my boyfriend suffers from serious clinical depression. I love him more than anything in this world and I've been supportive and patient with him. we've been dating a year and a half. After 9 months of dating he "pushed me away" for 2 months. When he came back he aplogized said how dumb he was and said that when he gets depressed he isolates himself and pushes people he cares about away.
Well I took him back after he promised to never do that again. He acted amazing for about 3 months then he pushed me away again.
He said he loved me and still wanted to be with me when I asked but he keep on acting like this so I asked him again about a week later. he then said he "guessed" he wouldnt to be with me. When I told him that wasnt very convincing he said he needed wanted to break up because he needed time and was tired. I asked if he still loved me and he said "will it make it any easier if I say no?"
Can someone please help me understand his actions? Do you think he loves me?
2007-12-15 00:04:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he does love you, but he doesn't want you get hurt when he pushes you away. I have depression for a month now and I always push my friends away and I'm usually not like this, but he needs you and wants to be there for you.
-HeartBrokenForever *(Diane N)*
2007-12-15 00:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think first of all he needs to make a effort to get some help, go to the doctor get some help, maybe counsleing or medications. I don't think it is very fair of him to just do nothing. But if that is what he wants to do, then I would stay away from him. If you tell him "if you do this again, I won't take you back" and then take him back after he does it again, that isn't going to make you look good. It is important that you follow trough with what you say otherwise he will keep doing that and not take you seriously. He also sounds a bit verbally abusive to me as well. You should look that up and see if that is what you think. I am sure he loves you. But it has been almost 2 years now, what is he doing to make this better? If he is not getting help or trying then eventually you will be depressed and lose yourself in this whole thing.
2007-12-15 08:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly dont know. but honestly, the way he is acting is not good. Do you see these serious problems??? This is just when yal are DATING. Think about marraige? Think about KIDS??? can you honestly deal with this.....leaving if you have kids and a job and him wanting to walk back in??? I will tell you right now this will lead to some serious stuff. I tihnk yall should go for a SERIOUS LONG break. You need to sit him down (when he is "sane") and tell him that your love for him is INDESCRIBABLE but you cant keep doing this. IT IS HURTING you and tearing you apart. Tell him that his actions of depression are not only hurting him but hurting you too. And then no matter what his answer is (THIS IS REALLY HARD but you have to) tell him that you need somespace and it seems liek he does to. And i mean like 6 months to 8 months space. It has to be unbarably long so that he FINALLY realizes that he needs to get his act together if he really wants to be with you, because i can tell you right now hun he thinks that it is 'okay' to keep walking in and out of your life knowing you will accept him back. Its hard but you have to do it. YOU have to for once put hmi aside and think about YOURSELF and YOUR life and future.
Tips on Depression:
*Have a busy scheduale to keep mind off things that lead to feeling depressed
* alot of sex helps because it boost excitement and energy
*MANY fun activities involving alot of people the person cares about
* help him out with every little thing possible because thats one less thing he has to worry about doing and getting stressed over.
well goodluck and i hope everything goes well.
and remember you MUST do this. You and his relationship is now in your hands on making a decision. And you have to think about you and your future adn family as well.
2007-12-15 08:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by twentyalready?! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he still does. but he doesnt want to keep hurting u with his depression. I have battled depresssion and I have pushed friends away for months. I would stop talking to them and avoid them when ever I got the chance.
2007-12-15 08:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how clinically depressed your bf is but I would suggest you do research on his condition so you can better understand it. He loves you but people with depression get days when the whole world feels like its closing in on them.
2007-12-15 08:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he does. Depression is a difficult thing to go through and it can mess with his emotions. Maybe you should get him some medication.
2007-12-15 08:10:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE HE DOES!!! remembr he has depression, so u just have to deal with it wen he pushes u away...or not take it personally...
2007-12-15 08:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by e1ement739 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋