Instead of submitting to their husbands like your Bible says?
2007-12-15 09:09:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I do not submitt!!
2007-12-15 09:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 3⤊ 4⤋
No, why should it?
In the same place where it says that wives are to submit to their husbands, it also says that men are supposed to love, honor, and respect their wives. It THEN goes on to say that we are supposed to submit to each other in love.
Why, that sounds like a 50/50 partnership, doesn't it?
What "submit" means in that passage is to "get in step with." It actually does make for a long, happy, lasting marriage.
After all, don't ALL couples have to compromise occasionally? If one does all the giving, they wind up feeling taken advantage of, right? But if BOTH partners compromise, which is what the Bible says we're SUPPOSED to do, marriage tends to last longer.
However, women tend to be better at compromising than men are.
2007-12-15 09:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No relationship is ever 50/50. Some days it's 60/40, some days it seems like 99/01. But given that some days you are the 99, and other days you are the 01, it all works out, if you truly love and care for each other. When I was married, I believed in the 51/49 thing, with my husband at 51, but the problem with that is that he obviously didn't respect my 49% opinion and it caused alot of problems. I would of done better by picking a mate that valued my opinion more, and I think I would of been content with the 51/49. It's all about respect.
Not a christian, but liked your question!
2007-12-15 09:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by none 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was brought up Lutheran, and still consider myself christian although I do not swallow the bible whole. It is my opinion, and just my opinion, that women must be equal in any meaningful relationship. If for some reason a compromise can not be reached between a couple, then and only then does the need for a tie breaker become necessary. And I think that women are just as capable and intellegent as men, so the tie breaker still must be agreed upon. That probably was no help, but I tried. Submitting to your spouse is still a choice, male or female.
2007-12-15 09:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by Tmthy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You assume to know something of a Christian marriage and you are wrong. Christians do not subscribe to a marriage where the woman subjugates herself as a slave to her husband. Submission is not the same thing. You should study up on this before you put your foot in your mouth again. I and my wife are happily married, and I am willing to bet she in reality has more than a fifty percent say in things, it is only when things get extremely difficult, or she doesn't know what to do, that she deferrs to me completely. All this really means in the end is that she believes that I as her husband, have the greater responsibility for the welfare of our family. She has great expectations of me when it comes to the defense of our family and it is my greatest honor, and my greatest burden, to meet these expectations. I believe non- Christian couples can also hold these same beliefs and that the successful ones always do, I also think that even those couples benifit from Christian teachings and lifestyles.
2007-12-15 09:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by avatar2068 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is really no such thing as a completely 50/50 marriage. Marriage is about giving and about respecting your spouse. When both the husband and wife respect eachother, then by nature, they will each WANT to do for their spouse! As for the term submission, Ephesians 5:21 states "submit to one another out of reverence for Christ." Mutual submission is love in action, and is showing a joyful obedience to the Lord! A marriage where one or both partners keeps a sort of "tally" as to who does what and how many responsibilities they have and not the other is heading for trouble! I LOVE doing for my husband the daily things such as making dinner for him, cleaning the house, taking care of our children, etc... just as he does all sorts of kind things for me and works outside the home so that I can raise our little ones!
2007-12-15 09:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by FLmom3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It does bother them...but that is ok..I am a woman in a Christian religion. I don't submit to the patriarchical set up..and I am not trying to be patirarchical myself....a lot of women think that by becoming more like men...we can attain power.
The truth is...we always have power...and we never lost it..and we are powerful, beautiful, and holy. And we don't need a man to tell us that we are these things. I am glad I was born a woman. I don't need approval from a man.
When I make love to a man...it isn't me trying to gain anything..but to share my energy with a man..and experience his manliness on many levels.
My husband is a good man..and I am a good woman..I don't rule him..and he doesn't rule me. We are equal yet different from one another and we explore those differences with joy.
I respect my husband more...for being a friend to me..as I make my life choices.
2007-12-15 09:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by Felicitas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am a believer and I think you are seriously twisting the meaning of the word SUBMIT. Submission is not subjugation, ya know.
Please consider you have received some bad teaching, and choose to overcome the man-made dogma that perpetuates the enmity between woman and the enemy of her soul.
Please study to show yourself approved, as the scripture says. You could start with the link I found for you by an extremely knowledgeable and spirit-led Bible teacher.
ETA: I bet you didn't know the verse that says the husband is "head" of the wife means "source" and not "in charge of", did you? Tsk- tsk, bad teaching indeed.
2007-12-15 09:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by Bride of Yeshua 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I like the one that states"submitting to each other in the fear of the Lord.." it's the right thing, (humble) and, marriage is giving yourselves to each other 100%, not this 50-50 stuff as many think..and God uses women just as much as he does men...i have talked to many, and resolved lots of problems..and everythings "better!" And, the submission of the Bible? it's a totally differant thing than most think also.. "Peace!"
2007-12-15 09:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. "Diamond" 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Women are not to be seen as second-class. Submission isn't as a slave. It is a love and respect for a husband. In the same way, husbands are to show the same love that Christ does.
2007-12-15 09:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by SFECU12 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are Christians. We have always had a 50/50 marriage. We respect each other. Most of all, we love God.
2007-12-15 09:14:54 · answer #11 · answered by Faye 4 · 6⤊ 2⤋