I'm really self-centered and even though I try not to be, everyone still thinks i am. Especially my mom. But then again she points out all my flaws and yells at me for them. Can you help?
2007-12-15 13:25:49 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm an only child
2007-12-15 13:34:11 · update #1
And i cant live by myself, im still a minor
2007-12-15 13:35:30 · update #2
Don't think about what anyone else thinks. LOL No seriously if you look at all the answers they are telling you to do things that ultimately mean working on YOU. Isn't that still being self centered?
Darling there is nothing wrong with you and i wouldn't change YOU for anyone or anything else in the world. If people cannot accept you for who you are then so be it.
Having a strong Ego is very important in todays society and like you said you have your Mom to point out where you are going wrong. Listen to your Mom and follow her instruction and work on your faults. Keep loving yourself and "simply" love others.
I have no doubt in my mind you love other people and that my friend is what life is all about and therefore you TRULY are NOT self centered you simply have a strong ego.
2007-12-15 13:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by LM 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I work about 2-3 hours a week at an animal shelter, and it's by far the most mentally healthy thing I manage to do. Similar to you, I can be extremely self centered. But when I get done with my shelter duty, I understand I'm a tiny piece of the whole puzzle, and nothing more.
2007-12-15 13:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Jesus centeredness. Focus on reading the books after John and before Revelation in the New Testament of the Bible in the New Life Version of the Bible. Let me know how you are doing. Your Mom is concerned about you. She knows shes not as powerful as you used to think she is. She needs you to come out and grow beyond what she can arrange for you without you being an active part of things. Even Jesus needed to obey his folks and take classes from John the Baptist after all. Kids who visit emergency wards with faith based groups to encourage patients who got busted up are much less likely to do foolish things like cross roads without care or crazy skateboarding. You aren't indestructible. Mom knows better than you.
2007-12-15 13:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Insecurity brings about self centering. If you felt safe meeting tons of people you would be a good mixer. You can't mix because you seem to sense you are different. You are an outsider is all. Yes the players will be nice for a while but they can be nasty too and they stand in a group whereas you are an army of one. I think you can do a little pretending to impress your boss. You need to be able to act in life . You seem to be brave enough to ask us for help.
2007-12-15 13:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think u have to think about ur actitudesthat u did against ur Family, Friends and maybe the people that u love more... I think is a mental sickness and the cure is workingwith people without posibilities to live, poor people. I am sure that u will see what is the diference between u and these people..
good Luck, have a good and peacefull Xmas
2007-12-15 13:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sebchvr 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you the only child and always get the attention anyways, or do you have siblings where you are always trying to get attention? Well if she keeps pointing flaws you are going to get more defensive and will seem more self centered.
2007-12-15 13:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There really isn't a cure. Try volunteering at some local places, like animal shelters, missions, churches. Places like that. Doing stuff for other people may help.
2007-12-15 13:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by Tammy_Suto 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes a parent criticizes the very behavior you NEED TO PRACTICE in order to grow up. You become independent of parents eventually, which can create crticism. Perhaps this comes from separation anxiety. Most parents (I hope) celebrate their children's growth. Rather than criticize a pattern, parents let's model and ask for the behavior we need from our children--while we do a good job of taking care of our own needs. A cure from self-centeredness: a relationship with the Lord, treating others as you want to be treated. Accept none of us will ever fully please another person by our own efforts. :)
2014-12-13 08:37:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isn't one. although you could try thinking of other people in situations, like "what is THIS person thinking because I said this" if the answer to the question is a bad one, then apologize, honestly though, if your friends can't accept you in all of your self-centered-ness than maybe they aren't you true friends...or maybe they are and you just shouldn't listen to me.
2007-12-16 00:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by onecrazycookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is something ongoing that really interferes with a person's life, going into counseling is likely the best way to manage it.
2016-05-24 03:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋