Guys tell me that I'm very attractive. Actually, I get asked out on dates almost every day.
I will date a guy for a few months. But then he will say that he's not sure if he feels more like a friend towards me.
Every time, the guy says that he loves being with me, that I'm not doing anything wrong, that I am great to be around, that I'm gorgeous and a very nice girl...but they just don't feel that "spark" that they want to feel. In fact, many of these guys have given me great signals all along, e.g. calling me a lot, asking me out several times a week, etc.
I'm enjoy sex and am open minded, so that shouldn't be the problem. I wonder if the problem is that I don't play games, and I make myself very available to the guy. I'm clear about how I feel about them (i.e. that I like them).
I could play games but it just doesn't appeal to me. I want someone to like me for who being honest and kind, not for jerking them around and being unavailable. How can I change this dynamic?
2007-12-15 10:49:23 · 6 answers · asked by quirkyfunnyone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In relationships its important to have a little bit of suspense. Maybe you shouldn't tell the guy straight away how you feel, maybe you should let him puzzle it over for a while. You know "does she like me, or does she not... will she like chocolates or is she a flower person" etc. The spark will come when there is mystery.
Personally i feel that all girls should be more honest like you but anyway try what i told you. If it works for you then great, if it doesn't then you can come back here and we'll help you out ;) Happy dating.
2007-12-15 11:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by samidc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got the same problem sister! I've lost out on possible relationships because I would rather get to know a lady first.
I'm not into the game playing, or sex first and see if we like each other later. We just need to be ourselves. Why would you want to change? That's not being yourself!
2007-12-15 18:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by david 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if u look at it from my eyes (im not a playa) sometimes u need that kinda friend thats a girl friend and not a girlfriend. dont go all slutty ive seen that happen when a girl thinks shes too nice so she starts to act like a slut
ur friends might loses respect for u and then people will only want u for sex or something similar to it.
stay as u are and choose ur friends carefully and ur boyfriends arccording to what u really want
2007-12-22 22:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be some personality trait they don't discover till they've been dating you for a while. Maybe you're too chatty or they hate your cat or something.
Don't start playing games unless you want your relationships to be even shorter. Games suck.
2007-12-15 18:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by comfort eagle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety maybe its cuz your giving them want they want which is sex after that they probably dont want you anymore that night be a reason
2007-12-15 18:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by *PEACE BEGINS WITH A SMILE* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Midas, they will help you out there with your problem
2007-12-15 18:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by Timmy Bananas 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋