I have decided to brake up with my fiancee, Its just that he is never there when i need him the most, i cant talk to him about anything any more, but its so ard to tell him because he is the first person i opened my whole life up to, im scared that if i leave him i will be to scared to love again, i used to be so confident and i was fine on my own but now its like i need him and i cant leave him, i give him everything he needs but he never does the same, i have tryed to talk to him many times but it never works he just gets mad and wont listen now its time to show him no more chances i just cant get the guts to do it.
2007-12-16 01:51:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok u r in a sticky situation. do u love him? answer that to urself, then can u live without him forever? is it worth working out? if u answer these truely to urself and still want to break up, then here's what i suggest to do, sit him down in a public place( dinner, etc...) therefore he can't make a scene. then tell him how u r feeling and that u feel he doesnt seem to be that interested because of his actions and now that if from this second on try and help work it out, then he leaves u no choice but to leave.
2007-12-16 01:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its as bad as you say,then it will be best for both of you to break up because it will lead to difficulties later on.I would say that your first option (even though its difficult) is to just sit down with him and have a long talk .Tell him frankly that you are considering breaking up with him before so that he'll hear you out..Also,if you do break up with him,I'm sure that you won't be scared about getting into other relationships because from the way you write,its obvious that you have already thought this fear out.So I don't think it will prove a problem later on.If you have done well by yourself earlier, there's no reason that you won't do fine now.
Good luck!
2007-12-16 10:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by rahbernazir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's 'break' (not brake) and you simply be honest and tell him that you two are no longer a good match and you wish him the best in the future...
...then you move on with your life. Yes, in time you'll be ready to love again (give it time). You don't "need" anyone, but it can be scary being on your own especially after a long relationship.
Hang in there...time in between relationships is typically when we have our best personal growth and become independent and strong again. It's a healthy thing for us, not to allow ourselves to be too dependent on anyone. Always make sure you can take care of you.
Good luck!
2007-12-16 09:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop him!!! If he don't care about your feeling now, he never will. He sounds very self centered. Just another one of those losers that only cares about what he wants and needs. Take it fom me, if hes not there for you now, he NEVER will be. If a guy makes you feel the way you feel, Hes not worth it. Dump him and move on. You can't live a life of trying to change someone, you are not compatible. Yes will will love again. and you'll love yourself better for it. Remember you are # 1.
2007-12-16 10:41:59 · answer #4 · answered by Prudence B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you mean break up. Brakes are for cars. Do it in the most honest way possible, and not over the phone or text message or whatever. Sooner rather than later. It won't get any easier waiting to do it.
2007-12-16 09:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by cashewwalnut 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry you feel this way, but I'm positive you'll feel much better after you talk to him. It would be hard, I know but keeping it inside for too long will hurt even more. Tell him how you feel. Trust your instincts. No one knws how you feel best, but yourself. You know how you feel. But also give yourself a day or two to think about it. Dont rush yourself.
GOOD LUCK! ;)
2007-12-16 09:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think hard before you do this..but if you're serious about it..
Just sit him down and tell him..and don't back down.
You can't marry a man who won't listen to you. The marriage will never work.
2007-12-16 09:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it's break up. Braking is what you do to a car when you want to come to a stop.
Second of all, you just say I'm breaking up with you, you're never here when I need you, goodbye.
Third of all, get counseling.
2007-12-16 09:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well if hes not someone you wanna spend the rest of ur life with like getting married your just gonna have to tell him that you dont think its gonna work out and explain why and try to make him listen
2007-12-16 09:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and tell him everything u just wrote. if he disagrees or says that he does all those things and he doesnt, you need to break up with him, u dont wanna marry a liar. but if he says he will really try, give it some time.
2007-12-16 09:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by miss music 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋