all he seems to care about is sex, but i really feel for him and have for a while....but he makes me feel used and tells me he wants to be in a relationship with me but he is still getting over his last relationship, its been 2 months now and im tired of playing games how can i tell him that without severing our relationship completely? how do i say no when he tries to make a move on me? i can never seem to resist
Cait
2007-12-15 09:14:36 · 17 answers · asked by Complicated_and_Confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A relationship will never come out of the situation. If you can not handle things move on. It is not a game it is a contract. He wants to get laid with know strings attached and is looking only for someone who wants the same.
2007-12-15 09:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by Lily 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this happened to me, and I've got the guy now. I had to let him go completely for him to realize that being 'friends' for almost a year was wasting my time. Your situation is different, you all have only been together 2 months. I loved my boyfriend very early on like that too, but I didn't tell him at first. How emotionally draining. When I look back on that, I feel stupid for letting anyone get to me like that.
It really hurt that I loved him and he didn't seem to love me, so I let him go. I told him I can't do it anymore and it wasn't fair to my feelings. Well, he realized how much he loved me, and now we live together. It's been two years. I have to tell you though, at times I think I love him more than he does me because of all this. It's a call you are going to have to make, but you shouldn't settle for ANYTHING in life. Stand up for yourself girl. Sometimes people string us along because we let them!
2007-12-15 09:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-27 03:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to work up the nerve to move away from him. You guys are clearly expecting different things from the relationship and you're the only one relinquishing what you want.
Why are you supposed to catch the flak from his bad experiences with someone else?
Tell him "Sorry, but you're a disappointment I'd rather move on from".
2007-12-15 09:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by pikapikapokapoka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's only after sex, and since its only been 2 months, he is at a vulnerable stage. In other words, you are his rebound. 2 months isn't a lot of time for someone to get over someone else, hence the "rebound."
2007-12-15 09:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by Corvus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing to do is get this guy out of your life completely. He is only in it for the sex, and since he knows he can get that for free he will never commit. Plus, if he hasn't committed by now he is not interested in you for anything more than sex.
Move on.
2007-12-15 09:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by Liv 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah the friends with benefits issue. Number one, its great for the guy, no strings, free sex, no committment. But ask yourself, what do you want? Women who go there, and I do speak from expirience, been there, done that, found, you fall for that guy. You see him as marriage material, he sees himself as footloose and fancy free to date other women and sleep with them. Worse, you are not suppose to be able to say no to this, as you are not suppose to be committed to him, which makes you feel worse. Trust me, this is a dead end. You will end up hating him, yourself for wasting time and feelings on this fool. Better to find a guy who wants what you want, respects you and your relationship. Life is too short to play this no win game.
2007-12-15 09:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by cruisepuppy7452a 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This might be hard to hear, but he sounds like he is using and controlling you. I think you should ditch this guy and find a guy that appreciates and respects you, not just for your body. If ur afraid to say no to him, that means ur afraid of him, which means this is not a healthy relationship. Find someone new plz, u'll be better off w/ someone who luvs u for who u r, not just for sex
2007-12-15 09:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by ♫♪ ki+k@+ b@r ♪♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want what he is not willing to give (love and ownership). He IS using you and you have been allowing it to happen in the hopes of winning his love and devotion for two months. Break it off and move on. Quit letting yourself be used as a free prostitute.
2007-12-15 09:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by rustyoldma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get your self respect back. Tell him no and mean it. He is using you.
He will never respect your feelings if you don't.
You both need to move on to someone else who wants the same kind of relationship you each want.
2007-12-15 09:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by maxmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋