Should i be upset my fiance left her engagement ring at my parents house when she left last night?

Question

my fiance took her engagement ring off to go to sleep and when we left to take her home last night she left it in my bedroom and i would like to know if i should be upset

Answer 1

That's a pretty insecure thing to be upset about. She's not used to wearing it and simply forgot. It isn't all about you. Although, why she takes it off to go to sleep, I don't understand (I never take mine off unless I'm kneading bread dough or making meatloaf with my hands). If you're upset about this, you're in for a tough marriage, and so is she. She's human, for Pete's sake. Lighten up and get some self-confidence.

Answer 2

If she is new to wearing an engagement ring, you just need to chill a bit. Don't get yourself worked up over nothing. It's not a sign that you shouldn't marry her or that she doesn't want to marry you or something. Honest mistake.

Happened to me a couple of times as well. You see, if I go to sleep with something on or near me that I am not used to, I take it and THROW it, HARD, across the room in my sleep. Hehe. I remember the first night I had to wear a retainer so many years ago. I took it out, threw it across my room, it hit a wall and broke. Not cool. Stuffed animals, new pillows, new blankets, new jewelry, anything that is not normally there and it gets violently thrown. SOOOO, I made sure to take off my engagement ring for the first two weeks or so of the engagement while I slept. Last thing I wanted to do was throw it and lose it or break it! But, regardless of being WAY excited of the engagement, I left it laying on the table beside my bed a couple times. Even left the house without it. I felt so naked when I did that, lol, and I felt bad, but it was by no means on purpose. My fiance laughed with me and told me how silly I was, gave me a kiss, and went back to my house to get it for me. In no way did he take it as anything more than it was.

So . . . chill. It's all good.

And now, go give your fiance a nice big hug and kiss! =)

Answer 3

In my opinion, if you have to ask if you SHOULD be upset about something, you usually shouldn't. I mean, ARE you upset about it? If you aren't, and we said "yes you should be upset", would you suddenly turn and be upset because we told you to???

I don't think you should. A lot of people remove rings before going to bed. And it's understandable that someone could leave it behind when they're trying to get ready and out the door.

If anything, mention in a joking kind of way that you hope she doesn't do that all through your marriage -- it'll cost you a fortune in gas money or insured shipping. :-)

But if you aren't upset, don't try to conjure up some anger over this. It just shows that you realize it's not something to be angry about, and while there are some hard-and-fast rules on some things that SHOULD make you angry, anytime you can let something go and be understanding, that will only help in marriage.

Answer 4

What do you mean "should you be upset?" Either you are or you aren't. Does she know it's missing yet?

You could always tell her that you haven't seen it ... but you're sure it will turn up then get a box of chocolates and replace one of the pieces of candy with the ring and seal it back up. So it's like a joke but shows her what it would feel like if she really did lose it as a reminder to be more careful.

Or maybe just give it back to her and very seriously say I wasn't sure if I should be upset about this or not but I want you to know that once we're married... I will never take my ring off.

Or it can be water off a ducks back! Life's too short to get pissy about the small stuff. If it's not going to matter in 10 years I always let it go. The question here is does this indicate something that will matter later or not.

Answer 5

Why? What good would it do to be upset?

I mean I understand if you ARE upset, and if I were her I'd feel really really bad forgetting to put it back on.

Then again, I sleep with my engagement ring on and only take it off for the shower or if I'm doing yardwork.

Answer 6

Maybe. I've both forgotten and "forgotten" to put my ring on. I've really forgotten several times, when I've taken it off for showers, baking, cleaning etc. I've also "forgotten" when I was having doubts about the relationship. You should look at the other circumstances. If your fiance also frequently loses her keys, sunglasses, purse, earrings, etc, then I wouldn't worry. Or, if she's not normally a forgetful person, but forgetting her ring has made her very upset, it sounds like an honest mistake. If you have suspicions that this was intentional, and there are other reasons why, it's OK to talk to her about it.

Answer 7

I would be a little upset. Expensive rings should not be left lying about. Is it insured? I hope it is. My SIL lost her engagement ring 2 weeks before the wedding. Big money down the tube.

Answer 8

Why would you allow a bunch of strangers to dictate how you should feel towards your finace? Think for yourself. If you're upset, you're upset. If you aren't, don't pretend you are just cause you think you should be.

She left it there by accident. Can't we allow those we love some room to make innocent mistakes? I know you'd appreciate the pass if you made a totally innocent mistake.

Answer 9

Oh please, get over it. Either you're a pretty insecure guy and you are worried there is a hidden meaning or you have a control complex and want to treat her like she is a child that can be responsible for expensive things. Either way. Sure, I might be bit irriated, but in a "roll your eyes" kind of way, not in a "I need to ask advice" kind of way.

My husband left his wallet home yesterday - maybe I can't trust him. My son left his lunch box home - is he telling me he doesn't like my lunches???

People are tired, they have routines that get disrupted, they forget things. You are putting way too much emotion and meaning into a piece of jewelry.

The commitment is in her heart and in her actions, not in her ring (I haven't worn mine in a couple of years because the diamond scratched my kids bottom when I change diapers). And she is either a responsible person or not.

Answer 10

I wouldnt be upset she probably just isnt used to wearing it. If you want to teach her a lesson and make sure she never forgets it again, just keep it for a while and say I have no idea where it is. Then have it magically turn up in a couple of days, she will never ever ever lose it again! Trust me! Good luck!