I have been with my bf just at a year now, and i do care alot for him. It is just that we aren't getting along lately we fight everytime we see each other and i feel like a clingy needy gf,
but i think some of it may also be legit. My boyfriend is very insensitive and does not really respond well to relationship problems. i don't know how to take him but i just cannot keep this up. i l ove him sooooo much (ps after a year and we still haven't said it to each other). but i don't know how he feels. and not knowing and having him toy with me and my emotions only hurts worse and worse each time, now i am sitting here crying, and just can't stop. help! i am drowning in my tears!
2007-12-15 17:21:38 · 11 answers · asked by sunshinegirl802 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Girl...if I had a dollar for everytime I've been in that situation!!!
Seriously though, don't you feel that you deserve better than that? Don't you want someone who is going to let you know how much you mean to them and isn't afraid to say it? Open your eyes girl and leave his *** alone!! Sure, you'll hurt at first. But you're hurting now!!! You'll find that special someone that DESERVES you and the love you have to offer. Better yet, you'll find that special someone that puts you on a pedistal and treats you right!!! Let me know how it all works out.
2007-12-15 17:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by Roxanne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just happened to pick the wrong guy for you. One of the worst traits a partner can have is insensitivity. They don`t know or care how the other feels about things and don`t seem to understand or try to see when the other person is hurting. It would be in your best interest to cut this man loose, as you can see what the future would be like if you stay with him. Apparently he doesn`t know what he wants at this point, so don`t keep hanging on to something that can only cause you more pain if you stay. You can do much better, with less effort. Find yourself a real man.
2007-12-16 02:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you two? In High School and still dating after a year? Out of school and he is doing this? It is time for you to either walk away or just come right out and tell him. What have you got to lose? Say, "Hey, you know what, I really think I am in love with you, and I would like to talk to you about it" Let him know if you are able to how it hurts when he ignores your relationship problems. If you guys are having trouble talking now, it only gets more difficult. Look at the big picture, really. Are you in love with who you thought he was in the beginning and are sad over that? or is he doing cruel things so maybe you will break up and he won't have to. ( I had a boyfriend do that to me, ouch) It is not worth the stress in the whole scheme of things, if you care about this one this much, just think how good it will be when you meet someone who treats you with respect and love.
2007-12-16 01:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Suzieq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right. So. I was dating a guy and it was going decently for a long time and then one day I didn't like all this stuff about the relationship and cried nearly every day for like 6 months. Everyone in my life kept asking what was wrong with me. Finally, I couldn't keep it up anymore so I broke it off, even though he didn't want to. That was hard, but let me tell you, I am SO GLAD I DID!!! My current boyfriend is amazing. He never makes me cry like that, and we've been dating 1.7 years. If it's not getting better with your boyfriend, break it off before you realize you wasted a bunch of time on him when you could've been having fun.
2007-12-16 01:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, he doesn't seem like the best guy for you. If his behavior hasn't changed in a year, odds are slim for him suddenly becoming the man you need him to be. Can you really picture being long-term with this guy or do you know in your heart of hearts that he'll never make you truly happy? Think about it. I was in the same situation - wasted years on that guy when my intuition was telling me to let him go because someone better was coming my way. Relationships are supposed to make you happy, not miserable. Otherwise what's the point of dating?
2007-12-16 01:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys need better communication. It wouldn't have gotton to this point if you were able to talk to each other about your feelings. Which being together that long you should definitely be able to do by now. if you're not, it will probably not work out and you shouldn't get yourself so stressed over it. And why aren't you saying you love each other by now if you really do? Talk to him!
2007-12-16 01:30:15 · answer #6 · answered by D.J. 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hon, i'm sorry you are upset.
the truth about life is -- just because we are in love with someone, doesn't mean it's "right" or going to work out.
if your guy is insensitive and argumentative, and if he doesn't want to communicate then perhaps he's not for you.
when we are in a relationship, it's not supposed to be painful.
hugs
2007-12-16 02:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cry.(easy for me to say). What is it that you fight about?
Is it that he does not make you feel loved? Why don't you tell him you love him? what holds you back? Fear? He has never told you he loves you either.. seems like there is a problem, after a yr, you either know it and tell eachother, or u move on.
call him up, right now, girly, and tell him you you love him. See what he says.. maybe he needs to hear it from you.
2007-12-16 01:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by misty488 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I am going through the EXACT same thing right now! Please email me and we can exchange stories and help each other out! Would love to talk!
2007-12-16 01:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbell_pixy24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have an open line of communication with him and he is stomping all over your feelings, your better off alone.
2007-12-16 01:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by indiansbearsandangels 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋