ok i used to be loud, funny, and perverted according to all of my friends.. now theyre saying that im quiet, boring, and mature.. EXACT OPPOSITES!! idk wussup.. when i go out wit hang wit my friends, if theres people i dont know like new people that i could meet im shy and i dont talk at all!! i used to have no problem!! every time i try to be funny and crack a joke most of the time no1 laughs!! and i dont know bout the perverted thing but i keep it inside now.. i used to be so outgoing and idk what happened i didnt want this to happen but it just did and its making me mad and causing me to lose friends and causing me to have a hard time making new ones.. how can i be more social cuz im losing it here and can you guys tell me what you say when you meet someone new cuz im jus like this -_-.......... thanks
2007-12-15 14:12:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are losing confidence...you need to get that back. You said people didn't laugh at one of your jokes and that may have made you feel bad THEN....but in reality, we can all tell jokes and they may not go over well.....but that's OKAY. What you do tomorrow is walk around with you head held high and smile and say hi to alll you see....seriously, you'll get it back again. It doesn't even matter how old you are -- this kind of thing happens to people of all ages. Hang in there and SMILE (even when you don't feel like it -- it will be addictive to others and it will be automatic to YOU).
2007-12-15 14:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're growing up. A person's personality changes as they get older and wiser. Perhaps, you need to socialize with more sophisticated people. People who can teach you something new. Not just people that are or were comfortable to be around. I don't think this is a bad thing at all. I have become more reserved in public than I used to be, and it makes new people think I'm mysterious. Once you get to know me though, I'm very forward and outgoing. When I meet someone new I usually just say nice to meet you-what do you do & try to see if we have anything in common at all. You could always give a compliment like, nice shirt, what perfume is that-cologne is that. Or ask a question-what time is it, do you know where such & such is. Good luck.
2007-12-15 14:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by Alisha J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be one or two things going on. Maybe you are growing up and maturing. You have outgrown a certain loud-mouth wise-a*ss style and become more thoughtful and concerned about what people think of you. I don't think anyone goes from life of the party to wall-flower over night....
Or you could be getting a "complex" because of all the comments so it is causing you to clam-up or become self-concious. Could be "you" that is actually initiating the change. Try to ignore what they say and just be yourself...don't worry about what anyone thinks.
2007-12-15 14:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im just like u. today I went to help out at soup kitchen and remain quiet for the day cause I knew no one. I think u have grown up. its not bad or good. its who u are. u cant be the same person u were 2 or 3 years ago. if ur losing friends its because ur being too hard on urself and if dont talk to them anymore and ur not as social as before u might be devolping social anxiety
2007-12-15 14:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're growing up, maturing, nothing wrong with that!
2007-12-15 14:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by msraina888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would laugh at your jokes
2007-12-15 14:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by :: tomi :: 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont constantly try to be funny. calm down once in a while...
2007-12-15 14:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by katie! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be yourself and don't worry what you think you need to be.
2007-12-15 14:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋