Every year my mom asks me what I want for Christmas. Every year I tell her anythng BUT clothes. This is because I have an odd shaped body (big hips, small waist) and I really need to try clothes on. Every year, without fail she buys me clothes and usually she'll buy me some awkward size that isn't even close. So this year, I am pregnant. Mom bought me maternity clothes to be comfy in. I have not seen them yet, but I am sure they won't fit. They never do. After five years of the same thing, I am so frustrated. This year I am going to her house for xmas and I think I might sob when I open them. How can I prevent that? I really don't want to hurt her feelings, and I know she had good intentions. This year I told her that she should just buy stuff for the baby since we don't have anything, or make a donation in my name.
Have you ever recieved a gift that you really hated, and the giver could tell by the look on your face? What did you do? I know I am being a big brat.
2007-12-15 15:53:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I guess the main problem is that this year I think I might just cry, no matter how much I want to smile and say thanks...I love it. Dang pregnancy hormones :0)
2007-12-15 16:10:50 · update #1
I have already dropped many hints about giftcards....or said, "Oh, I really like this bath and body works lotion...wish I had some," etc.
2007-12-15 16:13:04 · update #2
You are already assuming that you aren't going to like the gift before you get it. I know this comes from past experience, but this time just might be different. When your Mom buys clothes, it's not her fault about your body shape. Ask for the receipt or where she got it and take it back and get something that fits. Certainly she can understand something that doesn't fit right? From now on, even if it's not a surprise, go with your Mom so you can try the clothes on. First you must discuss this with her and have a girl's day out! You are pregnant and your hormones are out of whack.......so if you cry................she should understand. She's been there. Give your Mom a break. It's the thought that counts and this can easily be worked out. (see above)
Yes, I think we all have received gifts that we don't like. I graciously accept them and make a big deal anyway. Then if it's not clothing or a relative who will see it.................I re-gift it and give it to someone else. I usually know what someone likes so it isn't that hard for me. I listen to what they are saying. Your Mom needs to listen. She probably knows you need clothes the most. Go out with her and tell her you have to try them on. Look at some baby gifts while you are at it too. Best wishes to you and your Mom. She loves you. I hope you know that!
2007-12-15 16:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have gotten some of the strangest gifts in my life time...
One year when I couldn't tell my friend what I wanted she got me a box of sporks...
I guess I'm such a hard person to shop for that I have learned to just smile and accept whatever it is then figure out if I can return it, regift it, or ebay it later.
Sometimes I just end up putting them in the closet and waiting until "long enough" has passed that I can give it away to charity.
If your mom got you maternity clothes you might be able to find some women in your area to trade with.
If you know where she shops you can trade them out for something that fits...
I have learned the hard way that sometimes you just can't force people to let you choose what you want...
I have never had kids but when my friend's sister got preggers she went online and found a HUGE community of women that wanted to get rid of their maternity stuff and baby stuff that their kids had grown out of...
She not only ended up with more maternity clothes (that fit) that she knew what to do with but she was also able to furnish her whole nursry. The only "strings" attatched were that she pass along the stuff after her child grew out of it.
They HAVE TO HAVE one of these groups in your area... (She is in Phoenix)
Worst case: You donate them.
Best case: You trade them out.
Congratz and Happy Holidays!
2007-12-15 16:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you receive the clothes think of how happy they will make some precious college student who, in the midst of her crisis pregnancy, ends up at her local crisis pregnancy center where she can find resources to parent her child--resources like the maternity clothing you chose to donate to another woman to help her experience the blessing of her baby. I had a friend who was 19, pregnant, 24 weeks along, and planning to abort her baby. She had an appointment and everything. She went to one of these pregnancy centers, and when she saw that they would actually help her provide for her child and herself, she decided on the spot that she did not have to abort. She walked into their maternity closet and picked out a new wardrobe. Because someone was kind enough to donate maternity clothes, she no longer had to wear her too-tight, unbuttoned jeans. I watched her as she looked in the mirror wearing that first maternity dress that she tried on. She fell in love with her baby bump (and her baby) on the spot. Her daughter is 5 now, with a new daddy and a new sister, and she is such a blessing and an angel. We're all so glad she's in the world! So when you open the gifts and you find that you don't like them, smile when you think of that mother who has different taste in clothing and who falls in love with her baby for the first time as she gazes at her belly through the dress that you so lovingly donated. :-)
2007-12-15 16:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by ashli m 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I hate it too, yet now, they have present bags!! So, I in simple terms purchase a team of those, and a team of tissue, and wrap the tissue around the present, stuff it interior the bag, and stuff extra tiisue on right. And upload a posh bow of a few type. I even have been doing this for 2 years now. it incredibly is large! i'm the laziest guy or woman on earth.
2016-10-11 09:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have rec'd the odd gift that I didn't like but I hope that I hid my disappointment.
What about suggesting to your mom that you take a day and go "window shopping" where you can point out some clothes (since she seems to want to buy them for you") and then at least that way you will get clothes what you want.
2007-12-15 16:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by mrmilo02020 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Practice your "grateful face" in the mirror before Christmas morning. Your mom is more important than the gift, so just say thank you. Maybe some year you could ask your mom if the two of you could go shopping together for your gift.
2007-12-15 15:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by DilSe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Donate it To Charity! There are alot of Pregnant Woman that could use them that are single or having it hard. As for your mom just thank her it is the gift that counts. Dont sob because you know you will being doing something good with them.
2007-12-15 15:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by tiff 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is a marvelous American tradition called "regifting." In the case of maternity clothes, they would be a much appreciated donation to any of several, local charities. Since, in your mother's case, it's the thought that counts, thank her for her generosity, on Xmas morning, and demonstrate your generous nature by taking the clothes you don't want to the Salvation Army shelter, Goodwill store, or other agency.
2007-12-15 16:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by Vince M 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend every year my dtr asks me what I want and every year she gives me what she wants me to have. It is hard to pretend you like something when you don't try, your not a brat just a woman who would like a decent gift from her Mom. I finally had to tell my child, while your intentions are great your gift suck LOL. She started laughing and agreed to get me what I asked for. I'm 47 and she was dressing me in clothes she liked. Now she buys me things not clothes, I also take her shopping with her and I show her what I like. So take your Mom shopping and show her what you like.
2007-12-15 16:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by luvsmusiz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Parents can be difficult. Sometimes you just have to take it. Put on a brave face and make the best of it. Next year with more time think of anything that you need. When she asks be ready and say listen mom I could really use _______ . Just fill in the blank.
2007-12-15 15:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋