so last week i went with my parents to the anual christmas party. it's at my dad's friends house and all his old buddies from his old company go there including their kids. i've been going to this since i was 7. every year i always see this crazy girl whose 6 years older than me. anyway i saw her last weekend and she was crazy as usual but a little bit mmoody.
so i just found out that she commited suicide last night,
her boyfriend stopped by her house this morning he found her hanging by a rope in the garage. I honestly don't know how to deal with this. all i feel is horror for her boyfriend having to find the one he loves most hung and dead in her parents garge.and right around the holidays too. no one had any idea that she was depressed and my parents know her quite wll and aren;t handling this too well. i don't even know what to do.
2007-12-15 11:57:19 · 13 answers · asked by :| 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry hon... most people don't know a lot about suicide and/or its causes, unless the individual has been suicidal himself, they have lived wtih a suicidal person or if you are a medical professional (psychiatrist, etc.).
People who have mental illness, such as bipolar disorder, depression, borderline personality disorder etc, can become suicidal, but NOT always, and not everyone...
Suicide happens when a person's problems or issues seem too much for them to cope with anymore. And sometimes they feel everyone else will be better off without them, or they want to leave this life to gain some peace.
Whatever the reason, it's difficult for those who are left behind. Understanding a little more about suicide might help, i'm not sure... i have listed two websites below with information for you.
take care. hugs.
2007-12-15 12:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is really sad. Can you go and give your parents and hug and talk to them about it? Even though they are struggling with it too, maybe they can still help their daughter. Maybe you can send a card to her family, or your family will send one, extending your sympathy. Maybe you can also make a donation to an organisation set up in your State to help people with depression and other mental illness. I think death of people you know is never easy, and suicide is one type, like when people die suddenly in an accident or due to illness, or when people die of old age or after a long illness. Maybe you and your family can learn a bit more about the signs of suicide (such as a course like mental first aid if there is one near you) and how to help people in danger. Sometimes there are not a lot of signs, and maybe you are a bit young right now and it is something you can do in a few years, but it might be another thing you could do. Good luck and I hope your family can have a happy Christmas of sorts still and be glad to be together.
2007-12-15 20:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by Max 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, unfortunately these things sometimes happen. I am sure her parents are going over each and every conversation with her, every look every nuance, looking for some sign that she was suicidal. They will carry this all their lives. Actually, everyone who knew her will carry this awful weight, in some way, forever.
Suicide is a selfish thing to do. The person does not realize that they are punishing everyone who has ever known them, in one way or another. And, unfortunately, it is a cowardly thing to do also. It is hard to face up to your problems, and to seek help and to work through your problems. Every problem has a solution, and suicide is never the solution.
This was a waste of a young life, a life that never got a chance to begin. And she cut it short herself. That is the crying shame.
The lesson you can learn from this is to seek help, if you feel overwhelmed, to get help if you have problems before they become insurmountable.
You will always remember the hurt of this young woman taking her own life. Please share what you have learned with others, so that they will think before ever entertaining any thought of doing that.
Blessings to you.
2007-12-15 20:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweetie I feel really bad for all of you and it will be tough for a while, but what ever was bothering her she is at peace now. The only thing you can do is make your self available for those that need comforting and consoling, those that feel like talking be a good listener. And even though you were not friends you still knew her for a long time so you should say good bye and if you have the need to talk or ask why you should do so.They will all be ok but it will take time good bye sweetie much peace to all of you.
2007-12-15 20:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Back Field In Motion 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know a couple people that committed suicide within 3 days of each other and another person that overdosed on pills. (this past weekend). It's hard to deal with but you need to just remember all the good times you had with her, and know that she isn't in pain anymore (if she was in any.) My sister found her best friend dead on her (my sisters) living room floor last Friday morning (the one that overdosed). She has been a wreck this past week, crying all the time. We just let her vent to us and let her know that we will always be here for her. My prayers are with you and everyone else involved.
2007-12-15 20:03:35 · answer #5 · answered by morgan 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well I believe that you should show your condolences to their family. It's very hard dealing with it even if you've never experienced it. You should stay very positive and don't let it ruin your Christmas spirit. I hope you'll tell the family I wish them the best with this serious and sad incident. I hope you and your family can cope with this situation. A word of wisdom "keep your head up and never let problems get you down."
2007-12-15 20:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by Keya 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you know what it is not your falt after all so don't sweat it i had 4 grandpearents 3friends and a relitive died in a year so it will seam hard for awhile just rember you can make any thing better if you try. and i help me to have a friend who you can call at any time and talk to even if it is 12 at night. and if you realy need it go to a counler. for me my perants sent me to one i didn't thinked it helped me but most other people say it dose ans good lucky with every thing and if you need some one to talk to my e-mail is cnhasty21@yahoo.com
2007-12-15 20:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by cnhasty21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really traumatic. I guess what your family can do is give support and guidance to the girl's family. Also, tell them that it is nobody's fault. The girl probably have kept it long and hard. Just pray for her soul.
2007-12-15 20:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by Concerned.. 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them you are very sorry and are praying for them.
2007-12-15 21:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PRAY TO YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER AND ASK HIM TO COMFORT THOSE HURTING FROM THIS TRAGEDY AND ASK HIM TO GIVE YOU THE STRENGTH TO GET PAST THIS ONLY TIME AND PRAYER WILL HEAL
2007-12-15 20:15:37 · answer #10 · answered by paula c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋