Everytime i am on here i see people asking very rudely why women have kids. Then proceed to put lower class women down for wanting a child. Does the amount of money someone has change the fact that having a child is a wounderfull thing. Just because someone is not rich they should miss out on that?
2007-12-15 14:22:36 · 10 answers · asked by ouch!! 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i agree with you....i am not rich that's for sure but i am not really poor either i have a little boy and i want another one...i love my son and could love another baby just as much. you no really i have never really found it that expensive. when i got pregnant i had people telling me to give it up because...i was the only one working making 8 dollars an hour ( where i live that's not alto just to live probably you gotta be making at least 12) my bf was in school ( doing welding) and we were living in a basement that was horrible....it was a dungeon. but we made it threw my bf got a good paying job making 22 dollars an hour and then i went on leave...now were both working him making 25 and me 14...we made it threw the first month no problem with the little money we had we just budgeted really really well. i wish some people would realize sometimes having the baby makes you change and get a better paying job or go to school for a degree. ill be going back in September to do photography.......
2007-12-15 15:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by mommy to 3! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I haven't seen no examples of that but no, money shouldn't be a factor. Having a child is a beautiful thing, but I would suggest doing it under the direction of 2 parents or at least wonderful grandparents. I hate to hear about things going on like that. I didn't have no money, no job when I had my 11 month old. All I had was the support of both families and that's all a child needs, love because when you have love things like pampers, milk, and clothes will fall into place.
2007-12-15 22:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, believe me I asked a question, you know asking for advice and people started to read my file and bring my past up and rub it into my face.
Having a child is the greatest thing ever, I have two beautiful kids and I am not rich but I can give them more than what money can give them and that is love.
2007-12-15 22:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by love to ask questions 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way! I agree with you. I have never seen a question like that on here but if there is one then I think that is very wrong!
Perhaps they just meant that some woman cant even provide for themselves let alone a child. But, if you are poor but are ready i say go for it!
2007-12-15 22:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
those kinds of people were raised to appreciate material possessions, not family. ask them, they can tell you how much they spend on daycare, and how much they are spending for Christmas, but can they tell you the exact day and time that their child first crawled? (august 28th 5:13 p.m.) or when they first smiled ?(April 28th 10:32 p.m.) i don't think so. they are the people who spent hundreds of dollars getting abortions when they were in high school and college because daddy's money would never be enough to take care of a baby, and pay for all of the friends they have. you know, it doesn't even matter. all i know is, i went to walmart earlier tonight, where i used my last $20 to get diapers and a toy for Christmas. i drove a beat up station wagon that i bought for $500. the e-brake doesn't work, and the battery dies, but it does run. i put my daughter in a hand-me-down car seat that my neighbor gave me. except for a couple of scratches and stains, it's still safe. i then brought her home, and fed her the baby food that i bought a few days ago with my food stamps. they were on sale for 39 cents a jar. i then gave her a bath, using the generic brand "parents choice" of baby wash and shampoo. after that, i put her in her crib that i saved for 7 months to buy. it cost $179 on sale at walmart. but, just before she fell asleep, she looked up at me, her eyes full of wonder and innocence, and gave me that beautiful grin that makes my heart melt everytime i see it. i gave her a kiss, rubbed her cheek, sang her a lullaby, and watched her drift off to sleep. that's what matters. nothing else.
2007-12-15 23:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by lizbriolly's mommy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that the putdown concerns the poor wanting to have a child. It is the single mothers who conceive and have to be supported on welfare. It is even worse when the same female conceives again with no visible male support.The system pays her a fair months assistance and more for the second baby. So who is paying for her mistakes? That is what gripes so many people, many honest ,poor, working people included.
2007-12-15 22:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by googie 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you on the fact we should be supporting each other. If you can't say something nice - then don't answer!
However - I do believe that if can't afford to have a child and take care of it then you shouldn't get pregnant.
2007-12-15 22:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by Beth 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess they sort of are looking out for the woman. If a woman doesn't have enough money to support a kid, then what?
2007-12-15 22:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by total_eclipse_of_the_sun 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i must agree. there are so many different people on here. Most are nice but some are very rude.
2007-12-15 22:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because this web site attracts many people who are socially handicapped. They have no friends, so they stay at home and anonymously insult people to build themselves up. Thank you and good day.
2007-12-15 22:41:18 · answer #10 · answered by Lori 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋