I am so sad right now. I went to the movies again yesterday and spoke some more with Brandon who works there. Everything was going well until the end, when I saw Brandon with a girl, presumably his girlfriend, talking, laughing, and then walking out of the cinema to his car. I was sitting on the bench in the lobby and he completely ignored me on his way out. I have had a crush on this guy for over a year and now I am completely crushed. One week after I found out his name and where he works, my heart gets ripped out and it hurts so bad. I haven't felt this bad since I was a freshman in high school, when this girl broke up with me to go out with a junior. Ever since then, I have distrusted girls, using them for one thing and one thing only. Over the past three-and-a-half years, I have also started to find some guys attractive... like maybe 1-5%, not enough to be officially classified as gay or bi.
2007-12-15 23:40:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Brandon was perfect in my eyes. So easy on the eyes, so polite and funny, and now I cannot stop thinking about him being with some ho! This sucks! I feel so bad right now and really want to die.
How can I get over what happened yesterday? Should I go to the movies next weekend and hope that his girlfriend is there again. If she is, I will tell her that I saw Brandon talking and flirting with other girls last weekend. Hopefully that causes her to break up with him... then *I* would have the last laugh!
2007-12-15 23:41:21 · update #1
Should I still try to become friends with Brandon and ask him if he wants to hang out with me sometime?
2007-12-15 23:42:10 · update #2
Dude.. if you are mad at him because he's straight and has a girlfriend than there is something wrong with you. You have to be really immature not to be able to get over that, or at least realize that maybe he wasn't gay. Calling her a 'ho' just because he's her girlfriend doesn't help either. This doesn't have anything to do with you being gay, I'm queer myself, so grow the **** up. Not trusting women because one broke up with you also says something, you have problems.
2007-12-15 23:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by Karma Police 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok you have had a crush and this person does not feel the same about you..many of us have been here and done this,Being straight,gay or bi does not effect that we can have crushes on ppl.
By going to the place that this person works you are only goping to prolong how you are feeling....thus making yourself feel worse.
A crush is that a crush when you feel for someone who does not recipricate the same feelings that you have.....wanting this guy to spilt up with his girlfriend because you feel he was flirting with other women aslo indicates this is a crush and certainly not love as we dont want to force ppl to love us but we have forced them to.
Also the fact that you say this guy is perfact in your eyes....also says that the feelings are not reality.
Stay away from the guy and let him have his life until you can just be a friend to him.
2007-12-16 00:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you obsess on a problem, the worse it gets. Buck up, boy. People are not objects to be possessed. They have a choice. It sounds to me like you are working YOURSELF up. Life is difficult with many disappointments, but later down the road you find sticking it out and waiting for other opportunities is very rewarding. Nothing that everyone doesn't go through. Move on, or you will miss real opportunities ahead. Good luck. I hope you figure out who you are because there appears to be some identity problems. You might want to talk to a counselor or therapist.
2007-12-15 23:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not because you broke up with a girl once means you have to distrust them forever
To be real normal, go and look for a girl... one day you'll see a girl even more perfect than Brandon, and who will give you a better and more normal life. There are so many beautiful girls out there!
and you shouldn't hate Brandon for how he is
so either quit on your desire for such relationships or wait till you find a perfect girl
2007-12-16 00:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brandon is residing his existence , you're in basic terms an element of his existence , his pastime isn't particularly with you , be satisfied for his success in with the flexibility to allure to maximum of individuals to his existence , you will do properly to reguard him as in basic terms a chum and placed your love pastimes someplace else, ( hunt a sparkling pal ) women individuals are very giving people who think of roughly others till now themselves , in basic terms very few adult men are , I say follow the persentages , women individuals have extra to furnish interior the long-term , and by making use of the way , the final ones are in seek of adult men such as you ... and don't be superficial ,,,enormously comes out of attempting , and it is love that provides the abuility to verify previous the failings that without a doubt meen so little to the previous guy interior the rocking chair ,
2016-11-03 10:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trusting girls because you got broken up with one? This happens in all relationships, even sometimes when one is married. Just because he's going out with someone now doesn't mean he's going to be with her forever. It gives you time to think up a game plan. Also, don't call her a ho, if he wants to go out with her, you're insulting him, and yourself...If all he likes are "hos" then if you go out with him, aren't you a ho? Just throwing that out there...
2007-12-16 01:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by zbeautifuletdown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sooo, let me get this strait, your strait and you cried all night like a sissy because some dude you barely know might have a girlfriend. You don't even know if he likes man @$$, if he's with a chick your chances of corn holing this guy are very slim to none. Now slap yourself in the face, harder, like you have a pair, HARDER, good. Now get over it you big baby.
2007-12-16 00:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by Dave R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sucide is never the answer.
I've had girls rip my heart out (your case a guy) but I always bounce back.
You probably feel cold and that nothing is right.
Find something that makes you happy and go to that immediently (hobby, people etc)
2007-12-15 23:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by The One and Only 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well life dont always go your way so cheer up and start looking for another man (plenty fish in the sea)
2007-12-15 23:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
*sigh* what a problem dont worry it means shes not for you
god has another girl for you...... pasience is the key.........
dont think about that its time to move on...or you will live for the rest of your life sad just think that shes not good for you ;)
GODSPEED
2007-12-15 23:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by jp s 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋