of kindness would be where I would put my attention. For example, when I retired from the Air Force we stayed with my in-laws. I did two things that my father-in-law would mention sometimes until the day he died. He was a diabetic and liked a particular candy that was diabetic friendly. He always had them in the bowl next to his computer. I made absolutely certain that bowl was never empty. I bought the stuff, hid the bag and topped off his bowl every morning. Second, he had a small workshop in the garage. He had at least ten coffee cans and a box full of random nuts, bolts, washers, screws etc. I bough a dozen transparent plastic boxes with lids. When I was done all that junk (invaluable bits and pieces to a tinkerer) was sorted and organized by type, size, composition or color. What ever method seemed appropriate. I did have to go get six more boxes but you should have seen the smile on his face when I showed him his brand new bench stock. So that's about all I can offer. As a parent what I would like and as a visitor what I have done. If I can help further, and I would be delighted to, I can be reached through my profile. And I have a pet peeve. The washer and dryer. They should never find your clothes there. I go to wash a load of clothes early in the morning and the washer is full, since last evening, and the dryer is full. That means I have to do their work before I can do mine. Oh yeah, I am a guy and I do laundry, all of it, whites, wife's work clothes, my work clothes and I fold and hang stuff too, no kidding.

Answer 3

Instead of trying to figure out a polite way of telling them to leave before a certain hour, I suggest you try the following psychological manipulation trick:

Try not to entertain them too much. Just talk to them about general things such as the weather, traffic etc. If they are the ones who usually dominate the conversation than hide your feelings and try to show as little reaction to what they're saying as possible. And always give them short and dull answers.

If you do all these naturally I'm sure they will leave quite shortly after their arrival. And even though they might think that you are boring they won't consider you a rude host.

Answer 4

Invite them for a set time - you have commitments afterwards, such as the work you brought home, a project that is on a deadline, etc. You need to get up early in the morning. And, you'd rather not discuss it, because, after all, this is your entertainment moment of the day. Wink. And it is so refreshing to share pleasant times and create happy memories during the holidays......

Answer 5

Start to yawn, if that doesn't work, just tell them you are sorry but have to make it an early evening. I can't imagine people staying late if you invited them for 4pm! Serve the food before the woman gets smashed and you are more likely that they will leave sooner also.

Answer 6

I usually start to clean up and indicate that I have to get an early start on the next day for something. If that doesnt help, then I really explain that I apologize, but I really am tired and need to get to sleep. That is certainly not rude when you need your guests to leave. They need to understand that hosting is alot of work and you would like to relax.

Answer 7

It's your home. You don't have to make up excuses. Just tell them thank you for coming, but the evening is over. It's not rude to state the obvious. Since you are the hosts, stop pouring drinks, clean up and get their coats.

Answer 8

say that you have to get up early to return some stuff. when it gets late say wow this was a fun evening, we should do this again some time, they will notic that this is the end of the party and start to leave you wont sound rude, you were just saying how fun this was!! is that a good idea or what?

Answer 9

Why not tell them at the start of the evening you hope they will understand that you will have to end the evening early since you have an early appointment tomorrow. If they will see if you leave home, make it a telephone appointment.

Answer 10

You say this is the first time they are going to your house, is it just gossip that they always overstay their welcome? I don't understand that part, if you have always gone over to their house, its your turn I'd say to make them feel as welcome in your home as they did in theirs, and friends tolerate each other's imperfections, you don't know what they tolerate about you or your wife, because they like being around you, so the little things aren't significant enough to cause a rift, just have fun and enjoy your friends so many people don't have any. Happy Ho! Ho! Ho! to you and yours.