Have you known someone that got married, just because they were tired of being alone? I have a friend who is getting married tonight and they are getting married just because he said is tired of being alone. He has had lots of girlfriends and he is a great looking guy. I am not going to the wedding because I live to far away. I don't think that I would go anyway and support him in this. Why do people get married for that reason? Shouldn't you love someone and know that you are supposed to be with this person before you marry them?
My friend is only 23.
2007-12-15 10:53:37 · 11 answers · asked by Laughing with you not at you 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yeah he is way too young to be getting married for that reason. He still has a lot of growing to do and if he let someone he doesn't completely love to hold him back from life he will regret it.
2007-12-15 11:18:05 · answer #1 · answered by tc22 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Many people fear growing old alone... or just living life alone. I know a very attractive 45 year old lady... very active, in great shape, and she married this guy she only knew for 2 months. She didn't want to wake up one day and be 50 and living alone. Yes, it's quite sad. To depend on someone else to identify your existence here is just... lame.
2007-12-15 10:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree that your friends reasons are questionable, however, very few people have good reasons to get married. Most people get married because they think that they should, not because they have seriously considered the advantages and disadvantages of marriage. In other words, I wouldn't be too quick to abandon your friend because you think that he is making a mistake. He isn't the only person who is making the same mistake.
2007-12-15 11:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by milton b 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Half of marriages end in divorce anyway, his might last because he's entering into it without stars in his eyes. After all, arranged marriages can be the best when people plan to stay together for decades, because arranged marriages & calculated matches consider such things as family compatibility, etc.
Be happy for your friend & hope his is one of the fortunate matches, don't be so judgemental & idealistic at your young age.
2007-12-15 13:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot live a life for someone else. Whether he is making a mistake or not, it's his life! All you can do is to talk to him. Since you did that, and it didn't work, there is nothing else you can do. He is a grown up person and he makes his own decisions whether they are good or bad. Another thing is that you might not know everything. We often think that we know everything about our friends but it's not a complete truth.
2007-12-15 11:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by terliuke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not a good reason to get married especially at such a young age! most people arent married at 23 anyway!!
Two of my big brothers best friends (male + female) Who are the same age as him, 40. were also best friends and got married!! They love eachother but they arent 'in love' they mainly did it because she had always wanted to walk down the isle, so did he. and they noth wanted children! I thought it was quite beautiful, considering they are great friends, and now once they are married, we can see them falling in love. the good thing about it is, its doubtful they will breakup because they are such great friends! She is now preg. with her 2nd child! (she also got preg right after the wedding) they live together and everything.
So i dont think thats wrong because they were friends, and older.
But at 23 its stupid.
Oh well, she will regret it. not you!
2007-12-15 11:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Amber is a New Momma 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's a good reason to get married, but that doesn't mean they are automatically going to fail. He obviously has some feelings for the girl or he wouldn't have asked her. Have you asked him about this? I mean told him how you feel and that you are a little concerned?
2007-12-15 13:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by Paula Christine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who did that....she's miserable. I hated being alone too, but I'm glad I waited as long as I did to get married.
2007-12-15 11:36:26 · answer #8 · answered by cait 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is not a good reason to be getting married. He still had plenty of time. My opinion is that he hit his quarter life crisis (yes its real, but a new concept) and he made a bad choice. Hopefully he won't go through with it because it will ruin both of their lives.
2007-12-15 11:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by Cute Mom of 2 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
people get scared and make strange decisions. You should love someone if you are getting married. There are two people involved here. Maybe the woman really loves him and in time he will love her in return.
2007-12-15 11:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. S 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋