I am a 19 yr old female in my second year of medicine. I want to be an army medic. I just don't want a relationship with anyone. I've never been raped or had anything traumatic happen to me and I am def straight. I just see myself as single forever and the thought of someone knowing me in an intimate way makes me feel dirty. I also don't think anyone will really truly understand me. Am I not the only one out there, or am I real weird?
2007-12-15 07:17:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Many people do chose to be single for life. My great aunt never got married lived a full happy life. She did date a few men. Even got proposed to. She never said yes. Being single and independent was who she was. It's what she wanted to be. Nothing wrong with that as long as you are happy. I myself took a long time to start dating. I never saw the point never felt the need as well. The thought of sex for the first time kind of freaked me out. I'm 25 now and in a relationship.
You sound like you are scared of commitment. Scared to let someone in. maybe you fear being close to someone or fear of rejection. It's ok. I bet you will find someone that will fall for you. He will understand you or at least try. He will try his hardest to win you over. It might not be soon but it will happen. If that day comes what are you going to do?
ps. It is not dirty to let someone know you in an intimate way. If you love them and they love you. It is a beautiful natural thing.
2007-12-15 07:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by snowflake311 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like you have blocked off anything intimate from your life. Maybe you have a little too many extra walls you built up? But it's possible that being with some one in an intimate way makes you feel dirty, but have you ever thought about the possibilities of it making you feel wonderful and happy and loved? You shouldn't be afraid to try something you don't know much about.
2007-12-15 15:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are far from weird! Sounds like you are a strong, healthy individual, who does not feel the need to have a partner to make her life complete - and that is a wonderful thing. And, believe it or not, it is people like YOU who end up with wonderful, equally healthy, strong minded partners, and become shining examples of people who don't NEED each other, but WANT each other.
And, if this never happens, and you never change your mind (well, not 'change', as it is obviously not a conscience decision), then that is fine too! Totally fine, absolutely fine! Just because society decrees we must all be coupled, does not make it so! Being self-aware, and honest enough to not conform for the hell of it, is a refreshing thing. And, if you DO meet Mr Right, you will make him a wonderful partner!
2007-12-15 15:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by Aye. Right! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u r 19 nd u still think like that. i used 2 think like that wen i waz 12 or 13 but not anymore. do u want 2 spend ur entire life alone w/o feeling the magic of been in love. abt intimacy, well sweetie, that's how v were born; wen our parents got intimate wit each other. besides, god made man nd women so they cumplete each other physically and emotinally . there is sum1 out there 4 u who will change ur way of thinking. don't think of being intimate as a thing u do wit every1 but only 1 special person for whom u wud give up anything nd everything. it will hv a much purer meaning 2 been intimate then (4 u)
2007-12-15 15:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by muskaan 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Not everyone is emotionally wired to be in an intimate relationship. However, you never know when you'll met the one who will make you change your mind in a flash.
2007-12-15 15:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your not weird honey. You just may be know what you want right now. Nothing wrong with that. You have along future ahead of you and you never know if or when the love bug hits. Your ok
2007-12-15 15:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with being single. Just wait for a few more years..
2007-12-15 15:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by FaithBreakFree♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no everybody feels inhibited like that , but for most of us , our hornyness is stronger than our inhabitions so we end up doing it anyways.. then when you do it once, you want to do it again and pretty soon your used to it so you dont feel embarresed anymore and them......its on.
2007-12-15 15:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋