Im 13, and i never had a boyfriend. When i go out, nobody my age up to like 16 even looks at me. Older men do though, i don't get it! i know i look older than i am but not like 20 or something!
I don't like dress like a slut or anything. But it's really weird!
I don't really like it when old men look at me.. should i try and make myself look younger or something? :S
2007-12-16 03:01:29 · 10 answers · asked by Jasmine ;) 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not 20. And i was looking for a serious answer.
2007-12-16 05:30:51 · update #1
Hi 13 year old,
I am very glad you asked this question to all of us. Asking this question may save you years of getting in trouble with the wrong kind of people and the wrong kind of people is any boy more than 1 or 2 years older that you.
Is that you in that picture laying down very seductivily? That is your problem. You are sending out very sexual signals to men that only they would understand.
13 year old boys are not thinking about sex so much. They are thinking about sports, hanging with their friends and having fun. If they are thinking about, it is way too early to be doing it.
You do need to calm things down. No sexy outfits. No make-up. No seductive looks at older guys to try to get their attention. Don't do it!
Two things will happen if you don't take my advice. These guys will ask you out and because you want to be seen as cool (your seductive laying down picture), one day you will accept a date from an older guy.
Because he has more experience with girls, he will try to teach you things you should not know about for several more years. He will hurt you very much if you start having sex at a very young age.
It is a no-win situation. Because you don't know what you are doing or how to protect yourself from getting diseases or pregnant, you could easily get both the first time you have sex with him.
If some guy 17 or 20 thinks your sexy and doesn't think of the results first of being with some young hot girl who wants to have sex with him, if your parents or friends find out, he could go to jail for many, many years and be known as a child sexual offender for the rest of his life.
None of this is good. Please...take your time and dress down. No sexuality so that the boys your age don't get so intimidated around you.
B
2007-12-16 03:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by roatanbruce 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The biggest factor in your situation is the fact that 13 year old boys are immature retards.
But maybe you are taller than they are, maybe they don't find you attractive, maybe there's something about the way you walk and talk that turns them off... With so little information to go on, who can really answer this question?
I have a daughter who is 24 years old, and when she was your age she seemed to be just as concerned about attracting male attention as you are. Unfortunately for her, I didn't allow her to go on a date, or to go out with someone, or to have a boyfriend until she was 16. By then the boys were much more mature, and she began to realize that she didn't have to do anything for them to notice her.
If you were my daughter, I'd make you live by the same rules. Enjoy what's left of your childhood, soon it will be gone forever. You have an entire lifetime ahead of you to be worried about guys and relationships, and right now those things will only keep you from having dreams and from pursuing them.
2007-12-16 03:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 13 so not having a boyfriend is not unusual. I don't understand either though. When I was 13 I was very interested in 13 yr. old girls. Don't worry about it, they will start to notice soon. Actually they probably have. Just at 13, most don't really know what to do or how to approach a girl.
Edit: Sheez, I got suckered into a serious answer. Didn't notice the picture. Probably is a 20 yr. old pulling our collective leg. If not sorry but Roatanbruce has it right.
2007-12-16 03:13:26 · answer #3 · answered by Charles C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm.
I had the same problem when I was your age. The older guys are not interested in you for what you think or feel. They want ego stroking and physical gratification.
Guys your age are still into their individual interests. What I wish I would have done is got more into my own instead of into them. Explore what you love to do and really get into it; sports, books, hobbies, special talents.
As for your looks, go for finding your own personal style. Some of the older men would be interested even if you wore ponytails and knee socks. Forget about them.
Just do you!
2007-12-16 03:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by Tonya P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the boys at your school are stupid because getting with an older woman or what looks like an older woman is a definite plus and they are retarded for not doing it
2007-12-16 03:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by The Genius 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's just a very temporary phase. In due time you will have more than you bargained for. Enjoy your life apart of a relationship for now.
2007-12-16 03:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys your age are immature... its ok they all are until they're like 30 years old. You'll be ok... good luck
2007-12-16 03:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by cutie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes im me holl xoxx
2007-12-16 03:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by soccerplayer359 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mind on school.....Boys will come later!!
2007-12-16 03:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
ur to young don't worry! it'll happen when its supposed to!
2007-12-16 03:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by ....... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋