fellow pagans.....?

Question

what do you do to bring yourself out of a depression when you feel as though please no one?
when no matter what you do you just can't get it right?

sorry..i meant when you feel as though you can please no one....

where in that question did i once ask for god or anything from the christian god?

let me say that i am normaly a very happy person.
i love to laugh and make people laugh.
laughter is like music to my ears...

Answer 1

I'm not a fellow pagan, but I would start thinking of the people in my life who accept me just the way I am, no matter how often or how badly I mess up.

Answer 2

I can understand the feeling if not the situation.

You are financially more stable than me but sometimes stability or success has no bearing on satisfaction.

I quit a very successful career on the River working the boats to attend college. I quit that with a 3.9 GPA when I became suicidal over not feeling like I could please anyone.

The thing that stayed with me was the thought of my children.

I do not turn to the Christian God either.

I left the River for various reasons but the lack of time with my kids was the main factor. I left College for the same reason.

Sometimes I just know that even they hate me, then I realize they don't, they are being kids. Their comfort is knowing I will always be there, and mine is knowing that no matter how they hate me at one moment, they will love me more than anything in the next.

The thing that keeps me strong, and helps with my bouts of depression is knowing that no one else really matters except my wife and kids, and no matter what could happen with her and I, I will always be their dad.

You mentioned likeing to laugh..

My kids love nothing better than their big tough daddy acting the fool for them. They know they have a side of me no one else does.

Even if I am not in the mood, screwing around with my kids can always lift my mood if I can remember to not shut them out but go and play around with them.

I don't know if any of this helps, but when I can pull my head out of my a** and focus my priorities, that is where I turn to in order to see why I shouldn't be depressed.

And that is hard sometimes with 4 teens in the house who are almost never satisfied with anything.

But I know, some day they will call me and say their kids are horrible and what should they do, and I will know that it is good to still have my family even thoiugh many other things in my life sucked at times.

That works for me since I cannot give credit to a God and blame to myself.

E-mail me if you want to talk.

Answer 3

I am a religious independent, But what helps with depression is getting stronger spiritually, so that other peoples negative energy will not get the better of you. Meditation on these negative emotions, until they lose their power will help. Mind-body exercise or other exercise will give you a stronger energy field. Eating heathy, and not overindulging will also help. You have to be a little bit of a spiritual warrior in life, and fight to feel positive no matter what struggle life or the people in it put you through. Think of it as an exercise, that overtime will make your spiritual muscles stronger. Take one day at a time, and subtle positive changes will come about.

Answer 4

I head for the bathtub with a Robert Heinlein novel and a big cup of coffee.

For me, the best thing for me to do is get away and re-evaluate. Are my feelings of worthlessness coming from something I have actually *done*, or are they just the blues? If it's something I have done, how can I change what I am doing and/or make up for what I have done? If it's just the blues, I have to accept that all I can do is wait it out, and maybe spend some time alone or with the one who loves me the most.

(I must add that for me "god" does not enter into it. I am a pagan by practice and an atheist by belief -- for me the god/dess(es) are symbolic.)

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Answer 5

Well I certainly don't pray! Pagan is an odd word to use though... I am a humanist. Talking over problems with close friends and family is the way forward. Also some quiet time, paper and pencil..write down what happened (bullet points) and notice at what stage you could have made a better choice. It's also a good idea to apologise to the person who was upset. Sometimes of course, people can be too sensitive and awkward, perhaps it is not you upsetting others...perhaps its them being unkind and judgmental. Good luck.

Answer 6

This happens to me occasionally.

All I can do when that happens is to remind myself that, even if it doesn't feel like it now, everything passes.

And then I dig in until it does.

Sometimes I can speed this up, by doing something that just pleases myself. Turn on some music, and sing at the top of my lungs, or dance without worrying how much rhythm this white chick lacks. Paint one of my watercolors, which no one ever sees, but which give me a great deal of satisfaction. Or write a blistering piece of porn. (I don't know why that works, but it does.)

Answer 7

Don't worry about pleasing others. You are the one to worry about. To thine own self be true. Things will fall into place when you concern yourself with you. Others are getting you down. Don't let them. We let others pressure us and life was not meant to be that way. If you are happy with you, that is all that matters. Nature is a great healer. If the weather is permissible, get out in nature and be healed. Depression has a way of disappearing in nature. Sink your roots deep into mother earth and draw in healing energy. She loves you and will not only help, but heal you, too.

Answer 8

I find that by taking too much notice of what others expect or think isn't healthy for me. So I try not to. I take care of myself as much as I can under the situation that I am in. Concentrate on your own path that is in front of you and let others take care of theirs. Letting them pawn responsibility off on you isn't fair and in the long run harms them and you. Take care my friend. BB.... crone

Answer 9

I do not try to please everyone. That is an impossibility. Just please yourself, you'll be much happier.
And may the Gods be with you.

Answer 10

It's funny how so-called pagans say "Oh, my God" when they are in trouble or hear bad news.