so my friend has like this guy for over 2 years. he is a guy in my school who is one of the guys who thinks he NEEDS a girl friend. so once he dumps one he goes to a new one.but my friend really likes him.and i dont know how to tell her that he's probly just going to end up using her or dumping her after the first day.should i tell her or should i just do nothing and help her win her guy?? beacuse if i tell her i will be a good friend but she may get mad at e for crushing her hopes.but i know if i don't then she WILL get hurt.
2007-12-15 07:31:50 · 19 answers · asked by Loverr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her, and then if she still wants to go ahead, help her out. Then when she gets used it's her own fault.
2007-12-15 07:34:26 · answer #1 · answered by kjhgkjd 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hello,Men come and go but friends are forever!!! and it's going to be hard at first but you love your friend and she's like a sister, then the best thing to do is to tell her, and just maybe have someone there when you give her the info on this what to be player, yes she's going to be upset but she will later appreciate your honesty, but if you let her go and get hurt she may never forgive you. Just inform her and tell her that your just giving her his track record with girls and that's it that you will support her want ever she decides to do. I think if you approach the situation in that manner then you will have a better chance of saving your friendship. Just remember that sometimes girls can not see whats really in front of them before it's too late, tell her that your telling her out of love nothing else to it, and say you do what you want and i'll be there for you. Good luck write back I would like to know the out come. Just remember that friends are forever and boys will come and go.
2007-12-15 15:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by laylay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, doesn't your friend have the same information that you have? If you both know that the guy is a serial dater, and one of those ppl who just HAS to have a GF, then she should already be aware of the potential problem, but she has convinced herself it won't matter. You might want to discreetly MENTION that he seems always to need to have a GF - but if she gets annoyed, then drop it. You can be there for her when he dumps her, LOL, but whatever you do, don't help her to "win" the guy, because then you will be untrue to herself. If she wants to get into this, let that choice be her own, and the effort to win the jerk be her own. That way she can't blame you when it blows up in her face.
2007-12-15 15:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're extremely close, offer up your opinion. Let her know that you're worried that he isn't a good guy and will end up hurting her. If you aren't very tightly knit, I'd keep it to yourself unless she asks you for it.
Regardless, don't help her get the guy, that would be going against what you feel about the person. Let her pursue him if she wants, but don't contribute to something you know is going to be bad for her. You can't try to control your friends, but you don't have to contribute to their bad habits. You wouldn't help an alcoholic friend get a drink, would you?
Also, be there when things do go bad whatever you choose about giving her advice. Hope this helps.
2007-12-15 15:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by Chadwick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her nicley sit her down and say umm look i know u like this guy alot but he has dumped so many girls and gone out with another i dont want u 2 get hurt im just telling u this just in case
2007-12-15 15:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by hotstuff48 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing you can do is say i think he is a jerk but its your life do as you please i'll support you any ways if you really want to go through with it. And just be there constantly as her friend no matter how much she may hate you. she will see the hard way if she chooses to ignore you. But if it works out. well you know.
2007-12-15 15:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by Stephen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you think she might get hurt, but if she thinks its work it, go ahead and let her, you wont be able to stop her. Then again, you could just help her out, be supportive if she gets hurt. You can not spare anyone from getting hurt.
2007-12-15 15:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hold up who is this? I like a guy at my school who does the exact same thing and I'm the one who likes him. Is this someone from my school? maybe trying to tell me something? kw
2007-12-15 15:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you can tell her gently that you're willing to support any choice she makes, but that you're really worried that this guy would treat her badly and don't want to see her hurt. Then she knows that you have her best interests in mind, but she still might have to find out for herself.
2007-12-15 15:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany * 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Point blank answer: mind your own business
Its not your job to spread rumors, to tell people what and how to think or to be the protector of all.
2007-12-15 15:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by Noone i 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋