Please help! I am so sick of everything.
People always tell me that I am too nice, that I need to think more about myself, and not care what others think. But I just can't help it...I am sensitive and I always want to make others happy. THIS IS JUST WHO I AM!!!
I feel that dating partners reject me because I am not confident and don't assert myself more. But--no one is perfect so it's hard for me to understand why someone can't love me even though I am insecure.
2007-12-15 16:46:18 · 4 answers · asked by quirkyfunnyone 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm extremely insecure about myself and I used to be a doormat, with people walking all over me, and using me. People tell me I need to take time for myself, take care of myself first, put everything on the back burner to myself. I see it this way if you are as you said sensitive and want to make others happy no one should tell you how to live your life. Being this way does cause a lot of dating partners to reject you b/c they think if you are insecure and always trying to please them and others you will drift away. The thing you need to realize you can be insecure and assert yourself more. Don't ever let people walk all over you just because you want to make them happy, doing that will only make you miserable and depressed. One day I got fed up with people walking all over me and I snapped. I don't let it happen anymore but I am so insecure it is scary. As long as you are happy with who you are it doesn't matter. I would work on the insecurity thing because it can hinder a lot of areas of your life. There is a point where being too nice can be a bad thing. Just don't let others walk all over you, work on the reasons you are insecure, and if making people around you happy makes you happy then do it. It is your life and no one else has to live it but you.
2007-12-15 17:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by Brina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usedt o be just like that and I see where you're coming from but its true you need more self confidence it makes a big difference because there are people out there that will walk all over you!
There is a balance between being nice,caring ...and being walked on!
Walk tall with your head up high ..Youre worth it
2007-12-16 00:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by dawnO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered another of your questions and ...
... well, there are plenty of men who LIKE submissive women.
2007-12-16 04:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im alot like that.. and even though i dont care bout the perosn im dating, im always freakin out bout my bod and if someone says there day was "ok" i atomatically think well wat went wrong so that it wasnt great! can i help!
2007-12-16 00:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋