I knew this guy at work for a few months, but we really got to know each other a few weeks ago. We would talk alot; he told me that he had never had a serious gf before, and that he really wanted to date me. I'm 17, not allowed to date, so I told him I'd try to work something out.
He told me that he could never do a relationship that was just over the phone and at work, so he said, "let's be friends with benefits." I did sexual stuff to him once, for a few hrs... not all the way, but close... it was my first time doing anything like that, i didn't even enjoy it...
Afterwards, my emotions were really messed up, i was feeling horrible and i told him.
Things were weird, he didn't talk to me as much afterwards...
He didn't act totally like he wanted to date me anymore... we didn't talk as much, but we still talked.
2007-12-15 07:36:43 · 6 answers · asked by Just a Girl ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NOW, I find out that he's back with his ex and they are in deeply in LOVE. I'm assuming that they've been in love this whole time... AND it was a long distance relationship; the same thing he said he could never do. He is still hitting on me, and i told him that we can't take breaks together at work anymore, cuz I don't want people to be thinking anything.
He got so mad that he deleted me from his myspace and sent mad emails...
and now i have to see him at work tonight.
What is going on here? I really didn't think I liked him that much, I was never sure of my feelings for him, but now I feel so hurt I can't even stand it.
Why am I so hurt? I just want to lie in bed all day. Did he use me? What do I do, he lied to me?
Why is HE mad at ME?
2007-12-15 07:37:00 · update #1
He's mad at you because he wants someone to satisfy him while his girlfriend isn't there and you won't play along.
yes, he used you.
he's a jerk.
he's madly in love with his girlfriend but he's cheating on her.
he's making you believe he really cares about you but if his girlfriend was in the same state you would be completley out of the picture.
not to mention he lied to you about never having a serious relationship if he's madly in love with someone.
he didnt' act like he watned to dat you anymore?
YOU shouldn't want to date him anymore.
you're better than this
2007-12-15 07:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
Dont feel bad. By lying on bed, you only convey you are weak and get more miserable. Whatever has happened has happened, now let us understand what went wrong where and what you should do now.
1. When he said about friend with benefits itself, it was clear that he was looking for sex, not a committed relationship with you. In that sense, he used you.
2. When you told him you didnt enjoy what you did with him and you felt horrible, his male ego that thinks he could make every woman happy got hurt. So he started keeping away and reacted to you madly.
3. To treat his ego, he brought his ex into the picture so that you knew they were always in relation.
He is a crap guy. He does not deserve you. He does not even know how to treat a girl with no experience and also how to take care of such a girl when she expresses her frank feelings after her first experience.
You are a nice girl. It is just that you got into his sweet talk and got affected. Think that it was good for you that things went like this. Atleast you knew his true colours before getting more intimate or more attached with him. Think that you are saved.
Be strong. Pick up your mental toughness and go to work. In your 17 years, you would have overcome many situations, this is just another one. Dont respond to whatever he does or says, just tell you forgot all that. Dont enter into blamegames or abuses. It will only make you more stressed. Just leave it. He is not worth your valuable time.
In future, please make sure who you spend your time with or get intimate with. The young age may push you into trying things or knowing things, but, sometimes they backfire like this. It is better to avoid rather than getting into the hands of such disrespectful guys..
Take care.. You will be fine.. I will pray for you.. Al the best..
Merry Christmas and a Very Happy New Year to You..
2007-12-15 15:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by doer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all boys are mad when they don't get sex. really mad. ask Dr. Freud why(he wrote a whole book about surpressing sex desires). You found out that he had another girl and did not like you that much. and you were serious about him. you feel betrayed. it happens often to girls who trust bad boys. why don't you tell his girlfriend that you had sex with him? ahe needs to know. and you'll feel much better. he'll be furious but you'll get a revenge. it's the best thing when you're hurt. helps so much...
2007-12-15 15:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by ania361 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I think he did. Im kinda in the same position, but he dosent want to go out, but we do kiss and stuff. Just try to have fun. Find something else to occupy your mind.
2007-12-15 15:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mal777 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fact that he said he never had a gf and then turns up having an ex is the fact that he used that to make you want to do him to be his first and that right their was because he used you for sex?
2007-12-15 15:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is an asshole. He is not even worth your time wondering wtf is wrong with him.
YOU shouldn't even want to be with him. Screw him, he's not worth it.
Just be thankful you didn't go all the way with this jerk.
2007-12-15 18:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋