I have been trying to get the girl im head over heals in love with for the last year and have at times sort of succeded but she wouldnt stay away from her ex who knew how to manipulate her using lies. And he would steal her away from me, has happend 3 times. Well the last time, hurting me wieghted heavy on her mind. Leading to problems in there relationship. I was devestated that she could hurt me over the guy who hurt her so much when i had never hurt her.
Well this is the question, should i date her again? she wised up but she had to learn the hardway. She got pregnant, and he reacted horribly and took off. She came back to me wanting forgiveness, i agreed. She wants to be with me. And i want to give her one last chance. I want to be there for her when she needs support, when she is sick, when she goes into labor, and i want to help her raise the child.(raised my brother basically) I love her so i want to make her happy. And hlp her. But im afraid ill get hurt so should i date her
2007-12-15 20:09:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To clear this up i didnt go back to her she came to me, and we have been close friends since freshmen year in high school. And have watched and helped her deal with her ex's abuse. I can tell she loves me and she has said it . Its just he is all she knew for almost 2 years and she fears loosing him at least as a friend, and he ignores her when they break up so she will become weak and give in.
She needs to just stay away from him as much as possible until she is over him. I dont care if he comes around becuase its his kid but i just dont see him doing that because he is so heartless and evil. What he does to girls is so wrong. He doesnt want anything to d to do with her now.
But i wont treat her kid like an alien, ill try to treat it like my own. And i think im ready to deal with this sort of thing, im very mature for my age which is a factor.
2007-12-15 20:36:27 · update #1
aren't you a sad case of hopeless romanticism
Brace yourself for love then, if you feel so strongly.
2007-12-15 20:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is alot to think about....... I really do belive in giving somone another chance but after reading what you did i do not belive she will stick to just you. I belive what you need to do it stick to the side lines right now. Be there for her no matter what but explain that you just want to start off as a helping freind that is intrested in more but first you want to see what happens. I dont want you to jump in like u have in the past n get hurt again she may have learned the hard way but if she has done it once she can do it again. Im really sorry if that sounds harsh but i think it needed 2 be said
2007-12-15 20:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by Cass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say much about what YOU want, but where are her thoughts? Does she want to be with you because you are willing to help her or because she really wants to be with you? You have the best of intentions, and what sounds like love for her. But what does she feel for you?
Support her decisions, but protect your heart for the time being. See what happens once the baby is born. This little person deserves commitment and if she jumps back and forth between you and her ex, then I would back out before you also love her child.
2007-12-15 20:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I'd go for it. If she gets manipulated that easily I imagine she wants the biological father to raise the child so he might come back and use her for sex again and she would believe he changed his mind and wants to see the baby. This could very easily happen. But if you love her as much as you say do it then. But just make sure you KNOW she wont go back with her ex even if he comes looking for her.
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2016-10-11 09:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her,be with her,but understand that ex may want to see his kid someday,and are you really prepared to raise another man's baby?
2007-12-15 20:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by Babylove 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question this one...I say give her one more chance...let her feel important to you she wouldnt leave then...right =)? However,if she does hurt you...theres always other girls out there =P
2007-12-15 20:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by Delzor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her go for it, but be careful that she is not using u because I'm sorry to say but it appears as if she's using you.
2007-12-15 20:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is everything. Follow your heart, not other people.
2007-12-15 20:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by oh geez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea go ahead!! thats if u love her as much as u say
2007-12-15 20:13:26 · answer #10 · answered by e1ement739 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋