There's this guy I'm interested in. He's very busy with his PhD and working tons of overtime. We've emailed back and forth and said he was interested in hanging out in the "near future". He's just finished finals. Should I ask him to dinner?
Hanging out with him before I've noticed he's extremely awkward around women. (Not gay) Friends tell me I'd need to make the first move. He's the type a guy with his nose buried in a book. The couple times we've hung out with friends he seemed interested. I'm really out of practice and not used to asking a guy out.
2007-12-15 16:16:55 · 18 answers · asked by kiki_love11 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh hell yes!! inteligent men are SOOO SEXY!! :D be the ONLY thing in his life that will take his nose outa them books.. :D
2007-12-15 16:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by skittle_goddess_2525 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you should ask him to dinner. After all the hard work that he has been through I am sure that he would appreciate a nice meal and a very nice young lady to have it with. He may be awkward but give the poor guy a chance. He sounds like he is just not used to going out much. It is a lot of hard work getting your PhD. I think he will come just to spend the time with you. Good Luck. God Bless.
2007-12-15 16:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by Doodle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one thing guys love to be asked out by women. If you have feelings for the guy and your seriously interested in him why not give him the benefit of the doubt?
Being awkward around women isn't necessarily his fault either, how many women do you know who've played games with guys and then made them feel like *S* or inferior?
The truth be told women often times have no more of a clue of what they want than the man on the moon.
It would be nice and a refreshing surprise for most guys to meet a woman who was just upfront and honest about themselves for a change instead of this childish game they usually play.
2007-12-15 16:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, he is busy with his PhD but that doesn't mean that he doesn't enjoy having somebody. See how the things go but make sure that you know what you are getting yourself into...I mean I don't know what kind of a person you are, but know that if he has a lot to study, don't give him hard time if he can't meet you for a movie or something.
2007-12-15 16:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by ^Blue Rose^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiki,
You are seeing this man in his comfort zone.
Do you like reading, waiting for someone who devotes a lot of time to being in class or studying?
Even if you do ask this guy out, remember, he is a studious type person. Someone with a PhD devotes a lot of time to reading and doing research.
2007-12-15 16:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by earanger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is such a shy guy then maybe you should ask him to dinner. he would appreciate a girl that seems real confident about herself. im sure the whole while he's wanting to make plans with you but maybe he doesnt know how to go about it!!
dont get discouraged if he doesnt instantly try to make a relationship between the two of you ... maybe he's waiting for the proper oppertunity. like when his plate isnt so full!!
i say go for it .. but try and find a time when he's not so pressed for time!!
2007-12-15 16:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by Atheen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it. There are shy guys and now that he's done with his finals he'll have be available. There's no better time. Out of practice? Just be yourself!
2007-12-15 16:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by designated_dave_the_punk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you found a guy that is driven and focused! that is the kind of guy to hang on to! ask him out, see where it goes and just play it by ear. just make sure you give him the space he needs to get his PhD.... youll be glad of it later!
2007-12-15 16:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by Stevie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are really interested in him, then you should definitely ask him out.Be quick or not he will be with his books the rest of his life!
2007-12-15 16:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by sukh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl, if he kinda acts a bit flirty thats kinda weird. i dunno.
but dinner does sound good. you did mean weird by flirty of course right?..but then it sounds like he's a real good worker guy and thats a good sign. because you dont want a lazy man do you? ya, you dont have a lazy man it sounds like. ask him to dinner he probly deserves it.
2007-12-15 16:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by shay m. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him then it is ALWAYS worth your time. If it doesn't work, oh well. But if you don't try than you will never know and that's much worse in my books.
2007-12-15 16:20:01 · answer #11 · answered by Burning Moon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋