What should i do about my daughter's "my space" page?

Question

I veiwed her page and find it way to sexy. She is 16 has a 5 mo.old daughter i am worried about the attention she is seeking. Should I confront her,if so how? Or just leave it alone?

Answer 1

If you don't talk to her now, it will be too late later. If you think it is too sexy, it probably is, and is likely to attract perverts besides the young men she is probably aiming it at. I doubt she realizes that older men would find her appealing. You should explain how there are many weirdos out "there" and she needs to be careful. Don't go off the deep end with her, just explain it reasonably.

Good luck.

Answer 2

In today's society, a girl who is 16 w/ a child is probably practicing some risky behavior and doing what is required to attract attention that typical 16 year olds should not be attracting. You can confront her but that may not prove most effective. I suggest a two phased approach, 1 - approach her but not in a threatening manner. Tell her a co-worker saw her myspace page and it was a little embarassing. Do not ask her to take it down but rather, tone it down. 2- If she gives you a hard time - call your internet provider and ask them for directions on how to block the myspace site from your router. This second approach will not get rid of her page but it will help prevent her from accessing it. I also think MySpace is good about taking down the pages of minors if you reach out to them as her parent. This is a tough and dangerous one!! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

It's a tough q. But I would talk to her; explain that she could easily attract undesirable attention, as there are alot of crazies on the internet. Tell her to be safe and not give personal info out, and keep the pictures very tame. Calmly tell her that it can be dangerous to seek attention online, and it may be a good idea to find some horror stories to back up your concern. It's important that she know the reality. You never know who's looking at your life! There are so many internet horror stories, and she should be aware of a few. Better she be scared then not be. She's got a baby to be here for too, so its not just herself she need be concerned for. I wouldn't leave it alone. Just nicely show her some horror stories, .....sadly I think they'll be easy to find. It's worth it. Good luck. And pray....=)

Answer 4

Perhaps you should view some of the stories about on-line stalkers. At 16, she should be in high school, not a mom. A lot of teen aged girls seek to be accepted and seek attention, no matter what the outcome is. both of my teens had a My Space, so to watch what they were doing, I got one too. I was appalled by some of the comments all three of received on that site. Talk to her about some more appropriate sites for her to join, like Baby Center or Young Mothers. The social light is going to have to be put on the back burner for now, unless you intend to raise her child.

Answer 5

I really suggest you leave it because 1: she'll have a go at you for viewing her page (it's like if she went on your yahoo awnsers thing and viewed all your probably personal question
2: Well, it's her stuff you know, a lot of other peopl probably have even more sexy things than hers and it really doesnt matter, it's not dangerous just let your daughter be who she wants to be
3: i dont beleive talking to her will change anything, if she has a strong personnality or is rebelious she will just tell you to basicly stay away from her stuff
so in conclusion: DONT, it wont change a thing or even might make it worse

ok i just realised, shes got a five month old child ????!!!
That is just wrong !!! If you had to talk to her, you should have done that while she was pregnant !!! or even before having sex, because having a child at 15, i dont know if you realize but its not very common and not very normal !!!

Answer 6

I think you should have done something a long time ago. She is that young and has an infant.

I think you need to take the internet away from her. And you both need some counseling.

She has a problem and you should have realized that before she got pregnant and you should be concerned about your mothering skills.

If you are a single parent, get counselling - you cant do it all on your own,

Answer 7

confronting your daugther is not the best way...i think u can explain her in more diplomatic way...the most important thing never mention that u had view her sexy profile as it just result the same if u confront her- she will hate and keep away from u!...u may educate her by telling how precious is a child for a mother that fight for life to gave birth, or many other things that will make her understand about life...as a mother u should never confront her!

Answer 8

Theres ALOT of girls that age who think its cool to appear 'skankish' on myspace. It is a shame too because a MAJORITY of those girls end up in trouble.

Id have a talk with your daughter. Tell her that the image shes giving out to people is negative. She really needs to learn that while shes thinking she looks all cute and stuff and even thou some guys may feel the same way, she is just lowering herself down. She may meet some guy, who after seeing her myspace, will think that he can use and abuse her. He'll think that shes 'fast'. You def dont want that either.

If she just goes 'whatever' when you try and talk to her I just say let her figure out on her on. You would think that having a daugher at such a young age would teach her some responsiblity and more self-respect. She is young thou, and she will find out on her own.

Answer 9

I hate to tell you this, but what can you do? She could just make a new one after you had an issue with it. Also having dated girls when I was younger I tend to think girls who have children at such a young age also have tendancies to think they missed out on something and generally seek way to much guy attention. I'm saying this like I said because I have seen it a lot.

Answer 10

16 yrs old 5 mos. old makes her only 15 when she did a little more than "seek" the attention. bit late to be checking her web sites don't ya think. of course you should confront her, you should have 15 months ago!