Should i go for this girl i like?

Question

Hello yahoo..ive recently started to like this girl.. we've been close friends for about 2-3 years and im wondering if i should go for her.. we talk mostly on msn but we have been together just the 2 of us on 2 or 3 different occasions but it felt like an eternity<3. ive been told that i loved this girl by the way i talk about her to other guys but ive been having second thoughts.. i catch her in the hallways, i barely talk to her in the school. since its so crowded usually hang with differnt people but i still consider her as a close friend. she's always a very jolly girl and always see her happy emotion. ive had thoughts of her having some interest in me and sometimes i feel like she doesent give about me. anyways my thought is if i did tell her my feelings it might ruin our friendship. which i charish. and if i doo go for it ill be very happy. i occasionally flirt? also i know some other girls are after me but shes the only one i want to be with. sry for the long post

- to the other reply yes i catch her looking at me, and sometimes we catch eye. it feels awkward sometimes but then id try to give her some hints like id smile and wave at her. but i dont know.. we are close friends i want to be her boyfriend and ive been told we would make a good couple.. yet i dont want to ruin the relationship. i will try to talk to her more in person but shes usually around her girls.. and it'll be weird if i just talked to her while her friends are there. the last time i talked to her in person was. a week ago? it was at another girls birthday party and it was nice. Well for Christmas we planned to go ice skating but with other people too unless she meant us as in just me and her..? well ill see how it goes from here and hope she gives me more hints

Answer 1

It all depends. Here are some signs that you should go for it:

1. She laughs at all your jokes.
2. She casually touches you.
3. She's always paying attention to you when you're around.
4. She calls you on the phone.

If you don't get at least 2/4 of these, don't do it. She doesn't want that. You could be totally misinterpreting it. I highly disagree with one of the previous posters saying, "If it doesn't work out, you can always have the friendship anyway."

That never works, because the girl will always feel uncomfortable around you, knowing that if things were your way, you'd have her differently. If you've been friends for 2-3 years, and she isn't the shy type, and it isn't painfully obvious that she likes you, then don't.

It will effect the relationship if you try to make it more, be sure before taking the risk!

Ask a mutual friend that you can trust, to go nonchalantly ask her. Find out through him. Have him just slip into a casual conversation, and you don't run the risk of ruin.

Answer 2

That's a tough situation. I honestly think you should go for it and see what happens. You don't want to be going on with life thinking "what could have been" if you did go for it. Just don't scare her by telling her that you're in love with her out of the blue. Get in the mood with her and talk to her. Then bring up the topic. If she says she sees you as a brother, move on and continue being her friend. If she's interested as well, then good. Just know that the friendship is over only if you make it that way.

Answer 3

sounds like you guys have been friends for awhile, and i wouldn't ruin that. recently i was in a position of almost hooking up with a close friend and i don't recommend it. first off it is very awkward to try and make that transition from a friend to a girlfriend. second if things end up not working out between you two and you guys try and be friends again and its to awkward than you just lost a close friend. i would rather have a good friend than a potential girlfriend any day.

Answer 4

RED ALL OF IT TO THE END!!!
if you like her so much then dont risk the chance of losing your friendship with her but if you know she likes you go for it and be happy but one thing she might turn you down and you wont be friends anymore. and if she does go out with you... your soon break up and lose that friendship so its a hard question. do you want to risk it all or do you like her so much you just want to be friends? try to be more friendly with her so you can have small playdates and stuff then make it grow and when the time comes ask her out. not even just kiss her in the right time. AND IF YOU REALLY DO like her AND HAVE PLAYDATE ALREADY THEN ASK HER SOON. or else it will be to late!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

life's to short why not tell her how you feel if shes not seeing anyone, this way at least you get to find out if she also feels the same if you just leave it it might also affect your friendship and also your future relationship when she starts going out with others and you might think that could have been me and you might compare her with your girlfriends (which isn't a good thing) this way least you will have it out in the open.
wish you all the best

Answer 6

*****I think the best thing you can do is have a casual hang out just you too where she wont feel like you have intentions or anything and joke around with her and see how she responds. A girl will DEFINITELY let you know if she is interested. Tease her and see how see responds. She will either respond back (meaning she is interested) or just ignore it (not interested). That way you aren't putting yourself out there alone.

Answer 7

Since you are such close friends, maybe you could ask her out and brush it off as a joke if she says no. Most importantly, make sure she knows it is a date. Girls like it when you're honest, and she may think you are hanging out as friends if you don't tell her.

Answer 8

is she showing any signs that she likes you? do you catch her starring at you sometimes? well, based upon that, you should choose your decision.
you say that you guys rarely talk!!!???
TALK TO HER MORE! let the girl get to know you! if you show shyness, maybe she'll have second thoughts too!

best advice is---- follow your heart. only you can make the right decision.


BEST OF LUCK!

Answer 9

Yeah, go for it, I asked out my best friend (A Girl) and she said yes, and we've been going out since, I think it was six months on Thursday and it's working out great:)
Good Luck:)

Answer 10

You have plenty of time to see if it will work with her. Ask her out to a movie some time, but don't move too fast. See how it goes.
good luck!
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