When I think gentlemen, I think a guy who holds the door open, lets the lady have the right of way, is poilite to her, etc. And I think if a guy is dating someone he should stand when she enters the room. I'm 16 but a bit old fashioned. Can I hope for any guy who is a true gentleman? Would any guys out there consider themselves gentleman? And girls what else do you think a gentleman should do?
2007-12-15 15:51:03 · 7 answers · asked by blairep929 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Your description of a gentlemen is exactly how I have conducted myself with my wife of forty years.
Interestingly enough though when I treated women at work with the same method of "respect" they resented it, thinking that I was not treating them as an equal. They took it as being demeaned. I finally quit opening doors, standing when they entered, allowing them to go first.
I think they were a casualty of over-reaction to the women's lib movement. (a movement in which I was in agreement.)
I remain a gentlemen with my lovely wife.
2007-12-15 16:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there are alot of prince charmings left out there, but I think there are alot of guys who still practice the gentlemens ways a little bit. I get the door held out for me alot or let me go infront of them and i love it! but not everyone does it, and i dont think that every guy who does hold a door open will stand up when a lady enters a room. Its 2007 and times have changed. Many people think its sexist to go back to how it once was. I like my guys to be gentlemen, but not too old fashioned i guess. Any guy that respects a woman and shows it,is a gentleman to me.
2007-12-16 11:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are still some gentlemen around - I always hold open doors, allow Ladies to sit down on the train, bus etc if there are no more seats and I'm occupying one. This is a practise more guys should take up - a little old fashioned traditionalism doesn't hurt anybody.
2007-12-16 12:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by beauthai25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're idea of a gentlemen may be a bit tainted and may differ from others views of what a gentlemen is. Perhaps you should get over yourself and not expect a man to deliver to your every need. Don't get me wrong, I'm all about respecting women, but don't expect this to be done all the time! I've already expressed my love for you, why must I now go out of my way to do such petty favors?
2007-12-16 01:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by Randy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politeness is a matter of consideration. I've dated guys who were ostensibly polite, guys who never let me touch a door handle or pull out my own chair, but who were inconsiderate jerks. To me, it's more important to be with someone who respects my opinions, who thinks about my wellbeing as well as his own, and who treats people respectfully. Those showy niceties, like standing when I come into a room, don't mean as much as being kind to the barista at Starbucks or listening when I talk.
I guess my answer is that it's perfectly possible to find a guy who's as polite as you describe. But I'm not sure whether he opens the door is the thing that matters most. Good luck.
2007-12-16 00:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by July 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
iv met some guys i would definitely consider gentlemen. unfortunately, they also didn't make good boyfriends. it's so hard to find the perfect guy. also, a gentleman should ask a girl how she feeling, if anythings wrong and cheer her up when she's sad and bring her flowers and candy and stuffed animals. all that perfect guys stuff = )
2007-12-16 00:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by It's me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do all the acts you mention above. I remember sitting down at club with about 6 other guys and a few women came to our table to sit with us, nobody but me stood up as they arrived, I found it disrespectful, the other guys found me funny. The true gentleman still exist, but good luck finding him in todays world.
2007-12-16 00:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋