Is it slutty if I want to see the goods berfore I buy them? You know what i mean.I've been dating this guy i dont really love but i still want to see if i take it to a diffrent level will it help? I dont know if it will or wont. I want it to but I'm not sure.I say i love you all the time but i really dont mean it. Am i crazy for wanting this relationship to work? The truth is i really do love him like a brother. And that sucks! What if i do see the goods and dont like them? I'm totally clueless!
2007-12-15 07:42:25 · 12 answers · asked by tiffinynb93 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nah.. always test drive a car before you buy it.
2007-12-15 07:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by R O to the D 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Play with his package but your never really going to know until you bite. And even the first bite could be a bit clumsy so you have to practice. If you look at s ex as if you are learning dance moves, this works, this dosent work kind of thing you can become your partners best lover by watching thier responses and learning thier fantasies and fulfilling them. Intimacy is a meeting of the minds on a spiritual, physical,mental,sexual planes and you have to give it time and 100% of effort. So dont think failure and disappointment think oppourtunities and learning how to make what you have the best it can be. :) Take Care-Rachel.
2007-12-15 16:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? or are you just, like, 12 years old? If you don't CARE about the guy, what difference does it make if he is hung like a stallion? First of all, even if you like what you see, that doen't mean he knows how to use it; and second of all, why are you just saying stuff that you don't mean? Why would you think that going one step further is going to help, when the most important thing - caring about the other person - is missing? Heck, if you want to just have sex without caring about someone, I am sure you can go to some bar and hook up without any emotion whatsoever. Why bother with dating, if you just don't care?
2007-12-15 15:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by eldots53 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not slutty, just dishonest. Both to him and to yourself. I've never seen the harm in a purely sexual relationship if both parties know that's exactly what it is. It sounds like in this case you're the only one privy to the information. If you really do love him like a brother, then you don't want to hurt him. Although it may crush him in the short run I'd be honest about how you feel.
The longer you go on lying to him the more pain it will cause when he does figure things out (or when you sleep with him only to find that, oops, you didn't really love him after all).
2007-12-15 15:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by Chadwick 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Same thing happened to me.
Odds are, he loves you like a sister, yet wants to see the goods too... but he'll end up dumping you when the one he really likes comes along.
It just happened to me. There was this guy I wasn't totally attracted to, and just liked as a friend, yet did sexual stuff with anyway. I didn't enjoy it at all, and now he got back with his ex, whom he loves.
Being with a girl that they aren't totally into makes guys realize how much they care about the ones they are into. Follow your gut, it's never wrong. Don't do this... and if you do, just be prepared to feel pain. You may think it won't hurt, because you don't like him, but it ends up hurting really badly.
2007-12-15 15:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by Just a Girl ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Slutty"?.....Nothing wrong w/ wanting to know if your gonna be sexually compatible.
The key point for me here is yer not 'emotionally' attached, but ya think ya might be if he's any good? Sheesh woman, if ya wanna sleep w/ the guy, go right ahead. But don't go messing with his head....no need to lead him on.
Cuz if yer not feeling it now, then all sleeping with him is gonna do is either satisfy your curiosity. Ya fall in love with someone BEFORE ya sleep w/ them. The emotional tie ya have is only enhanced by the sex. Least ya hope so.
Sadly I know people who thought they were in love, only to discover that when it came to the sex...they were NOT a match.
Finding out doesn't make ya slutty.....it's the way ya handle yourself and your partner....so to speak.
2007-12-15 15:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Tira A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been lying to him that you love him when you don't?
That's not slutty, that's cruel.
Tell him how you really feel.
"see the goods" -- are you a diamond smuggler?
You're dealing with a human being, with feelings (which apparently is something you know NOTHING about).
Do him a favor and let him know of your lack of feelings.
2007-12-15 20:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats so me too...Just go out alone with him and try to turn him on to see the goods and if no work then be friends cause a girl like me honestly loves sex and has to see the goods and the goods have to be great...So no its not slutty your just being a girl.
2007-12-15 15:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by Hotmom1216 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
ummm...don't tell someone you love them if you don't. its doubtful a good night in the sack will make you suddenly fall head over heels...if it changes anything, its purely physical and probably won't last. sleeping with him might also attach him to you even more making it harder on him if you decide to end things due to your lack of feelings.
2007-12-15 15:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by pinkjelloshot 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
think about if it was the other wayy around and a guyy was like that to yyou
2007-12-15 15:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by goodies make the boys jump on it 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u need to test drive before u can ride
2007-12-15 15:47:09 · answer #11 · answered by lickul8er 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋