suffering from others happiness?

Question

i dont want any stupid comments i cant bare them. I know it seems selfish so please i dont want comments on its selfish or whatever. But i suffer from other peoples including family and friends happiness, i dont know why, i dont want to but i just do. Its hard to deal with it aswel. Why does this happen Does anyone else feel the same or know why this happens?

its not like i mean for it to happen. i.e if i go to a bar and see everyone happy i feel as if i dont feel happy and there is no space for me to feel happy. its not a good feeling. it does not happen to close friends who have hurt me but a good example is ex girlfriends.....if im having a boring saturday and they are going out to a party, it will make me paranoid and make my saturday even worser and i just suffer from it

Answer 1

I know what you are talking about. During a state of deep depression your mind zeros in on the contrast between how you perceive yourself and what you perceive in the world around you. There is emotional pain experienced when hearing others laugh. It feels offensive. It may cause you to feel alienated from both the people and the mood.
You may have watched the old movie of Pollyana. She came into a place where people were grouchy and held grudges. Pollyana was called "all sunshine and happiness", and it was offensive to the sour people in their community.

You do not have to remain in the sad place where you are today. There is treatment. There is hope. Do see your Dr. and describe what you are feeling and why. You can come out of the suffering place you are in and come back into contact with love and life and joy and happiness. It takes time and it takes work. I'm standing here today to tell you that I WAS where you are a number of years ago. There is hope.

Answer 2

Do you think it is because you are not happy and you wish that you were so instead of seeing people happy, you see them as something that you want and wish that you had too?