Me and my boyfriend, Justin, have been together for almost 8 months. We are very happy & have always been honest, from what I thought. Well, lately on myspace he's been talking to girls and hes changed his password. Well, I made a fake myspace w/ a pretty girl. So, I sent him a message on this girls account and he started talking to her. I started talking sexually to him and asked him if he'd do sexual things with "me". He said yes. I also asked him on the girls account if he'd like to see a naked picture of her. He said yes, I told him I sent it and he said "Hopefully it's sexy." He even gave Julia, the "girl", him number. He also said they could meet up today at Best Buy (Right by his work) at 4:00 (The time he gets off today). Last night he was telling me about "Julia" but, he didn't tell me the whole truth. He didn't tell me that he gave her his number and I asked him when she wanted to meet up. He said he didn't know. I also asked him where she wanted them to meet up.
2007-12-15 06:10:47 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said he didn't know. Justin lives with me. So I'm really debating on what to do.
I really love him and it's so hard. It really is. I have a plan but, I don't know if I'm just letting him run over me. I was wanting to confront him about it and then ask him if its the truth. If he says no, I'd ask him to leave. If he does tell me the truth I was wanting to talk it over with him and then go on and try to forget about it. Then, if he ever does anything like this again, leave his butt.
Good plan or not?
I'm so hurt and confused!
2007-12-15 06:13:36 · update #1
After he seen the pic. he blocked her off of his myspace.
So, he doesn't plan on meeting her. Me and 2 of my friends were going to meet him there but, he doesn't plan on going there anymore.
2007-12-15 06:15:23 · update #2
Juanita T, I'm not playing games. I was trying to figure out the truth and I did. So shut the h*ll up!
2007-12-15 06:22:09 · update #3
Oh gosh, this is terrible.
You should do another account of a girl, and ask him if he has a girlfriend and does he love her.
He he says no you know your answer.
Or.. get him to meet up somewhere again and do what you were going to do (take friends)
Otherwise.. theres just the confront, and usually people lie.
2007-12-15 06:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by cerysss. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like, unfortunately, he was engaging in typical guy behavior. I hate to say that, because no two guys are alike, but sex+men ... it's pretty much a no-brainer. He was obviously turned on by this fake profile you set up, and obviously contemplated meeting her. However, you've said that he doesn't plan on meeting her, so perhaps he was flirting, trying to get a rise (and maybe he did), but in the end, when it really matters, he is committed to your relationship, so he's going to blow "Julia" off as an onling, meaningless fling. I wouldn't stress too much over this fact, but what might be more alarming is that he CONSIDERED it, so ask him what's up in your relationship that would make him even take a second look. Is that just his personality, or is there something going on with the two of you? If it's the former, you're wise to leave him now, because eventually, he will make a bad decision that could end up costing you a piece of your heart.
2007-12-15 06:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweetie yes of course he is and probably always has it has to hurt you really bad but if you don't mind me calling you one smart cookie then you are one smart cookie now what to do next is be Julia and be there when he comes and say hi hon didn't know you where coming to the mall today. And when he gives you that phony excuse tell him Julia is not coming she is as fictitious as you are stay out of my life .I could never trust you again. This was not a mistake something that just happened you planned this with me thinking it was someone else and when I ask you those questions I was giving you every opportunity to change your mind. Take good care of yourself hon.
2007-12-15 06:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Back Field In Motion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pursue this a little deeper. The thing is that you don't know if he'd actually go through with cheating. Maybe he just feels as though he wants to get to know other girls, because you two have been together for so long. I think, personally that you should meet up with him where "Julia" is going to be, and tell him that you don't feel comfortable talking that way to other girls. And if he gets angry at you, you know he's just being defensive, and that he's not worth your time. Any guy should be faithful to his girl, and no other woman should get in the way of that love.
2007-12-15 06:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think he has some intentions but why he would tell you about Julia if he wants to cheat you.
I think talking with other girls on internet is not such a bad thing. Asking for a nude picture is an alarm about your relationship but it's still on internet. If he would meet with somebody else for real, then it's cheating.
What reason he gave you that you started to spy him?
It seems you have poor communication with your bf and you don't trust each other.
2007-12-15 06:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by Theta40 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I did the SAME thing you just did. I was Lacey and the girl was really cute! He told her he had a gf but Lacey didn't care and he went along with it. Even tried to meet her. I was so angry- i couldn't keep it going. Instead I told him "Hi, Im lacey" and I dumped him. THEN, he trys emailing her (I guess he thought I caught him by hacking into his Myspace) so then I email him from "Lacey"'s profile & told him who I was.
Silly me, took him back since he "Technacly" didn't cheat and later on... guess what happened? He cheated on me for real!
Do not trust him. It hurts but he prob isn't happy :( If he were, he wouldnt want no other.
PLUS, you will never know if he is meeting other girls he "talks to" the ones that aren't really you. Your trust is ruined and its an important thing to have
2007-12-15 06:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by blah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think my bf is cheating too... he is on this certain website that he said he would erase his account from and never DID... so i also created a fake profile up and put a pic up of a pretty girl and he added me to his list and he even dropped "the girl" his cell number, asked her out to go clubbing on a weebekend that me and him were supposed to go, and asked what she was doing this weekend and me and him are doing to a damn christmas party this weekend. like... TODAY. He even told "that girl" he used to be in a relationship (he said this in october or november) and tonight if he reply back im gonna ask him some other things to **** with his head just to get some things out of him and if i find he is trying to get with "her" then i realized that what i thought was a bad relationship gone good again really never recovered. I even went thru his phone a few days ago but no new names or made up names in his phone. So im gonna move on myself and you should too. GIRL, if he's doing that to your "girl" what makes u think he not writing someone else and doing the same thing????? Just LEAVE him. He already lying to you. My girl asled him what was he on the website for, and he said not for relationships or sex, but that he jsut wanted friends (preferably hot girls). He not worth it girl. leave him. I dunno about my guy though its probably exactly what I think it is but i know its hard. and we been together for a year and a half. leave him girl.. i will eventually leave mine too.
2007-12-15 07:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by MedTq367 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go to his job when he is done. And tell him we need to go over to best buy at best buy tell him you want the key back to your house and when he says why tell him your julia and don't answer anything els keep demanding your key if he doesn't give it tell him your moving out or you'll change the locks Then say i hope one of your internet girls has a place where you can stay. You deserve so much better!
2007-12-15 06:26:17 · answer #8 · answered by poo~poo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he even talks about the people he cheats with (which in this even happened to be you) you definitely need to leave him. If he's cheated on you once then he'll probably do it again until your relationship finally crumbles. You should confront him about your feelings and if he denies it, lay the evidence on him. Even if he doesn't admit to it, or if he does, you can do so much better, and staying with some one because he lives with you is a bad reason stay with him. You deserve a person that will love you and only you. Your current boyfriend is obviously not thee one for you, but I promise you will find him. Dump the jerk and go find the person you were supposed to be with :D
2007-12-15 06:21:56 · answer #9 · answered by Rainbows Light Up My Clody Sky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, what are you trying to ask? Obviously we all know he's hiding things from you and is planning on cheating on you. In my opinion it probably isn't his first time, because he apparently has his operation down pat. Really, what do you want us to say? He's cheating on you...if you have any self respect you would call him on it and tell him you deserve better. It's only been 8 months...and I can't imagine any guy that's worth what you're going through. He has no respect for you, and doesn't care about your feelings. Go out there and find a decent guy who doesn't need to have sex with random girls. Of course he's happy! He gets to have a 'relationship' (someone to always fall back on and care about him) while he gets his freak on with anyone he wants. Do yourself a favor...dump him!
2007-12-15 06:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋