Our daughter is 6 months old. We do not plan to mislead or lie to her and tell her Santa Claus is real. It's ok with me if she wants to pretend that there is a Santa, Easter Bunny, Sponge Bob, etc. But why would i tell her lies and make her think a fat man in a red suit brings presents that her mother and i actually buy?
2007-12-15 05:23:13 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I never told any of my three kids santa was real...we tell them he is pretend, and something that is fun to pretend and they are not to tell any other kids that he is not real. So far there has been no issues except this year my 7 year old insisted Santa was real and so i told her fine...I won't buy you any presents this year, and we will let santa bring them to you. Immediately she changed her mind and said she was pretending. Personally I don't see the point in lying to your kids about something for years and then revealing it to them later. Its cruel, even worse if someone else reveals it to them. Sure it won't ruin their life, but it will make them believe their parents are liars...and no one likes feeling like an idiot, not even kids.
2007-12-15 05:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by punished_princess 4 · 2⤊ 5⤋
My children enjoyed the whole Santa thing (and still do), but as they've gotten close to the age of disillusionment, we've introduced the history of Sankt Nicholaus.
They understand that sometimes what comes "from Santa" is actually from someone else - such as the gifts we bought as a family for some underprivileged kids, and the stockings that we all help stuff (because Santa doesn't fill stockings for grownups).
If you want to tell all, why not just spill the beans on what she's getting for her birthday? Why bother with the "lie" of wrapping paper? Because the anticipation is a great big part of the joy of gift giving.
2007-12-15 08:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by DaisyCake 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Not telling them about Santa would be the lie. Santa IS real... he was a very real being in St. Nicholas. Tell the kids about St. Nicholas. :)
It's very unfortunate that people are so wanting to take away the magical innocence of children around Christmas time.
As long as they know that the true meaning of Christmas is the celebration of Christ's birth, then all is well. You can have it both ways. My kids, 8 1/2 and 5 1/2, believe in Santa. They know that he was a real being. :) They also know that Christmas is celebrating Jesus' birthday.
2007-12-15 06:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by AV 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's the whole magic in it. My son believes that Santa's real. The whole idea excites him to no end. Besides. If you do that to your daughter, that's one thing, but think about it this way. She's going to go to school one day and try to tell her friends that Santa's not real. And that's ruining the magic for them as well. I mean, I guess your heart is in the right place and I applaud ya'll for being up front with your daughter, but kids only stay kids for a little while. Let them be kids and have the imaginations that make childhood fun!
2007-12-15 07:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you need to be worrying about what to tell your daughter this year, she's a little young to understand. However for future.. it's exciting for kids to think there is a Santa Claus. It's fun. All children need a little magic in there lives. And all your daughters friends will believe in Santa, do you want her to be the only one sitting there saying.. 'well, actually it's all rubbish, he doesn't exist..' It won't make her the most popular girl in the class.
Besides, Santa Claus, or Saint Nicholas, was an actual person. He was a wealthy man who gave present once a year to the poor without expecting anything in return. Which also aligns with the gift of Jesus Christ. Why wouldn't we want to continue this tradition of giving unconditionally. I think it's a wonderful thing to teach our children!
2007-12-15 05:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
Your daughter is 6 months old....wait....you will eventually find the joy that only a child waiting for Santa on Christmas Eve can bring to the adults of a family.
My son (8 years old) is the epitome of joy for my husband and me...and the excitement and exuberance of Christmas and Santa he brings makes all the rush well worth it!
I know deep in my heart he truly doesn't buy into the whole Santa thing...but to make the day a little more magical...it's definitely worth it!
Wait a few years....you'll see!
2007-12-15 06:21:21 · answer #6 · answered by Nibbles 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I m her kid writing this why would you lie to us kids I tell my parents mom and dad that he is not real but they say he is real last year I looked at my presents I saw that the from part said santa but I saw on the other presents that it was the same hand writing I was mad I told my mom that I knew he was not real then I told her what I saw that I was sad to I cried so much! - Mara Marbry
2015-07-24 15:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So how do you explain the Easter Bunny to her, Sponge Bob, etc. What did your parents tell you while you were a child? You could explain the real meaning behind Santa to her...which is the act of giving. Most children come to their own conclusion about Santa as they get older.
2007-12-15 05:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by buffquads 1 · 3⤊ 3⤋
In our house, it was always rather a fairy tale thing, and my parents early on told us of the tradition, just as the tradition of the Easter Bunny, was Spring, and renewal of life.... so we learned the entire St. Nicholas thing.
I might add as well, that we never had any religious ideas foisted upon us, either... god was no sky daddy, and the Mary and Joseph and Jesus thing was as well, tradition..patterned after many a trinity, Osiris, Isis and Horus, to name but one. When we got older, our studies included comparative religions, and just exactly where do holy books come from? As part of the tradition we learned about the festival of Saturnalia, which is really what goes on during the winter solstice.
So religious figures and holidays to us were the celebrations of tradition, not of "faith based religions". My dad put it best when it came to the unscientific..."question everything". (Even question (politely, however) how you earned that grade if you think you got cheated by the teacher when they added up your points...) And my philosophy teacher introduced us all to Occam's Razor when it came to what is most logical (usually the most simple).
So, do not lie to your child ---- anyway, at 6 months you have many years for formulate idea.
2007-12-15 07:26:32 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
My family believes in Santa, the tooth fairy, and the Easter Bunny. When my children begin to question if Santa is real, I always tell them that he is real for those who believe. It is magical and wonderful and lots of fun - quite frankly the kids love it!
2007-12-15 06:02:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Believing in Santa was a wonderful magical experience for me and I have no regrets or bad feelings about my parents "lying" to me about it. You are a new parent so maybe you are just feeling protective of your daughter, just don't let it get in the way of enjoying her childhood. If you take everything so seriously you'll end up looking back and wishing you had just let go a little more.
If you want "credit" for what you are buying her, you could just pick out a couple of presents to be from "Santa" and the rest from you and your wife. Just a thought.
2007-12-15 05:32:16 · answer #11 · answered by Laura P 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋