Guys...what do you make of this?

Question

I have been friends with this guy since I was 14 and he was about 16 or 17. Our friendship of course was online, through distance. As the years went on and we grew up we continued to talk. We became close. Sharing dreams, goals, hopes, experiences, definitely relationship problems. When ever we were single there was always a flirtation between us. But never anything serious.

Here we are now 20 and 23. We've lived decent lives with interesting stories to tell. We're a bit more grown up and mature. Still going through with the struggles of life.

Recently I was talking to him online. He has a difficult day with his job and school so days are stressful for him. When talking out of no where he says he wants me to come visit and soon. All the years weve known each other we have yet to meet. I was excited because Id love to meet him finally.

Since then hes talked about just running away together, livinging happily ever after. Even said 'I want to love you' at a random moment.(cont'd)

We were just talking about relationships and life at the time he said that. Im not sure where its all coming from.

Plus not every day is the same. He works very long and difficult hours with school and his job. As do I. I will be where I am for at least another 4 years, unless Im completely positive moving is right for me.

Some days he is sweet and caring and flirty like he wants to be with me. Other days he is completely friendly and wonderful, but nothing points towards 'I could love you'. I dont know whether to believe its his busy day pulling him down. Or I want you when I want you and when I dont deal.

Im just afraid to put my heart out there to find out its nothing. Unfortunatel my heart has already jumped before me.

Help is appreciated.

I know of course I should meet him before jumping into anything.

What Im asking is what is going on. How can we go from being just friend and then oh so randomly him saying all those things.

I was wondering from a guys point of view if he was just wanting some love or affection and comfort for a few days and could easily be like eh nevermind.

Answer 1

im definantly not a relationship expert..id be carefull allthough you have known him for awhile itll be different in person..i would have him visit you first so youll be around comfortable suroundings..

Answer 2

If i were you, Id kind of hold off putting too much of my feelings into it. Basically the two of you have more of what I'd call a "mental" as in mind type of bond. It is strictly an emotional attachment. You seem like a real kind hearted person and you don't want to make a mistake. If you do meet up never meet up at your home, pick somewhere real public,
and then see what happens. And even if you do mix make sure you really know him tell others of your plans and always check with people. Cause now a days you never know

Answer 3

It seems like he likes you and he is comfortable with you. Maybe he has always enjoyed you before. Its possible that he wants to be with you. But if work and school or hard on you two he might just give up and find something easier and closer to him...Or he may really want to be with you. Should you stay calm and wait it out? What advice can I give you about how to act toward him to see what his true feelings are...Im not so sure

Answer 4

If he really wanted to meet you this would of happend along time ago. On line romance could lead into trouble. If he wants to meet tell him to meet you parents too! Their are plenty of guys out there who will meet you face to face. You will find one someday.

Answer 5

you never met the guy before.... meet him before jumping to something like love...or running away together?!?!? that's absurd.