Other than cruelty , violence and infidelity what are the boundaries of sexual activity ......?

Question

betwen a christian married couple. Is indulgance and enjoyment of sexual activity and foreplay a hindrance to spirituality?

Keira D your response is amusing and full of practicla common sense - not to say that I agree with all you say, but thank you.

kait a good balanced answer it opens up perspectives for me and more possible questions.

Rock Star your heart is still in the right place - life is not that simple however and it is always good to keep an open mind; its a good attitude.

thanks to all with the short and sweet answers too.

Answer 1

If you're going to have sex with a telemarketer, for god's sake, use some protection!

Answer 2

Do you want a real answer or one steeped in propaganda, fantasy, muddled thinking and stupidity?

Which do you think God would enjoy most? A Christian couple fighting like cats and dogs, arguing, and spiting abuse at each other, or beating each other senseless; or engaged in intense lovemaking on a couch kissing each other all over?

What do you think offends God more? Two people, even if unmarried, having sex together, or two people killing each other in war? God couldn't be a prude anyway, the Old Man Upstairs has seen EVERYTHING by now! Hee Hee, even my Mother-in-Law which would be quite revolting!

If you want to follow the idiocy of the woman hating, sex hating neurotic named Paul go right ahead. There's no reason or logic behind the belief that a good sex life is a hindrance to spirituality. The idea is just plain stupid.
There's no reason why a Christian couple should be forbidden from any sexuality that cements their love bond.
I'd rather have true love, than hokey phony spiritual bunkum.
Why does a Christian have to live the life of a monk to be loved by God? Why does he have to be a celibate and spend all day long reading the Bible?

Fortunately, I am a Jew and not a Christian and my people pay no heed to the drivel of the Apostle Paul. In our Bible we have references to Itzhak and Rivka [ Isaac and Rebecca] sporting with each other and having a grand old time with each other. That's the way GOD meant it to be. I don't give a fig what Paul thinks about sex, women or anything else. There is none of this worship of celibacy and a life wasted doing nothing but praying and reading the Bible. We celebrated life and sex is part of life, so is lust. Without a little lust, amigo, you probably wouldn't even be here. Had your parents been involved in some worship service or praying and fasting instead of frolicking in the bedroom, YOU wouldn't be here, would you.

Who do you think invented sex and the human body? Satan?

So when some arsewipe named Preacher Bob tells you a load of bunkum about sexuality EVEN between a married couple will lead to spiritual decline, meanwhile the same Preacher Bob is eyeing the ladies (or worse the children) in the congregation, get the hell out of there and find a church where they don't teach this drivel like the Episcopalian or Unitarian Universalists. Good people with good brains. Or heck, switch to Judaism and have a rip roaring sexual adventure with your spouse---even more adventuresome with your nosey mother-in-law sleeping in the room next door!

As for me, I haven't had sex in years with the old bat sleeping next door who could hear a pin drop from a mile away, and hasn't made me one bit more spiritual! Hee Hee. In fact, I'm LESS spiritual, as now I'm contemplating how to bump off the old bat and get away with it!

Somewhere, somehow, you guys of the cross forgot that you were meant to have an enjoyable meaningful life, not turn this planet into a living hell. But Jews knew all along, that you can't love another if you don't love yourself.

That's probably why Jews makes such a big fuss at weddings. Think the Greeks go crazy at weddings? Try a Jewish Wedding! And toast the groom, the wife, and the wife's bodacious tatas with a big shout of L'Chaim! To Life!

Answer 3

The Bible says that “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral" (Hebrews 13:4). Scripture never says what a husband and a wife are or are not allowed to do sexually. Husbands and wives are instructed, “Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time (1 Corinthians 7:5a). This verse perhaps lays down the principle for sexual relations in marriage. Whatever is done, it should be mutually agreed upon. No one should be encouraged or coerced to do something they are uncomfortable with or think is wrong. If a husband and wife both agree that they want to try something (i.e., oral sex, different positions, sex toys, etc.) - then the Bible doesn’t give any reason why they cannot give it a try.

There are a few things that are never allowable sexually for a married couple. The practice of “swapping” or “bringing in an extra” (threesomes, foursomes, etc.) is blatant adultery (Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3). Adultery is sin even if your spouse allows, approves, or even participates in it. Pornography appeals to the “lust of the flesh and the lust of the eyes” (1 John 2:16) and is therefore condemned by God as well. Other than these two items, there is nothing that Scripture specifically forbids a husband and wife to do with each other – as long as it is by mutual consent.

Recommended Resource: The Act of Marriage by Tim and Beverly LaHaye.

Answer 4

There are none..Have fun..

wait, you can't do it in the butt because the law's state that's a sin for everybody. Other then that I havent seen any thing that says you cant enjoy the "gift" that is given between a married man and woman.

Ps: For who ever said not to ask questions in this room because some people here are not Christians let me say something..with a godly heart you will know which answer fits your standards of morals and I am offended that someone will come in here and start chastising someone for making sure that they are following the true word of the Bible. AT LEAST HE ASKED BEFORE HE DID IT! Give people some credit, were not all soul less Godless morons running around with no clue, most of us left the church because of hypocrisy and hate, so dont show yourself bigger or better then anyone.

To the next subject.

Just dont do it in the butt and you be fine!

Answer 5

As long as both partners are comfortable, and willing participants, the only boundary is your imagination.

I think that by not indulging, enjoying sex and foreplay is a hindrance to spirituality. God made us, which means that sex was part of the plan, meant for two committed, adults to share and enjoy. It can't always be about making babies. If it were, we would be more like wild animals, like tigers for example, who only mate once a year twice at best, and only come together for reproduction.

As a married woman, had my husband wanted me to participate in cruelty, violence and or infidelity, I would not have married him, totally averting that problem. You have to trust your partner. If you have no trust, you really don't have a healthy relationship.

Answer 6

Conflict or anger itself does not have to cause an irreparable rift between partners. With good communication skills and a shared commitment to a marriage, even these are surmountable. How to save your marriage https://tr.im/W6exv

However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage? If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?

You must realize first that, you do have a choice. Often, when confronted by a crisis, we find ourselves backed into a corner thinking we have no choice in the matter. How can we change the situation when it involves another person's feelings or decisions? While we cannot, must not and in no way manipulate, blackmail or threaten our partner into changing their mind, we can actually control how we react to the situation. If anything, you must realize that you still have control over yourself. You have the opportunity to look inward and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and even have the chance to take personal inventory of what your partner is trying to tell you. Are there points in your marriage that must be changed? If so, respond appropriately and proactively.

Answer 7

First of all, we assume that you are married and consenting. If that is true, even pain can be pleasureable as long as the motives are positive. Same for extra partners. Boundries are only in place so that we know where to stop, and these should always be discussed and decided upon BEFORE actions are taken. Enjoy yourselves

Answer 8

I wouldn't ask that question here you will get answers from all sorts of people who have never even been to a church or have now Idea what the bible says about this thing or aren't Christians. If you want to now go to a Christian based site for a question about Christian sexuality. You wouldn't buy milk at a car shop so you shouldn't look for Christian advice an a site that isn't Christian

Answer 9

Absolutely not, see the Bible, it speaks to the fact a couple is to not deprive each other of the enjoyment of a good intimate relationship.

I think you have to have a balance in life and make sure to make time for your time with each other and God.

Answer 10

Anything could be considered a hinderence to spirituality depending on how you look at it. However sexuality and expressing that, can also be a very spiritual experience and help you to grow. So you have to look at it subjectively.

Answer 11

My husband and I are a Christian and God intended for you to experience the greatest pleasure during sex, if that means you'd like to experience certain things, by all means - go for it... between the two of you, of course! If you read Song of Songs and look at it metaphorically... it's a very sexual book... God intended for man and wife to enjoy sex together... enjoy it!! =)