My parents say I'm allowed to date, but only a Christian. All the guys at my school are non Christians. I keep getting asked out by these cute guys who I have a crush on, but I have to turn them down because of my parents rules. I don't think I have hope now to find a boyfriend because he needs to be a Christian. If you are a Christian, what advice do you have for me?
2007-12-15 05:29:06 · 31 answers · asked by faithhopelove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a Christian. I live with my boyfriend, who is agnostic btw. You should date who you want. No ifs ands or buts about it.
2007-12-15 05:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by .. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should speak to your parents and ask them why it's so important for you to date only Christians. Do they believe that Christians are somehow safer? More honest? Better people? Better drivers? Because calling yourself a Christian doesn't guarantee that you're a good person with a strong moral character- that's based on the type of person you are, not what church you go to. A strong faith in G*d, morals, and a good character should outweigh any religious title someone may apply to themselves. Perhaps there's someone at your school who just hasn't had the opportunity to be exposed to the Christian faith and is waiting for you but because of your parents' rule you two will never get the chance to know one another. You're parents need to expand their minds... and their hearts.
2007-12-15 05:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey...
If you are a Christian...you believe dating should lead to marriage right? That's what a lot of Christians (especially old school ones). Dating can lead to sex, and sex should after marriage.
The Bible says do not be unequally yoked. Meaning, a Christian shouldn't marry a non Christian.
I know at your age you probably don't think so, but your parents are looking out for your best interests. If you were dating and let's say got pregnant...not saying you would but lets just say for example...would you want to marry the father? What if he wasn't a Christian? How would you raise your child?
Rule of thumb is, even at your age, don't date anyone you wouldn't marry. You don't want to fall head over heels in love with someone you cannot realistically have a future with.
2007-12-15 05:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to do what your parents say at your age. They are doing what they Think is best for you. I understand what you are going through and wish I had the answer that would solve your problem.
The only thing I can suggest is to continue to talk to your parents and try to set up a compromise. I know it won't be the "cool" thing to do, but ask if you can invite one of your friends to one of your church services. If you have a guy friend that would be willing to go with you... your parents may ease up a bit.
Just a thought. Good Luck!
2007-12-15 05:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by cherokee_jack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the question that came to my mind right away was, think about the man you will marry. if you are a "christian" like you say you are, don't you want a husband that also is? imagine what hardships you will go through if you marry a man who has different beliefs than you. the only reason dating is something we do is to find someone we would be willing to marry, to spend the rest of our lives with. if you arent as involved in christianity, i suggest rewording your question to saying that you go to church and your parents are christians so they think you need to date a christian guy, but you don't care or something. think about why they say this. it would be wrong for them to say that you cant like a non christian guy because that is something you cant help. but think about the qualities you want in a husband. is him loving the Lord one of those qualities?
2007-12-15 05:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by guitarchick252 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank your parents for their wisdom. There are Christian boys out there. When you become an adult and move out on your own, if you really don't care about religion you can date whomever you like. You parents just want you to end up with someone with similar values and beliefs.
2007-12-15 05:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you go off to college! Then date whoever you like! And if the guy is Non-Christian and you really get involved, expect fireworks when they first meet, but all will be ok once the initial meeting is completed.
Good Luck and Merry Christmas and Happy Hanukah!
2007-12-15 05:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lapband Man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As christian people and supposed to go godly things, tell them that our God is an Accepting God, and by them discriminating a person b/c they are a non-christian doesn't please the Lord. We are supposed to Accept people and lead them the right way not close the door on them. If they still don't approve i say do what you think is right. Your only 16 so you have to obey thy parents. Just pray on it then.
2007-12-15 05:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by Gmarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how frustrating it is.But since your a Christian wouldn't you rather wait for the man that God has for you instead of yielding to your flesh and end up with something else?I have to agree with the others.Look in your church.Pray about it.Trust God. And believe He'll send the perfect guy.That way you can skip all that heart ache and sadness that comes with being attached to the wrong one.
2007-12-15 05:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know ALL the guys at your school are non Christian? You'd be surprised who's saved and who's not. What your parents are saying to you is based on what the Bible says. Read this article and you'll understand a lot better.
http://www.epm.org/articles/purity_know.html
2007-12-15 05:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents mean well, but it seems odd that there are no xian guys in your school. Teen relationships are just testing and learning grounds for the 'real thing' later on though so don't worry too much...when you're an adult and on your own, you may date whomever you choose (no matter what their religion, race, ethnicity, national origin, shoe size, etc).
Hang in there...this is just the beginning. ☺
2007-12-15 05:35:22 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋