He went to party last night.
Didn't invite me.
His excuse was they went to bars afterwards, and of course he can't invite me because they were going to bars and I don't have a fake.
It is so frustrating... How would he feel if I went to bars without him, and he was the younger one?
I don't know how to make him understand, because he doesn't understand my point at all.
I feel like, if I were him, I would MAKE it work.. I would do something we BOTH could do, you know?
Am I wrong for being mad? is anyone in the same situation?? I'm so lost man
2007-12-15 06:12:45 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then he goes to saying how fine he looked!!!
HELLO?!?!?! HE WONDERS WHY I'M MAD!!!
And other girls were there, his friends' girlfriends.. i just feel so damn as;kdjh1!!!!
2007-12-15 07:16:23 · update #1
It's good to have other interests and spend time apart. It gives you a chance to hang out with your friends. Don't smother him or he'll be gone lickity-split.
2007-12-15 06:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by NANOOK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, look at it this way... At the very worst, you have about two years to go before you can join him in the bars. At the best, it's a year before you can join him.
It sounds to me like you're putting too much focus on the "bar" thing. He could have invited you to come along to the party, even if they were going to go to a bar afterwards (although, why you would go to a bar if you're already at a house-party, I don't know.) It sounds to me like he was just blowing you off - period. You could have gone to the party with him and then gone and done something else when they went to the bar - unless he's hiding something, which is possible as well.
Personally, though... If this is the first time he's done something like this, I wouldn't worry about it. However, if it's a frequent thing, I would put a lot of thought into whether or not it's something you want to deal with.
2007-12-15 06:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by Damien M. Cross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a once in great while thing, he is entitled to have some time away. If this happens frequently, he may not be the one for you. Does he go your way sometimes, or it is always his way?
I am sure that this is not your first boyfriend, but you are young enough to find someone better, if he is wrong for you.
I am going to play the "old guy". You may both be a little immature. Note I said "maybe". A lot of people notice a big change from 20 to 25. Some are 48 and still act immaturely.
2007-12-15 06:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by hamrrfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't expect a 22 year old guy to never go to bars with his friends...That's what they do...As long as he spends time with you other times doing things together, there is no reason why you should be mad if he wants to hang out with his friends. You both need your own space...When he goes to the bars, call up your girlfriends and have a girls night!!! It'll be really good for your relationship.
2007-12-15 06:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, he isnt going to understand your point of view because he likes being out without you. dont take that harsh but guys need their own time and this is an easy way for him since its the law. if you were over 21 he would find a different excuse to not take you with him. it also depends on how long you have been with him and if you two live together. think about everything he means to you and evaluate if this is the biggest problem in your relationship.
remember you will never be 'him', so you cant expect him to be 'you'.
2007-12-15 06:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by classyTj22 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think he was right because he did not want to put in an awkward situation and did not want you to do anything illegal by getting a fake id.
If he is going to the bar once in a while, I don't see why you should be mad at him.
Just be considerate. He's also a human being with his needs. You can go to the bar once you are of legal age with him!
2007-12-15 06:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think when ur involved emotionally with some, u care about her in every possible way.He should be planning the parties and trips to the bar keeping in mind ur limitations .if it was once in blue moon incident or a boys nite out then its ok but if this is the routine then i ll have to say he enjoys better off without u ! well ur the right judge of ur situation . if u really want this thing to work out then u should let him know how u feel about these activities of his.make him understand ur point with out messing anything between eachother ! best of luck.!
2007-12-15 06:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by momi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry!!!you are not wrong for being mad. i was in the same situation. when i met my current boyfriend i was 18 and he was 24. i couldnt do anything bar or drinking wise unless we stayed at home. if he doesnt understand your point of view he never will. i was just patient with the situation because age is age. there is no way to speed it up. i am like you, if it were me i would make it work and compromise too but some people dont think like us. if you are able to be patient and wait like i did, go for it. if not find someone who is willing to compromise and include you when possible. good luck with everything!!!
2007-12-15 06:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by a_team_passion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong for being mad, well partially.
You should understand that he is older than you, but next time he should be considerate of going places both of you can enjoy.
You should be careful if he's going to places with put you specially bars and party's. He might be flirting or hitting om some other girls......I'm not saying he is but this is something you should consider.
2007-12-15 06:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by RedSparkle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think situations like this call for compromise. He has his friends, he has to have his own life, and sometimes they might end up going to a bar where you can't. On the other hand, that should be pretty rare, and generally he *should* be arranging it so you can both to whatever. Especially if it's a new relationship I think he should be taking steps to ensure that you know you're a priority in his life.
Still, just remember that sometimes you just have to trust him and let him have his own life.
2007-12-15 06:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by kashre 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The deal is because you're dating does NOT mean you have to be together all the time. Many people have friends and want to spend time with them. This doesn't mean they care about you less but rather that they are well rounded people. It is not unusual in married couples that the husband on occasion have a "boys night out" or the wife has a "girls night out".
2007-12-15 06:23:56 · answer #11 · answered by Say_What? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋