There are reasons for an ex, so you leave them in the past. Any idea about why contacting an ex besides:
- Love: it is gone when the relationship broke
- Emotional attached: time will heals
- Denial: Believe they still love you?
- Unhappy and selfish : If I can not get it, no one can have it..
- Children are involved...
I think I just do not understand why people wants to cause themselves or others so much pains when the relationship is over?
2007-12-16 02:02:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Loneliness, and sometimes nostalgia. After a while, we as humans tend to start forgetting the bad times. This makes the past relationship seem better than it was, especially when compared to having no relationship at all. Or sometimes, if you're unhappy with your current relationship, it's easy to look back on your rosier-than-reality memories of that past relationship, unconsciously comparing it to your current one. Of course, the grass always LOOKS greener on the other side, but it rarely is - otherwise, you'd have never left in the first place (although occasionally, it really is greener, like when people mature and have a different outlook on relationship.)
Good luck!
2007-12-16 02:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if I did not contact my X I would not be getting married this summer. We were together for a year as teenagers but no one else thought we should be together. We stayed friends, dated other people and lost touch but I never stopped thinking about him. Apparently he felt the same. He spent 7 years looking for me and the last 4 I was looking for him too. For 10 years we missed each other and wondered. Now we know.....we were right it was not teenage infatuation.
Sometimes a person just stays with you in your thoughts even though it ended. If you cared about a person and they are not in your life you might always wonder how they are and if they are ok. And just because you didn't work out as a couple why shouldn't you be able to be friends unless it ended really badly. You had to have been friends at one time. My X is coming to my wedding because we are still friends. Yes we have a daughter together but that is part of the reason we are friends!
2007-12-16 02:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by Lee S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....I have my own opinions about such. Though I agree there can be several ulterior motives and hang ups.....there is one that you totally avoided
Many people choose carefully whom they date. Whether the relationship ended good or bad....many people still love (please note not necessarily still "IN LOVE") their exes. These are the people whom you loved, grew, learned and helped make you who you are! Some of my vrey best friends, and the people I truly connect with are ex lovers....and I see no problem in that.
When you have moved on from the relationship, it is possible to be friends...sometimes the very best kind! Even if you pine....sometimes friendship is the best answer. We must remeber that in real love, both members have power to change and leave, and the other must accept that. I have found thattransitioning to friends, is often the best way for me to deal with the loss. I still get the very best of the person....and the parts of them that I loved....just not the intimacy, and sex.....and I can live with that!
2007-12-16 02:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by someguy_in_halifax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its also kind of depends on where the couple left off...the person could be seeing the ex just to confirm to himself/herself that he/she left for the right reason(s)...
2007-12-16 02:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by Lilo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People contact an ex because they want something. What the ulterior motive is, is something that only they know.
2007-12-16 02:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they don't want the relationship to be over.
2007-12-16 02:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋