If you know what I mean?
Was it an automatic feeling, or did you consciously decide?
Like suppose I have a great guy friend who has always loved me, but although I like him, and respect him and he is a good friend, I never reciprocated. Now, many people say I should give him a chance.
This is what prompted my question: Do you just *know* or ..... is it a conscious decision. Coz, if I want, I can surely just consciously decide right now, that my friend is the one for me. But this wasn't an *automatic* thought & feeling - if you know what I mean? It was a conscious decision.
2007-12-15 05:08:12 · 10 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if you don't have feelings for this guy - don't waste your time or his .... they might develop in the future - they might
I knew within the first 2 months of dating.....others find out the first day - but regardless...there is a FEELING...and if you dont have it...don't do it
2007-12-15 05:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
We both knew. It just comes - and you recognize it right away, that the chemistry is right. Other guys can be the ones you like, that fit into a particular shopping list you like, but TRULY, without the spark, it won't be right. You'd be settling.
I had good friends who became boyfriends, and you know, it just wasn't the same. You can't force feelings. There is just a specialness which comes with the one you want to marry and spend your life with. Sometimes the guys who are good friends who turn into boyfriends are too much like a "girlfriend" or brother, if you know what I mean. I think it's way better to have a man that you are attracted to, AND become best friends with. I think that's the marriage that will last.
In your case, if your male friend had interested you in THAT way, you already would have been 'into him'.
These feelings also come with maturity - I married at 28, and guys I thought of marrying at 19 and 24 were very UNLIKE the wonderful man I ended up marrying!
2007-12-16 06:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first husband I made him the right one and was never truly happy in my marriage. I had feelings for someone else, but chose security over love. After 17 years of never really knowing any happiness I finally found the courage to leave. Three years later without even expecting it, I met my soulmate and the true love of my life. I knew it was love and changed my lifestyle because of it. We were in a long distance relationship, but swore fidelity to one another. We have been married for 2 months now and I know this is the man for me. Don't marry if it isn't for true love because you will never truly be happy and in the end one of you will suffer and bear the pain.
2007-12-15 13:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can "make" someone be the right one and have it work long term. Problems are much easier to solve when you have that base of love and sense of being one. There's no harm in giving your friend a try on a romantic level, but be sure the romance is there before you move on to marriage. Don't marry him just because he's available and doesn't gross you out.
2007-12-15 15:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it's right, you know it. If you talk yourself into being with
your friend, you will eventually meet the right guy, then everyone gets hurt. I had 2 great guy friends that told me they had feelings for me, and I had great times with them both but
it wasn't love. So I told them I couldn't date them, they moved
on and married other girls, I met my soulmate and married
him. My husband's brother married a friend of his, tried to
be happy for 10 years and wasn't, so got divorced. Don't
marry someone you don't love.
2007-12-15 15:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by doodlebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know. From the first time I saw my husband, I knew he's special. Within 6 weeks of dating, I wanted to spend my life with him. 9 years later, we're still happily together, raising a family.
2007-12-15 16:49:56 · answer #6 · answered by curious gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say. I knew we were a good couple and would be happy together, but of course, I could have decided not to go for it.
2007-12-15 13:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew it the moment I met him. I know that sounds trite, but it's the God's honest truth. I knew I never wanted to be without him from the moment we met, and I had never had that feeling before!
2007-12-15 13:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I knew when we met she was the one for me proposed six months of dating and married 10months later.
2007-12-15 13:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I "made" him the right one.
2007-12-15 13:17:14 · answer #10 · answered by hope 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋