My bff Sophie is friends with this boy that I kinda know, but not as well as she knows him. They have been friends since day-care, and we're now 13.
He always had a few social problems (he switched skools because ppl teased him so much), but she really seems to have hung onto his friendship. It is very important to her that this stays a friendship. He, on the other hand, has made it very clear that he likes her, and has told me on numerous ocasions to tell her, and I did, but she has always responded negatively and says she thinks of him as more of a brother. Not wanting to be the bearer of bad news, I told him that she was undecided.
It has been 4 months, and he is still asking about it, and I have tried to put him off, but he's getting impatient, and has been calling Sophie 24/7 to try and invite her places. She is always "not at home" when this happens.
I feel so awfull about this whole situation, and I dont know what to tell him. Plz help!
2007-12-15 12:20:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please nothing negative, I just need advice.
2007-12-15 12:21:30 · update #1
I know that you did not want to be the bearer of bad news, but what you did is wrong. You should not have told him that she was undecided.
She needs to talk to him. Trust me, having been on the other end of an infatuation like this, the girl's friend telling me that she was not interested did not deter me. I still held out hope that perhaps her firend just didn't like me and lied, etc. It wasn't until I heard it from the girl that I believed it.
After she talks to him, you need to appologize to him for lying to him.
2007-12-15 12:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Damocles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should tell him the truth because lying to him will cause you problems when he finds out ur lying. on the other hand you should talk and explain to him that ur friend doesnt want to ruin the great bond that they have between each other and that she thinks of him more of like a brother. im sure he wont want to ruin their friendship so hell accept it and either move on or keep on being friends and who knows maybe she'll start to like him?
p.s i hope this helped good luck^^
2007-12-15 20:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by frikenbanana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah I used to do that same thing to my friends. Tell him to ask her out, so he can take in the anwser. My friends told me that, and trust me it works. But if he gets rejected (like i did), then that will take a major toll on their friendship.
2007-12-15 20:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both have to be very careful with this situation, tell him you believe he should tell your friend him self. Have your friend break it to him gently, make sure he is stable you wouldn't want him to do anything. also you need to tell the parents on all three partys. be very careful
2007-12-15 20:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by mala_uglygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think if they r friends they should still go places, she can just tell him that she doesnt want to have a boyfriend right now or something...
2007-12-15 20:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by [off the deep end] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you just gotta tell him that she isn't into him so much. He will get over it.
2007-12-15 20:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by The Oracle of Omigod 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the question?
2007-12-15 20:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by rockets2k9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest w/ him. thats wat he really wants.
2007-12-15 20:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by glory. d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋