I was being too clingy, how can I fix things(Women/Girls only!)?

Question

Ok, there is a slight issue. I like a girl at my school, and the thing is, now that I have noticed things, I realize that I have been too clingy. You know, Instant Messaging while she is online(or not), talking to her any chance I get, and other annoying stuff. The thing is, I have done this in the past, but the girls I liked, well I got over them, but she is different. I dont know why I keep doing this, but I need to fix things, before the new year preferably. I really like her, and I dont want to ruin this chance. I need help from all sources. I am losing it here, I cant figure out how to fix things. I need some really good advice here. I just want advice, not criticism, so keep the harshness down please. I have even bought her somehting for christmas, but I need the next step in my plan before giving her this gift. I have 6 days to do this before the new year(before school lets out), help me!

Answer 1

Ok, if you are planning on giving her a gift, but you have never actually gone out on a date, please don't give it! It is great that you recognize you have been too clingy, but the un-justified gift-giving is another sign of the same thing. This is not something you are going to cure overnight! Too much, too soon; it will scare her off, if she is nowhere near in the same place that you are. Ppl smell desperation like a whiff of skunk juice on a calm summer night - it travels far, it lasts a long time, and it is overpoweringly bad. Being clingy is a real turn-off, and it is a sign of desperation. Ppl are attracted to confidence. You probably like her better, so you are more motivated to see what you are doing, which is good - but to relax, you need to realize that your life isn't going to be lived in the next 5 minutes, so you need to B-r-e-a-t-h-e, slow down, and t-h-i-n-k carefully before you just rush in to do something. Have a mantra you can keep repeating in your head to calm yourself down and focus. If you "try" to hard, you will be bound to fail, just relax and be yourself. Hope this helps!