so my ex girlfriend and i had broken up about two years ago, and weve been talking alot lately about the feelings we have for each other, she says she loves me and misses me and blah blah blah i think i still love her and want to make things up with her. but i was visiting an old friend a couple days ago and he told me that he lost his virginity to her, which i have no problem with what so ever. but then he told me some things she did (not with him) that seemed pretty slutty even though she was young at the time....yeah i knwo that it's in the past, i mean thsi is before we even went out, but i pry wouldn't have gone out with her had i known this. but its really been bothering me and i don't even want to talk to her anymore... am i being immature?
2007-12-15 21:20:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, not really. Your preferences and feeling are how they are. If she did something that turned you off or grossed you out that bad, will you really be able to see past it or forget it?
2007-12-15 21:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by beerme85 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes.
Let's start with, if he told you things she did that were not with him, how does he know? Was he there? Or is it really just gossip and possibly not true? Why are you so willing to believe him without asking her? And unless you've only done the missionary position, you have no right to question what she's done.
Personally, you sound like you might be insecure about whether you're good in bed. If you thought you were, you wouldn't be worried about what experience she's had with other people.
2007-12-16 05:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Chaise,
Are there things in your past that you are not so proud of.. things that you really would rather someone your dating or hoping to date not know about??
I dated someone who had said if I had had a child before we met he never would have asked me out... hmm funny thing.. we are now married.. think of all he would have missed out on..
Her past is just that.. her past.. we all do stupid, immature things when we are young... it's what helps us grow in the responsible.. mature people we are today...
If you really really can't get past what your hearing.. then NO you shouldn't be with her.. simply because you don't love her enough! If you did.. anything she did before meeting you wouldn't matter at all!
Good luck.. Happy Holidays
2007-12-16 05:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by gin_in_mi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
An ex is an ex for a reason. I wouldn't go back. Also, most people like that don't change - especially in just a couple years. You probably need to move on and so does she.
2007-12-16 05:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your right everyone has a past..and they have done things they probably regret theirselves.....people change...she might of been drinking or anything at that time in her life and things change people......though you have to trust and love her to make your relationship work......i am so sorry for many things i have done in the past......can not stand to think about some things myself.........but i am a different person today.........i use to do that about people and find it come back to haunt me.....like it would happen to someone i really love or me and then i understood their actions at that time..........and people are not always truthful about other people either....i do not know the case but if you love her and she acts fine and treats you like she loves you give her a chance.......i am sure you have not always been perfect either.....but it is your decision.........and when you make it you have to live with it......how much do you love her????????
2007-12-16 05:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your being immature. What is done is done, the past is the past, she can't change those things even if she wanted to so it is unfair to judge her on what she did before. It clearly didn't effect your past relationship with her so it seems she is a different person now from the one your friend describes now.
2007-12-16 05:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel, it really sucks, but people do mature and do regret things they did while young but can't change it, and when it comes down to it, when you were young you sucked on your mothers boob so what does your girlfriend think about your past?
2007-12-16 05:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostly you're being very judgmental. It was her past. Measure her by the present and your time spent with her. Do you even know if what the friend says is true? She deserves the benefit of the doubts before you ditch her.
2007-12-16 05:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by GisL4all 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
do what your heart says you should, if u do not want to talk to her, then there's something wrong with that relationship, dont's start it... good luck with your true love in the future...
2007-12-16 05:25:40 · answer #9 · answered by Queen of my Lion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
her past isn't the problem... worry about what she does in the future...
also... you know the whole thing about people who live in glass houses.... what have you done (not necessarily sexually) in life that would turn her off?
2007-12-16 05:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by frankzhere 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋