me and my boyfriend broke up a year ago. i never really got over it, and never learned why he broke up with me. it was VERy out of the blue.
anyway, now, a year later, i keep running into him. despite the fact that we have 700 kids in our grade level, he sits next to me in two classes. (that's almost impossible to happen). i often end up behind his car at stop lights and such. we'll end up getting our names pulled out of a hat for a project. or i'll see his mother at the grocery store.
just weird freak things keep happening that make me run into him.
is there a reason God has put him back in my life? because my ex and i are not really on speaking terms (even though our break up was friendly) and i don't even know how to start.
i do really miss him though. and i keep praying to God to show me how to make it better, because seeing him every day all the time is SO painful.
i'm just not really sure what to do.
2007-12-15 10:17:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There's a saying that you should never let the sun set upon your anger. Maybe God keeps making you run into him because He wants you two to reconcile. You don't have to become an "item" again, but at least settle the differences that are causing you to not be on speaking terms.
2007-12-15 10:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah R 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Christian, then you believe that God has everything happen for a reason- assuming you are not a hypocrite who chooses to believe that which is best for your lifestyle from the bible. If you are a deist, then both options are available. If you are an agnostic, then you can just write it off as coincidence and try to pursue a relationship with the individual.
All in all, I don't really think it matters if there is a God or that he makes everything happen for a reason. If there is a God, then his plan is, by its very nature, too complex for us to understand. As such, live your life in the way that makes you most happy. If you miss him, bite the bullet and engage him in conversation. Talk about something that you both like! If you really don't know of common ground between the two of you, then you may wish to question whether a relationship is really possible. What will happen will happen, so why don't you make it happen?
Don't play the role of the victim of circumstances or you may end up unhappy.
2007-12-15 11:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by Mikey P. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe God "has" evrything happens so much as allows it. Think freewill. That being said if it's been a year and you're still in emotional pain - I am sorry to hear that. To relate I broke up with a girl in high school and had a hard time getting over it because I was sure we were meant to be together. It took years but we finally did reconnect and I was thrilled. After a few months I couldn't remember what I'd seen in her in the first place.
PS I think Sarah is on to something.
PPS I think Sabrina is way off base.
2007-12-15 10:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by stoopid munkee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thought-provoking question, thank you. I can't imagine how a person could think according to your question and see any meaning in the world if there was no intelligent design. In that case as for a reason for everything that happens it would have to be mere cause and effect. You hit a billiard ball with a cue and that ball hits another ball and so on. But nothing else. Still, there are some Buddhists who identify themselves as atheists. They would no doubt differ with me in my opinion. Their perspective on the nature of the world certainly is rather interesting. But how karma and reincarnation could exist with no intelligent design, a Creator-God, I do not know. Maybe they have a different version of an "All powerful force," as the Jedi might put it.
2016-05-24 03:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by karine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If God has everything happen, than there are some truly awful events to account for.
But while that view is present in the bible, so is the opposite: that some things at least appear to "just happen"
"Time and chance happen to them all" as it says in Ecclesiastes, or perhaps with Jesus noting that those hit by the falling tower of Siloam weren't the worst sinners in Jerusalem.
They got hit nonetheless.
2007-12-15 10:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by Pedestal 42 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything does happen for a reason. God has nothing to do with it.
You keep seeing your ex-boyfriend because you're a stalker, and you need to quit it with that and your God delusions or next thing you know God will start telling you to murder him and his family. He's not back in your life!
Chill out and get a new boyfriend. That one probably left you because he was screwing some other girl anyway, or because he couldn't bring himself to tell you he's gay. Forget about him!
2007-12-15 10:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by Sabrina H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think life is a series of random events and faith is a means to deal with whatever life gives me.
I also think that what I see as coincidence is the universe letting me know I'm doing the dance, that I'm acting in concordance with life around me.
2007-12-15 10:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Not to take away from God, though, I'm a big believer in cause-and-effect and pure random fate (sort of).
2007-12-15 10:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by Wired 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the marriage & family or singles and dating catagory wold be more helpful.
I hope you feel better soon.
2007-12-15 10:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's always a reason. But that doesn't mean we should never mourn.
2007-12-15 10:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by Skunk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋