i am SO hurt... my ex-bf and i were together for 2 months... i really let me guard down and was seriously falling in love w/ him... he broke up w/ me after an amazing w/e together... he said he was neglecting his schoolwork b/c he is wanting to spend all his time w/ me... i've tried leaving him alone for a few days and i tried texting and calling A LOT which i know is not good... i am just so upset and miss him SO much! i don't understand how he can just be fine w/ ignoring me.... is he not missing me too? he told me he was falling in love w/ me... even last time i saw him we were cuddling while asleep @ night and he would kiss the top of my head all through the night while he was sleeping... i don't answer my phone when he calls just a week ago b/c i was sleeping and he panicked and called and texted like every 5-10 until i called him back... how do you go from that to ignoring a person like they never existed??? i miss him and know i have no choice but to let it go... but how?
2007-12-15 02:31:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
(i am NOT trying to contact him anymore!) if any move will be made... it will have to be his... that's for sure.
***i know he was scared of his feelings for me b/c he told me a few times and he hadn't had a gf in over 2 years and he had a BIG guard up*** that is why i think he ended things.
do you think he will miss me and try to call or text once left alone a while and he sees i am not calling anymore???
2007-12-15 02:34:16 · update #1
maybe if you love him you will leave him alone for a while
he will come back if he loves you
i know its hard im going through the same thing.
but just try to focus on other things :]
2007-12-15 02:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by Chelsea W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows how you feel - that you like him a lot and was falling in love with him. There is no need to call him anymore. If this is the guy for you, he will seek you out. Don't put you life on hold waiting for him to come back. What you had may have been real but it may have been too much for him, I don't know. It hurts when love is not returned. For whatever the reason that he pulled out of the relationship, he has a right to those reasons. You will know when a relationship is right when two people feel the same way at the same time.
Letting go is hard. The best thing for you to do is not pretend that it didn't happen but to see what you have learned and can take away from this experience. Then, immerse yourself in things that make you happen. Only time can heal this emotional wound. There really isn't a quick fix. It is but that you keep yourself occupied with things that don't remind you of him so that you are not constantly thinking about him.
2007-12-15 02:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the two of you went too fast. Two months is not very long; at that point it's all about hormones and lust. And after a weekend together he probably had second thoughts about what he was doing and backed way off! Let him have all the time he needs and don't contact him. You should both be scared of going so fast. If it was meant to be, he will be back but if he does return, TAKE IT SLOW!!! The hotter the relationship in the early stages, the faster it burns out. Remember this in the future!!
2007-12-15 02:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok lets see if i can help you. . .first off calm down your over thinking whats really going on here. he broke up with you to focus more on his schoolwork and unless you found out otherwise or he tells you something different then thats what it is. secondly, just cuz he has the will power to ignore your texts/calls dont mean he dont miss you he trying to stay focus and personally i think you should respect that and back off. when he ready to come back even if he decide to then he will contact you. dont think that the time you guys spent together didnt mean anything, he just want to get back on track with school
2007-12-15 02:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by Cutie Pie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend is going through the same thing at the moment! you just have to take every day as it comes! you will be sad for a while but you will get over him! the best thing to do is to spend a lot of time with you mates especially girls. have a few sleep overs go out and have fun it will help you forget about him for a while and it will help you get over him in the end but don't just get with another boy thinking that Will help because it doesn't t makes it worse believe me! i hope you feel better soon! just take each day as a new day and everyday it will get easier!
2007-12-15 02:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by shortie! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie-
"too much schoolwork" is just an excuse. I think you need to read the book "hes just not that into you"
You clearly gave your all hear.. and he still didnt want you. Now.. honestly.. your making yoruself look pathetic by keeping trying to contact after he did this.
The ball is in HIS court.. he ended this... you shouldnt still be trying. I know its hard... but... you need to go hang out with friends or try a new hobby or something.. but in NO WAY should you keep trying to contact this dude.
Again- he just isnt as into you as you are him.. if anything will get him back its space... place the phone down.. back away from the phone.. do not do it.. or you will look stupid.
also- "im scared of my feelings i have for you"- big fat excuse as well. As you probably know.. when you really love/liek someone.. none of those excuses will keep you from trying to work it out with them.
It sucks to love someone who doesnt feel it back.. but it happens to all of us... girls tend to overanalyze stuff WAYYY to much when its really pretty simple. He doesnt want to be with you. Your not worth it to him. harsh.. but true.
2007-12-15 02:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say you should try to call him and sort out all the misunderstandings.if you want his attention then tell him straight and girl, you should know that it is really difficult to concentrate on studies ( or should I say everything ) when you are in love coz you think abt your lover all the time.
when I read your question, I thought your guy is in love with you and really cares for you but he cares for himself too and wants his grades to be good.
he isnt ignoring for a wrong reason but he wants to study now. be patient, tell him to meet you once in a week so that you too dont miss him so much.
if he isnt answering your phone then go straight to his house and have a straight talk to him.
everything will be fine, just be mature and handle it patiently.
good luck :)
2007-12-15 02:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by krishna 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋