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We broke up one week ago, her decision. She wants to be friends. says that we can be friends, start from the beginning, and take things slow. She doesn't want to see me right now bc she says i still have feelings and only when i can be her friend we can see each other..
We started out our relationship really fast from the get go, three weeks of knowing each other and have been dating. for 2 months, until last week.
It is so hard to see her as a friend than a gf.
She says she wants to be single, have fun with her friends..
what should i do?
is it the end?
this is really bothering me.
She has been hanging out with her guy friends and will take vacations with them this holiday. She wont even spend Christmas with me, instead it will be with someone else whom she calls a friend, an the unknown gender, due to information, when i spoke with her three days ago. In doing no contact and will try to heal my inner wounds.. hope i will be okay and over her soon. thx for reading.
2007-12-15 09:25:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget about her why don't you have fun because she is having "fun" you know what I mean with her male friends. If I was you go see other people so think and feeling about will be a thing of the past. Enjoy 2008.
2007-12-15 09:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by The Chaotic Darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. Everything will be okay. A few weeks ago I was in the same situation you're currently in and now I feel better. Just try not to think so much about her. Hang out with friends, do something amazing, talk to different girls, feel great. You'll soon find yourself liking another girl or if not that, you will realize that her reasons of leaving you show she's not a girl worthy of your love. Chances are that she will realize she misses you later in life and you will by then probably be in love with a girl that you know for sure would never do what this girl has just done to you. Don't be jealous, let her have fun with her friends, let her do w/e she wants. She will soon begin to regret all of her dumb decisions. I'm sorry if i sounded a bit mean but stay strong. I promise you that something amazing will happen to you soon if you keep your head up rather than letting that girl's wrong decisions put you down.
feel better..
- Jose
2007-12-15 17:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she pretty much just said 'no' till you can deal with her as a friend. Sometimes things DON'T work out and with two people that means two different viewpoints. She's as valid in her viewpoint as you are in yours, but right now, she says no, so it's a definite no. She's gone as far as she can and decided she wasn't ready or that you weren't the right one for what she was looking for. This isn't a reflection on you, it's only that she and you weren't as compatable as either of you thought.
Take a deep breath and find yourself back in the dating pool looking for someone else who's ready for a relationship. Meet new people and you'll run across someone you're compatable with. They're out there.
2007-12-15 17:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she wised up. Now it is your turn:
Please learn the terms open dating or casual dating.
You do not have to be own by a 'boy friend' in order to go out with him and have a good time. You are allowed to date more than one fellow at a time.
Exclusive dating should be done with a person you are interested in marrying, WHEN you are ready to marry and after you've known him a while.
Be free and Be smart.
2007-12-15 17:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by rustyoldma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry. Just start to meet more people. Apparently she wants to meet new people herself. Try to stay good friends with her and keep in touch. Dont loose her as a friend. It's okay to just be friends. Many many people say that every relationship starts with a friendship...u agree? This is deffinatly not the end...just try to hang out with her more. And make sure you tell her that "I know we arent seeing each other anymore but i hope we can still hang out together and stay good friends."
She'll appreciate it... most likely. If not, try doing new things and meet new people. Everyone's always lookijng for a good friend that they can rely on and love(as a friend).
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2007-12-15 17:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by diamond.dani12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's taking you for a mug. You're doing the right thing when you cut off all contact to make this easier for you. You're what's important here, not her.
She wants to behave exactly as she pleases and still keep you dangling on a string.
Walk away, you're hurting now, but really, you'll get over her far sooner if you make a clean break.
Move on, start dating again when you feel able.
2007-12-15 17:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Steve C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go look for someone else, learn something from it. If she wants you back, she'll come back but the 'just be friends' has a dictionary meaning most of the time. I avoided mine saying those words, but it still meant it was over.
2007-12-15 17:30:02 · answer #7 · answered by wowwee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you will always have feelings for her and never speak to her again. Then move on.
2007-12-15 17:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by Bob R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but it don't sound like you were seeing each other for very long so it shouldn't take too long to get over her.
2007-12-15 17:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by luvkisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, welcome to the annual Christmas housecleaning. She wants to be able to party and not have to worry about your feelings. Go to parties and have a good time!
2007-12-15 17:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by Steven D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋