I personally want to try it.My boyfriend said no but when ever i ask him anything its a no. The truth is I've done before but I want to do it again.He said I cant have two guys because he cant have two girls and I NEVER said that.I dont care if he wants two girls ok I'm game! I always do things for him why wont he do the same? Sould I dump him and get a funner guy or stay with him and just do nothing?Do you think its slutty for me to want two guys?
2007-12-16 02:56:15 · 35 answers · asked by tiffinynb93 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do what makes you happy
2007-12-17 11:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by arthurzanatos 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men are territorial. A guy that will share you with another guy probably doesn't respect you and won't be around for long. Your boyfriend likely is already disturbed by the question because he'll see it as an attack on his manhood - that is to say you aren't "satisfied" by him alone.
If you don't want a committed relationship then that's probably OK but if you do want one you need to thing about it.
I'd also suggest you examine your own feelings. Women are typically monogamists - they may be willing to share their man but they usually don't want two men at the same time (though they might fantasize about such things). Often women that don't feel this way are insecure about themselves for some reason and only believe they have self worth when they are being bedded.
Another issue could be a bit of homophobia. A guy being in bed with another guy even if both are focussed on the girl would still be somewhat disquieting and make some feel like there is a possibility "I might be gay for doing this".
2007-12-16 03:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by Say_What? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been in 3sums before and know what fun they can be. Agree with him that he can have two girls and ask him what girls he would consider. Help him find the girl/s he would like to be in a 3sum with you and he.
Also ask him what guys he wouldn't mind you being with and let him arrange for the guys.....
No you are in no way slutty! I believe you are looking to have fun. Remember this little saying: "Love lasts; Sex washes off"
And to all of you that call it bad down deep you would probably jump at the chance as well. And also to those of you who spout all the Bible verses, before you do so you should know to whom it was written, why it was written, when it was written and not take a verse here and there out of context. It shows me you know nothing about the Bible or no more than some misinformed SS teacher has said. I happen to be a born again Christian and thought as you do until I learned the truth of what the churches were saying and not the Bible.
Go here and learn some truths and you enjoy your selves and have those 3sums soon as you can and you are NOT a slut!
http://www.libchrist.com/bible/contents.html
http://www.libchrist.com/poly/contents.html
http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/index6.html
2007-12-16 03:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are set on sex with 2 guys and your current boyfriend isn't interested in that, then you've got to decide which is more important. Not everyone is into adding playmates to their relationship and I don't think your desire is slutty, but your attitude is immature.
Go forth and play with whomever you want, and/or find yourself a guy who is okay with 'swinging' which it appears is something you are interested in (adding singles or couples to your bedroom).
There's nothing wrong with your current guy not wanting that, but if you two aren't on the same page in that area it will cause issues down the road...sounds like you've got some sexual wild oats yet to sow, so move on.
2007-12-16 03:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, I'm a funner kind of guy ; ) Butt, for reals , U should explore all U want and if he ( your boyfriend ) isn't game then U should move on... No!!!! it does not make U slutty.. unless ur passing it out like candy , then it gets kinda slutty..
Just choose ur guys or tag team wisely.. Be safe of course.
And remember your just exploring your own feelings & pleasures... Not to many women go for it because there afraid of what other people think!? I like sex, but Im not taping it! SO, I know nobody knows my buisness... K
Good luck , You should look me up though!!!
2007-12-16 03:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by itsme 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You really need to address whatever craving you have inside yourself that drives you to need two guys with you for sex. I would suggest counseling to work through these issues and move towards enjoying great sex in a monogamous loving relationship.
Once you go down the road of group sex and swinging, your idea of normality may become so perverted that you'll never again be able to find satisfaction and happiness in a monogamous relationship, and you will find out too late that your life has suddenly become a shallow, slutty tragedy. Do you really want to go there?
2007-12-16 03:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Control this now. From experience it won't work. He may say o.k., but its only to please you. You won't be together much longer as boy friend and girlfriend. Relationships are for two people, not four. If this is the kind of thing you want, you can be sure that it isn't love you are looking for. If you feel you need two men, then he obviously isn't giving you what you need. If you think you should dump him for a funner guy, you are not looking for a loving relationship, but just fun. There are people who live for this kind of sex, find one that gets into it. If I was your boyfriend and you told me you wanted him and another man, I'd of left you.
2007-12-16 03:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by Prudence B 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are absolutely right, Tiffany, to push your BF on this one. There's nothing like a girl receiving pleasure at both ends, or front and back, or just alternating while the last guy is recovering his spunk. Stick to your guns and find a guy who is up for this with you.
2007-12-17 01:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by Isidore Ducasse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY GOODNESS!!!! Well just tell him what you said on here; " I NEVER said that he cant have two girls! " If he still says no after that, then that means he's not confident in himself to go that far just yet. If you still want to do it, then respectfully tell him you're breaking up with him because, you want a threesome and since he doesn't want to be apart of that then it's no sense in staying together anymore when you don't share that common interest. Be careful and God Bless......!
2007-12-16 03:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by 00silky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Martian. I think you should lay it out on the table and tell him it's okay to have two girls. If he still says no, then I think he is warning you in advance that jealousy issues are likely to arise down that road. I also strongly think that you should ask yourself if you can be completely free of envy in one of those situations. Choices like these have a high danger potential. It could **** up your relationship beyond recognition or it could become the best thing that's ever happened to both of you.
2007-12-16 03:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by asylumjn 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Slutty? No, not at all. You are obviously not in love with your boyfriend, and if he refuses to go along with you, you should find someone that will. You might as well get all your sexual fantasies out of your system so when you do find the man right for you, you can stay faithful...unless you find someone that is just like you. Enjoy life =)
2007-12-16 03:05:27 · answer #11 · answered by diva9047 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋