I guess this is not a question, just asking for some support.... I posted a question about this a couple of months ago.... My almost 16 yr old female dog just died. She was ill, since last year, but she had managed to be fine. Now this morning she just didn't wake up anymore, after having had a bad episode of seizures last mon-tue and then having lost her ability to walk properly. She was still eating, evacuating, etc.... but we knew this was coming. I know I should be grateful for her not suffering and just dying peacefully -- I know this isn't the case in most cases. But of course I feel sad and my mom is devastated. She was her everything, her only companion. She didn't want me to go to her place as she doesn't want me to see our dog like that -- she wants me to remember her as she used to be when she was healthy. She's burying her in our garden.
I'm sorry for the vent, I know many of you have gone through this.. I just can't seem to accept it now or stop crying :(
2007-12-15 05:15:18 · 26 answers · asked by Lprod 6 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I'm so sorry. Our dogs are family and I've expierenced that kind of loss in the past. It's always hard to lose a loved pet, weather it's before their time or a natural death. I've expierenced both and it's always painful.
One thing that I have learned is that I like to write down all the things I love and remember about them so that I do not forget them.
A poem that has also helped me in the past is this:
THE RAINBOW BRIDGE POEM
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
Author unknown...
God bless! I'll say a prayer for you and your mom.
2007-12-15 05:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by Rachael . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The loss of a loved one is always hard I know you are probably not too comforted just knowing she died peacefully because you still feel the loss. Now is also the time your mother needs your help. She is also suffering. But remember everyone handles grief differently. Here is a poem I really like, I hope it helps. Maybe if you think your mother would like it you could print out a copy for her.
Rainbow Bridge
Just this side of Heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor;those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing: they each miss someone very special, someone who was left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; his eager body begins to quiver. Suddenly, he breaks from the group, flying over the green grass, faster and faster. You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into those trusting eyes, so long gone from your life, but never absent from your heart. Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together...
Author Unknown
2007-12-15 13:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by wherewhenwhatwhywho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as with the death of a dear friend or family member, our dear animal friends' deaths take a lot of time to heal. I lost my dog 2, almost 3 years ago and I still think about him almost every day. I still miss him and tear up when I think about him a lot. The first day after he died I just cried the whole day, I couldn't eat or sleep. But we had to put my dog down, so even though this hurts, be thankful that your dog died peacefully as you said. Even if euthanasia is the right thing to do for an animal, you still are left feeling responsible for their death, and that is a terrible feeling. Your pain can only heal with time.
<3
2007-12-15 13:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by Meg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you hon. I lost my old lady the winter of 05 and still miss her so much. I still say ladygirl would love this or that. Actually I still talk to her at times, forgetting she's not here. When I buried her in my side yard I got a special memorial plague that looks like a little headstone for the tip of her gravesite. You can get one from this sight www.harrietcarter.com. They're inexpensive and you can look at it and know she's happy and at peace. I felt the need to give her a marker just like what a person gets. I also know I'll order another one when the time comes for my old man cat to go. Hopefully he'll be around for a long time yet. He's very healthy and active and he's 13 yrs. old now.
2007-12-15 13:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweety I'm so sorry. My dog Mancha died about a year ago and I still miss her so much. We buried her in our garden too. I know it hurts so bad right now but it does get easier with time, not saying that you'll ever stop missing her but it will get better. Mancha was 12 when she passed and unfortunatly she did not have a peaceful passing. Just try to focus on all of the joy she gave your life.
2007-12-15 13:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ana Maria 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so sorry for ur loss.u gave ur dog a good 16 yrs and thank god for people like u who keep and love their pet. take time to grieve and when the time is right get another dog for company for ur mom.we had our little ole guy put down last july and have lost many others over the yrs and i still think about them and miss them. time will heal and u and ur mom will start to feel better.we just got another pup in oct and it sure is fun to watch him run about and play. there are so many who need good homes and i'm sure ur family is one of the finer homes for a new pet..take care and remember as u said we have all been there and we feel for u.
2007-12-15 13:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by john n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
=((((((
I have never had a pet die (Thank goodness!) It's a part of life though, and through all the tears and suffering you will eventually beable to move on. Your mom is right though, you should remember her as a healthy dog, because that is what she was. You took excellent care of her if she lived for 16 years. I'm sorry for your loss, be thankful for what you have now though, your mom.
2007-12-15 13:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by Emily 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all I am so sorry and I know how it feels. To make you feel better you could think of what worse could have happened and always remember that she is now watching over you and nothing live's forever. She has stopped suffering from pain and is now with the angels. When you have stopped crying, if you want you could get another dog, or if you are really sad you can wait a year or forever, but if you do get a dog you might forget about the tears and remember that you still have her in your heart, and remember of all the great times you have had together. Good Luck.
2007-12-15 13:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
im sorry...i really understand tho...i had to have my dog that i had for 11 years put to sleep in August...but she really is in a better place now and not suffering anymore...and u will always have her in your memory and heart...i know my Sweety will always be in mine! You'll prolly think about her about every day for a while...i still think of mine every day...and i took her collar and put it on my bed post and i dont allow any of the other dogs to wear it...i went to the animal shelter and looked at the puppies and other dogs and it actually helped me! and not long after i got a puppy (mainly b/c my other dog was grieving really bad) but i wish you luck and i am very sorry!
2007-12-15 13:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeze, that is horrible. We lost our 16 yr.old dog also 2 months ago. It's a horrible thing to go thru. But just remember, your dog will always be with you in spirit. You gave it a wonderful life if it lived to be 16yrs. old. And remember, all of us are going to be reunited with all our pets someday. Only time will heal you and your Mom's hurt. Bless you.
2007-12-15 13:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by Veritas 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋