Whats the point in waiting to lose your virginity?

Question

Im a young virgin..i remain one because its a big deal to my mother and I dont like her seeing disapointed or lying to her..but it practically means nothing to me besides bragging rights. It means nothing to me anymore..Everything in this life created by people means nothing to me..The idea of virginity came from an opinion of another person and now its eternally widespread. It just makes me depressed because Im following the idea of another person instead of my own because I dont want to betray anyone.. Im in a dilema..caught between 2 conflicts..betraying my mother and betraying myself.

Whats the point of keeping your viriginity just so you can lose it to someone who your probably not going to feel the same about forever? It has to go sometime so why hold on to it?Whats the point in that really? Honestly i really want to know
Why hold on to your virginity?

CONTRACEPTIVES PEOPLE lol!

Answer 1

Your virginity is meaningless to you because you're young and inexperienced.

Think about it. You've been alive less than 20 years, and you've been thinking about sex for only a few years. You're an amateur, and you still haven't had the experience. So on what can you base any decision?

It would be like saying you know how to build a house, but you've only "thought" about hammers.

Your mother, on the other hand, has decades of experience to look back on, and if you gave her a chance, she'd likely talk to you about it and you'd know more.

Answer 2

I just don't see the point in sleeping around with every person I find attractive. I guess if you want to get some incurable disease or accidentally get pregnant while you're young and spend the rest of your life trying to scrape together enough money to feed all of your illegitimate children then thats fine with me. Or better yet, you can do what some of my relatives do and either put your kids up for adoption, have an abortion, or have your parents raise them. I've known quite a lot of people who've had sex while they were young and ultimately really regretted it. If you're still living with your parents, or are under 18, then you should respect their wishes and wait. I would hope that you respect your mother and yourself enough to wait. You might not think that your mother is very smart, but she has your best interests at heart. Just because you're physically developed, doesn't mean you're emotionally or mentally developed. When I was a teenager, I didn't think my parents knew anything. When you become an adult, you often find that your parents are wiser than you realized. Your mother has been around a lot longer than you have, you should take her advise...remember that she had to make the same choices about her virginity when she was your age.

Answer 3

You said "Whats the point of keeping your viriginity just so you can lose it to someone who your probably not going to feel the same about forever?" What are you willing to think of YOURSELF forever? And I'm not preaching or judging, I'm serious. In holding on to your virginity you are holding on to yourself. YOU will decide when SEX is what you want to start having. Waiting for the spouse of all eternity may not be possible or desirable. But tossing your virginity into the fire "just because" seems like an insult to your right to make a decision that will be BY you, FOR you and FROM you. And even if you don't spend your life with the receiver of your virginity (as society prescribes), wouldn't that first sexual experience be more pleasurable if you decided to bring sex into your life experience rather than throw your virginity out of it?

Answer 4

Whether you believe it is a commandment or not, there is a point to waiting until your wedding night. If you are just waiting until you fall in love, chances are, you won't marry that person, so what is the point?! But...when you marry someone, one that day you and she will covenant before God to be true to each other only. And when you come together that night, you truly are one. Both emotionally and physically. It is hard to understand right now, but you will regret losing it before your married. No matter what other people say...deep down they regret not waiting. And in your heart, you know waiting is the right thing to do.




I noticed you added a sentence about birth control. Atleast 80% of families have an "ooops baby." I do, my sisiter has 3, brother 1, sister 2, sister in law 1, BF 1. Get the picture? Unless you have your tubes tied (male or female) there is this thing called...ACCIDENTS. And they happen everyday.

Answer 5

This is something that only you can decide but here are my thought on the matter.

Virginity is something you can only loss once, and I personally think that it should be to the person who you are going to spend the rest of your life (and eternity) - it a very precious thing to give to someone, and something of such value should only be given after careful consideration.

Also while you say that there are contraceptives, none of them offer guarantee 100% of preventing prgancy. Also you have be careful of STD's (which are on the rise in young people these days).

Answer 6

You do make a good point - I really admire you for wanting to honor your mother. You are putting alot of thought into this which is really important. May I suggest a book to you that I recently read with my teen daughter:
"Technical Virgin" by Haley Di Marco.
She addresses all of the points you have just brought up.
Your virginity or even being sexually active without "sex" is something you cannot get back esp. if you do it flippantly. Sex has been reduced to something that just feels good and without love or committment as people view that as old-fashioned. That is the problem with the 'Everything is Disposable' mentality...(i.e. your virginity, your b/f, your husband, your marriage.)
You are in the Religion and Spirituality session - so I am guessing you come from maybe a Christian home? If that's true - then you know why God has set his righteous standard for our good and He wants us to do all we can to live by it.

Answer 7

Hold onto it until you're really in love (when you're 16, its unlikely to be love so don't be stupid) and when you can take care of yourself (meaning when you are no longer being taken care of by your parents, paying your own rent, and your own bills). In other words, hold onto it until you're an adult and aren't in danger of getting pregnant because when you're young you're still irresponsible and likely to forget (or dismiss) the need for contraceptives.

When you're an adult, then do what you want, just don't sleep with everyone all the time because thats how aids gets spread. Make sure its someone you love.

Answer 8

I don't know what the point is, but your right usually you end up losing it to someone who doesn't matter. Plus the bonus is you get practice for the person that will actually matter.

Answer 9

Besides preventing yourself from becoming a teenage parent???

Let's see: AIDS, Herpes, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, genital warts...etc...

If you want to have sex just to experience it...your first time is going to be painful...unless the guy has a little winkie or he experienced enough to take his time...

Try communicating to your mother that you feel mature enough not to become a statistic in the unwed mother category...and you don't want to wait until you're married...which may never happen anyway...and you want to experience it at least once...instead of wondering what all the fuss is about...keep in mind no contraceptive is 100% protection against unwanted pregnancy...

Answer 10

You can only betray yourself. No one else has the right to tell you how to live your life. As far as virginity is concerned. Only reason to hold on to it is if you find someone special. If you aren't interested in that then there is no point.