if a girl doesn't say thank you when you let her through the door first what does it mean?

Answer 1

She's rude.

Answer 2

There are several possibilities:

1. She takes it for granted,
2. She was distracted,
3. She's the silent type,
4. She's in a really bad mood,
5. She's one of those feminists who believes that men shouldn't hold doors open for women, but thinks that saying nothing is better that saying "I can get my own damn door, thank you" (which is true, as long as she doesn't express the same thing by giving you a dirty look).

Answer 3

My take on that is that she must think it is expected. Perhaps it is a wiser thing to ask if maybe her mind was somewhere else, or maybe she was having a bad day etc. Are you always nice and mind your P's and Q's? One should always show appreciation towards someone going out of their way and never expect it even when one is having a "not thinking properly moment". One can always say thank you out of habit when someone is nice and you dont feel like returning it with a thank you -- that is when you *should* do it more than ever. Period. However, having compassion means one must consider what others are going through before jumping to conclusions but make sure if it happens again that you now understand how she really is.

Answer 4

1. she's rude
or
2, she's preoccupied with thinking of something else and didn't really clue in to what was being done
or
3. she's a princess and just expects it
or
4. she's bitter because people never say thanks to her when she keeps the door open for others

If you know her and you were talking while you opened the door - she was preoccupied chatting with you. If it was a first date, she might be kinda preoccupied too, being shy and a little stressed. If she's nice and considerate in all other situations, give her the benefit of the doubt and chalk it up to being preoccupied.

Answer 5

Initially, as a mental health professional with 20+ years experience, now retired, I was going to say it can mean as many different things as there are women who do it, but, after a brief moment of reflection, I must say that, as I recall holding doors open for women, and men alike, I am always alert to say "thank you" when such is done for me, and to be aware when someone, male or female, doesn't say "thank you" to me. That being recognized in myself, I'd have to agree with "Andy" and "Dart Swinger" and "your friend" in their assessments of the woman in question. Of course, I'd have my own explitives to add, but their's sound good. I do remember one day, several years ago, that I decided, as I was finished paying for my gasoline at a convenience store and headed out the glass door, and seeing two women, in their 30's or 40's, talking as they approached the doors to come in, that I would NOT hold the door open for them and that I would go through the door first even though the timing put all three of us at the door at the same time. As I went through the doors, not stopping for them and not holding the doors open for them, I heard them stop and somewhat step back as they uttered their "shock" and dismay that a man didn't give them preference of any sort when we went through the doors. I felt like turning completely around and shooting them the finger and tell them that "b-tc**s" such as them needed an awakening to the realities of this "equal" world they so wanted between the genders, but, I kept my cool, and just had a private laugh at their "shocking" reaction and the reality I got to teach them. They may have thought I was just a rude jerk, but that's okay with me. They saw reality "in the face". God Bless you.

Answer 6

That she expects everything to be given to her and she's high maintenance. In short, she's a stuck up snob.

And yes, I say thank you for every little thing someone does for me. I say thank you when someone holds the door open for me, even when I'm in a rush or having a bad day (hey, it's not their fault) regardless if I know them or not, I say excuse me when walking in front of someone who's looking at something on a shelf in the store, and I say sorry when I accidentally bump into someone. It's just good manners, something most of you obviously lack.

Answer 7

well if you only held the door open to hear her say thank you that means you didnt really care about her, just that she thinks that your a gentleman

Answer 8

It could mean that the boogey monster on the other side has ripped her head off, and she is therefore incapable of responding.

That's why I always let the lady go through first. Just in case ;-)

Answer 9

it doesn't mean anything. don't be quick to draw conclusions about any situation. you just can't say she is rude because she didn't say thank you. you should always look at the situation first before personality. for example, she was probably in a bad mood when you saw her or she was in a hurry.
this errors we make is called fundamental attribution errors.

Answer 10

It could be that she feels that this is something that should be done and something she shouldn't have to thank you for. Therefore, she may not even realize the fact that you are a gentleman, and that there are many guys who aren't.

Answer 11

Either she's inconsiderate -OR- (and this occasionally happens to me) she's got a million things on her mind and for whatever reason misses that important "hey thanks for holding the door open."