I ask this question earlier, but maybe i didn't add enough details. okay well i am 14 and i just had my first boyfriend. My mom found out and made me break up with him because I was too young to have a bf. So i broke up with him and now he is avoiding me. Why is he doing that. I know hes not mad at me. A week later his ex girlfriend asks him and out and now they are going out. I'm so jelous. I need some advice. what should i do?
2007-12-15 07:11:59 · 19 answers · asked by mimi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he doesnt know why i broke up with him so he doesn't know that my mom made me break up with him
2007-12-15 07:17:39 · update #1
Well, the reason he's probably giving you the cold shoulder is because guys dont like to show their feelings. He doesn't want it to look like it bothers him.
Act like it doesn't bother you either. Maybe IM or text him asking to be friends again.
Remember, you're only 14. You have time... and the statement is true "mother's really do know best."
2007-12-15 07:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all your mom's fault! I wish you didn't listen to her. some people are in relationship at 11. If you're 14 and mature enough to have a bf then it's ok to have one. I'm sure you and him were good couples. How did your mom find out anyways? If I were your mom, I'd let you date him as long as you don't have sex with him. I understand why he is avoiding you. he want to be with you but you broke his heart. If you really love him then you shouldn't break up with him. try to talk to him and explains how you really feel about the situation you're going through. if he's taken then you know it's too late but never know he may be single again. you don't need to be jealous. Jealousy won't make you get your ex back. Just be happy for them. find another boy who you like or you wait until you're 17 or 18. The decision is up to you, not your mom. Hope I helped! :)
2007-12-15 07:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by kim14electra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it.
You probably hurt is feelings which is at least part of why he's dating his ex. (either that or he really didn't care that much for you to begin with).
If your parents won't let you date anyway you may as well just chill until you can without getting in hot water with your folks or they'll put an end to your next relationship too.
Any guy that sincerely likes you (and that you sincerely like) will still be around next year. So stop stressing.
2007-12-15 07:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mooney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, hes doing that to you (with the ex girlfriend) to get back at you because hes upset. There are plenty of fish in the sea and your only 14, you will meet someone great one day! Just wait it takes some time.
2007-12-15 07:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should have told him why you had to break up with him . Now he thinks you did this of your own accord . Tell him you had to break up with him because your mom thought you were too young . And you two are broken up and he does have a right to go out with who he wants to go out with . Sorry but that is the way it is .
2007-12-15 07:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is an age related thing due to insecurity and being young etc. As you mature you should grow out of that. I say should because some people "never grow up!" LOL! Anyway, you will have many boy friends as you grow up and don't take any of them to seriously! Injoy your youth while you can!
2007-12-15 07:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by maur911 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's avoiding you because he's hurt.
he's hurt that you broke up with him.
the only thing worse than losing someone is sitting right next to them knowing you can't have them.
he needs space and time away from you.
if you haven't already explained to him that your mom made you break up with him, do that.
that will make a huge difference.
then he will know that you still like him..you're not breaking up with him because you don't like him.
he'll consider getting back together later.
2007-12-15 07:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
in my younger years i had to deal with mothers myself....(they would say thier daughters are too young to have boyfriends etc... i used to think it was BS, however, at your age especially i wouldn't get hooked on any one person. you will be amazed how much more you will know about things in about 6 years. don't be jealous of that fish eyed fool. it may just be a sign that there is something better out there that you just haven't found yet.
2007-12-15 07:19:46 · answer #8 · answered by fire s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
omg! wat a byotch slut that ex gf is! omg! i had almost the same situation. exept there was no ex gf of my ex bf. well anyway, u shud ttly ignore him bac and act like u dont care at all. obviously ur exboyfriend is going out with his ex because he wants to make u jealous. so ignore him and dont give him any importance, he will start staring at u and wondering y u arent chasing him. he is acting like a total jerk! and u shud start flirting with other guys to make him jealous too! hope this helps
2007-12-15 07:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by Ilovetitanic101 <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mom's are difficult. If he is going back out with his ex well he is messed up. he really hasn't let go of her or it may be something more physical. Either way it was a bad move on his behalf.
He's not worth your time or effort. move on.
Let him be.
2007-12-15 07:18:05 · answer #10 · answered by Stephen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋