girllfriend problems please help.?

Question

Ok I'm thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend in 2 weeks. 2 weeks because I'm being nice or very greedy. My question is should I? Well i know it's a stupid question. The reason why is she is very sexual deviant and can be very aggravating.. I just would feel bad because she found out her mom has cancer and more stuff. The main reason is why i wanna break up with her is to protect her. Protect her from me( I have a bad temper) and i have very good control over myself. Im scared i wont one day though and it will be her not someone else.It's almost our 1 year anniversary though ive known her for 4 years. Her family hates me. They dont even know my real name i use a fake one. We are 40mins apart also. What should i do? Plus i do love her i just dont wanna hurt her again. 4 years ago we went out and made her life a living hell. She said she'd hurt herself if i broke up with her so now im scared for her. I dont know what to do. Please help and give some reasoning not just break up...

Answer 1

I've been through this situation recently. My boyfriend had broken up with me because he said I was "too depressing" when it was problems effecting me at home. My parents always fight, and yell at me constantly when I'm not in the wrong. It's very difficult to handle. And having your boyfriend leave you, makes it worse. If I were you, just talk to her about it and ask her if she is aware of how she's making you feel. Don't end it just because you think you want to "save her." It doesn't always work out like that.

Answer 2

By Breaking Up With her you would be making her life better. because like you said your doing this to protect her. im sure she has friends she can turn to about her mum having cancer ect. or you could ask her if you could become good friends? that way you would still be there for her even tho you arn't an item anymore. And theres also a 40 minute distance between you so that probably makes the relationship harder. just take a little more time to think about this and see if you feel any diferent. sit her down and talk to her about it. tell her the truth about your temper. and if shes understanding about it and is there for you , maybe you should give her another chance and see how it goes. on the other hand if shes imature and horrible about it she is NOT Worth having. you need someone you can rely on and takes you for what you are. anyway hope this helps. GOOD LUCK! x

Answer 3

I think that you waiting because of her mom, while it is a nice gesture will not make anything better. You should be honest with her about your decision to break up with her. If you really think she is going to hurt herself or someone else don't be afraid to say something cause if you don't who knows you might hear about her on the news and by then it will be too late. I think you are a really gutsy guy to admit you have an abusive problem and it is very smart of you to get out of a relationship until you get that under-control. Don't feel bad for her cause in the long run you are helping and protecting her. I hope all goes well for the two of you. Don't do anything stupid, Good Luck.

Answer 4

You seem to be quite perplexed at this. I'll help you all I can.
In this case, it is best to end this relationship. If you are in doubt, don't let it persist. If you really love her, how could you let your temper flare up at her? From your explanation, I gather, that she is not interested in you, but your sex, that's it! Try to see that, man! She isn't the one for you. If she really loved you, she, instead of tellin' you she would be hurt at the break-up, would have immediately asked you what your trouble was. You cannot confide to her, even if you could, she won't understand your feelings. Just dump her. I know it's quite hard to break up with a person you've been with for 4 years, but try to see the problem in a new light.
It's about your life, you decide whom to get into a relationship with; not of sex or lust, but of a mutual understanding of each other.

Wish you all the luck, friend! Life's Got Lots!

Answer 5

Holy mother, what a disaster! She has to lie to her family about you?

If you have learned to control your temper, you can continue to do that. If you are unsure, you can get counseling and learn to do it better.

I think you should start telling her now that you are concerned about her sexual deviancy. You should also tell her that you would rather that she not get you anything expensive for Xmas, which is only fair to her. Besides, if you stay for Xmas you stay for New Years, and you'll spend a mint taking her out for that.

I'd express your concern that you are worried about her, especially if she's threatening to hurt herself. Suggest she get counseling, and offer to go with her. Then, start pulling away a little now. Don't call her as often, don't initiate dates, make them shorter. If you're having sex with her, stop it. Start being a friend, supportive and everything, and stop acting like a bf.

Answer 6

Lol firstly why do u fake ur name soz lol but too me thats just damn
secondly love is all that matters just be with her is the best thing u should do if u luv her be with her otherwise u'll never hav a girlfriend thinking that way lol
thirdly family well yeh thats important too but luv is even more so i guess just been with her an try to get along or just ignoring her family if u need to lol!
hope this help u...

Answer 7

There's too many things missing here. Family don't know your name but if they did know your true name they'd hit the roof, huh?

Move on. You are not doing this girl any favors and I don't know why two weeks when you could do it tomorrow. It's plain she's clingy and you are frustrated and don't want to deal. Honey, relationships are messy. If you can't control your temper or your attitude, she doesn't deserve you and you best be going NOW not two weeks from now.

Sheesh.

Answer 8

The reasons seem to be less convincing. Start loving yourself instantly. To do so, you must change your attitude. I appreciate your boldness to accept that you have a bad temper. Why don't you get rid of your bad temper? Let others understand your real attitude and like you. You are born not to have rough moments. Make your moments pleasant and pleasing. And yes, do not break up with your girlfriend. It is better to be loved by someone rather than to love someone. Please her at once and that'll please you forever.

Answer 9

i can understand your problem coz i m in a similar situation.. girls tend to freak out when their boyfriends tell them that they should be apart or not see each other.. i suggest that you should break up with her.. yeah you dont want to but there is no other way out.. you just have to.. otherwise you would be hurting her more than your benefitting her.. so just tell her the reasons and just dont talk to her otherwise she would be in more pain if you continued the contact.. lastly i would just say.. best of luck..

Answer 10

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. But sence you cant be honest with her family, there must be something you are hiding. I think you should break it off. I mean, when it rains it pours. You probably are doing more harm than good.